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florence


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發表於 04-8-15 10:06 |只看該作者

I'm very sad

I was shocked in this morning when I saw my maid's resignation letter on the table. She wrote a resignation letter to me informing me her last date and another letter explaining her reason of resignation and apologies to me. My hubby and I are quite unhappy as she performs pretty well on her duty and my little princess loves her very much.

She has just come to our home for 5 months and we treat her very good as a family member. I even haven't blamed / scolded her within these 5 months. She told me in the letter that she has no courage to pass me her resignation letter in person as she feels very sorry about that and she knows that we treat her so good but for her healthy problem (she has no mensuration since she arrived HK and the situation hasn't improved yet after she consulted the doctor), she wishes to go back to Philippines to get second opinion from the doctor.
But I guess the main reason is that she misses her son too much...
:-( :-( :-(
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Jsmami


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發表於 04-8-15 15:33 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

florence,
At least your maid resigned to you. Mine has been working for me for 3 years since my son was born. We treated her very well, so well I bet we probably were one of the few good employers she could find in town. We treated her as our family. She & I talked like friends. My son loved her very much too. I entertained every request of hers, when she wanted to go home (3 times in 3 years), how long she took her vacation (usually 4 weeks or more). We bought her many gifts and we respected her so well if my son was impolite, I always asked him to apologize. I video taped programs she liked to watch if she had to pamper my son to sleep........ Suddenly she told me in the end of June that her father died of heart attack & she asked to go home for a few days. I let her go without any doubt. But when she was supposed to come home, she didn't show up. Then was the first time my husband & I opened the door of her room .... and found she has packed & gone for good. She didn't even say goodbye..... but I am expecting another baby in just 2 months! If she felt anything unhappy, she could let us know. What on earth have I done that she didn't even give me one month notice to find another helper????? I had spotting during 2 different periods & she knew it.... I was supposed to take much rest but she just dumped us!!!! I cried over her departure so many times. My husband & I don't know how to deal with maids anymore. Shall we treat them like master & servants like most of our friends? No trust, no friendship, even no respect.

By the way, I found out from other maids in my building that her father didn't die, it was her brother who got killed - which I might not let her go home. I wish she could find another employer better than me.
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florence


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發表於 04-8-16 10:18 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

hi Jsmami

0甘你慘d喎 ~~~~~

"Shall we treat them like master & servants like most of our friends? No trust, no friendship, even no respect. " ---- 我唔同意, 因為0甘樣自己都唔覺得開心...

尋晚同我個maid傾左一輪, 佢要走其實係因為佢個3歲既仔無人照顧, 原本佢有個auntie照顧緊佢個仔的, 不過佢呢個auntie早在一個月前亦黎左香港打工, 甘佢個仔唯有俾左另一個auntie湊, 可惜既係另外呢個auntie成日問佢攞錢, 否則就唔幫佢湊, then佢既hubby就叫佢不如返菲律賓lor....

我而家唯有等佢refer佢d朋友俾我, 因為我唔敢係agency度請, 唉 ! 好鬼煩, 又要返工, 又要搵新工人 (仲要好急), 個女就黎又返K1 (仲要搭校車, 仲要頭2星期係未有校車接送), 我都唔知掂安排......頭都大埋 !!
:cry: :cry:
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淑筠媽咪


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發表於 04-8-16 11:46 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

其實我同妳地一樣,工人初初請工人既時候都對佢地好好.見佢地初黎香港乜都冇,有好多時見佢有需要都會買比佢.又好多時唔使佢煮飯,帶佢出去食.過年又封大利時比佢,連佢個仔女都比埋.佢生日又會買生日蛋糕同買禮物比佢地.我地食乜又分比佢食,不論平貴.
初初佢地做後得幾好.但到最後,佢地個個都做得唔好,博炒.經過多次失望之後,我已經唔會當個工人係朋友咁.工人即係工人.冇寄望就冇失望.

