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樓主: poho

我很難過, 我一定要忍 [複製鏈接]

yau2012

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發表於 07-10-30 01:13 |只看該作者

有陣時唔係忍就得,每個月都唔够$要碌卡,終有一日爆嫁

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tinasy

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發表於 07-11-7 15:25 |只看該作者

my case is no better than 樓主,my husband is a professional, we had a 1.5yr old daughter, i'monly a clerk, his salary is 4 times more than me, he's only responsible for mortgage, bun bun and his mother, all others are paid by me, i only hv 8000 a month,, i hv to pay all the family expenses and baby expense, but my salary can't cover, i told him, he said i'm useless, he already paid his part, i should paid my part, but every month i don't hv enugh money, i had to look card as well, i know he hads his own saving every month, but i'm worrying everyday about money, he didn't give me any support, nor