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小昕子


洋房

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發表於 04-8-16 12:24 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

Florence,
你可同工人商量, 要求佢留至另一工人來才走囉! 唯有係噤!?
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sheryl


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發表於 04-8-16 16:23 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

florence,
sorry to hear about that!!
I think there is another story behind. However, the only thing you can do is asking her to stay until your new maid come. (Maybe ++$$)
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florence


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發表於 04-8-16 16:36 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

Hi Sheryl,

可能真係有第二個原因.......不過都算啦, 我地都唔想諗佢既背後原因, 因為佢真係做得幾好, 尢其係個女身上我地可以見得到佢係有比心機去湊我個女的 (維維又重左好多了, 而家有成36-37磅了).....

好似尋晚, 我同個女唱歌既時候, 佢無啦啦唱左首 "Incy Wincy Spider"俾我同埋我老公聽, 嘩 ! 唱得真係幾好喎, 之後我問佢邊個教你唱架 (因為我平時都唔同佢睇mother goose既), 佢答我: 姐姐教我架lor.....; 而且我個女既英文老師都讚維維係呢幾個月既英文進步左好多, 因為佢同姐姐既溝通只用英文.....

有呀, 我尋日已經同佢講左希望佢可以留到我有新工人黎佢先走, 佢都口頭同意, 不過到時唔知會唔會反口 (我無同佢提過++錢呢樣野).....

而且我都有叫佢同埋佢家姐refer一d同佢same level既好朋友俾我......anyway, 祝我好運啦 ~~~
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faifai125


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發表於 04-8-16 18:02 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

淑筠媽咪 寫道:
其實我同妳地一樣,工人初初請工人既時候都對佢地好好.見佢地初黎香港乜都冇,有好多時見佢有需要都會買比佢.又好多時唔使佢煮飯,帶佢出去食.過年又封大利時比佢,連佢個仔女都比埋.佢生日又會買生日蛋糕同買禮物比佢地.我地食乜又分比佢食,不論平貴.
初初佢地做後得幾好.但到最後,佢地個個都做得唔好,博炒.經過多次失望之後,我已經唔會當個工人係朋友咁.工人即係工人.冇寄望就冇失望.

From my experience, I'm totally agree ...
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winstenma


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發表於 04-8-17 10:21 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

faifai125 & 淑筠媽咪

我請第一個工時同妳既經驗都係一樣, 真的可以講一句係"養唔熟", 可能我對佢太好, 佢不怕我, 重閙返我"最衰都係妳..等", 我一唔係屋企, 佢就成日講電話, 講明有緊要事先好用電話, 但佢都唔理, 兩年約完時想換工人, 個奶奶話個b跟佢, 叫我唔好換, 就係咁, 比佢'食"著, 到第四年, 佢知道我唔同佢續約, 就成日黑口黑面, 叫佢洗野, 佢話洗唔到, 就唔洗, 總之激到妳死, 所以以後我請工人, 主僕一定分得好淸.
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naughtyboy


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發表於 04-8-17 11:45 |只看該作者

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Don't be sad ! Actually I write many times in BK treat your maid as your staff or one of your colleague that is RESPECT is important but no need more ! Chinese need to learn from expatriate. Remember Philipino maid is not the same as Chinese Traditional Maid (""Ma Tse""). Even you pay more money she will not stay !! Love the baby is their duties. Remember we must take care our kids they only a assistant !!!!!
I always say the agent love the character of the Philipino Maid because keep on changing and gain more agency fee !!!!
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nicolemummy


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發表於 04-8-17 11:50 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

JSMAMI,

她突然走了是不對. 但不要因為她沒有為你設想要難過.

是的, 你是很需要她. 可是, 或許她的家人因她的BROTHER離去(呢個信住先好了, 不要信十足)更需要她呢? 一個賓賓唔要賺錢唔要你俾機票錢自己走左去一定有原因. 若是自問對她不薄, 那麼, 有更大的理由她非走不可. 她見你的情形一定會留她,她才有這樣的決定.

若是這樣, 你也可以嘗試為她設想"非走不可", 這樣就不會太FEEL BAD.

還記得我那極品賓賓, 為了愛情走左去...
津小生及非牟利幼稚園園生的窮媽媽! ;)
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CuteMom


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發表於 04-8-17 12:36 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

All moms,

I have similar experience also. My maid just renewed contract in feb-04 and in mid-Jul, she gave me an resignation letter saying the she could not communicate with my mom-in-law and need to resign. At that moment, I was shocked and sad as she had talking about resignation before, about her monetary problem. But we could help her and persuade her to stay. I'm now having a second baby and the delivery date will be in Jan-05 (better than Jsmami's situation) and she suddenly resigned again, I was really sad. How come she don't miss my baby (now 2 year and 4 months already). But we finally let her go as I think if I can keep her this time, she will resign again in the future.

She finally left last Friday and these days I always cry when I see my baby miss her very much and always ask me where is "Tse Tse". Why she don't miss me?

Any mom can tell me how long will these situation last? I don't want to cry always as I know it will not be good for my little baby. But I'm really sad about that.
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SK1


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發表於 04-8-17 12:57 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

CuteMom
I think your situation won't last too long. Your baby is still small and he will forget your maid within one week. This week, you play more with the baby and bright him going out often. I am sure your baby will stick on you and doesn't need maid anymore. For my experience, my daughter didn't miss my maids when I fire them. For the first week, sometimes my daughter will ask me where the maid is. After one week, she forgot her. After one year, she is totally forgot them even when she saw their photos.

nicolemummy
How is your current maid? Is she is doing well?
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florence


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發表於 04-8-17 14:33 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

SK1 寫道:
For my experience, my daughter didn't miss my maids when I fire them.


我個女就唔係喇, 上一個印印返左家鄉4個月, 我個女就成日無啦啦問我sumi(舊工人個名)幾時返黎, 仲成日話好掛住佢, 又話要ride bicycle去indonesia搵sumi.; 佢仲同我講sumi姐姐好錫佢......唉 ! 佢每次講都會講到扁晒咀的 ~~~

今次呢個走左之後, 我諗我個女又要掛住多一個人了, 因為佢兩個好friend, 我個女好快就肯跟佢, 連訓覺都肯 , 有野食又會叫我留番d俾rachelle (而家個工人); 有幾次去完睇醫生, 一返屋企就去攬住姐姐咋嬌; 有一次我老公仲見到佢兩個一齊挨住個window係度傾左好耐"計"; 佢而家成日都同姐姐講: don't go to Philippine, u stay here ~~~~~ :cry:
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nicolemummy


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發表於 04-8-17 14:34 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

SK1,

我位印印做得都幾好. 只不過還哂agency d 債後心散, 唔想賺ot, 只想行街買野. 算啦, 佢做野ok, bb又跟佢, 佢又教bb, 我唔可以嫌三嫌四架喇
津小生及非牟利幼稚園園生的窮媽媽! ;)
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SK1


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發表於 04-8-17 17:03 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

nicolemummy
我個印印都okay啦.係就係有時蠢D.但總好過以前個太精.而家個工人應該唔會攪婚外情掛.有時我同佢講,唔可以有手提電話.到而家佢做左九個月都未開.希望佢唔好咁快開啦. :mrgreen:
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Abbie_mimi


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發表於 04-8-18 01:29 |只看該作者

Re: I'm very sad

SK1 寫道:
nicolemummy
我個印印都okay啦.係就係有時蠢D.但總好過以前個太精.而家個工人應該唔會攪婚外情掛.有時我同佢講,唔可以有手提電話.到而家佢做左九個月都未開.希望佢唔好咁快開啦. :mrgreen:


My husband and I told the maid not to buy mobile phone. But she bought it and hide it without letting us know. Don't trust them all. A boss-staff relationship is ok. Although she loves my bb very much, I found her telling lies (let bb watch TV but said no to me). Up to this moment, she's still ok but performance is downgraded already. However, I've just renewed her contract as I can still tolerate her. Hope the performance won't drop again.
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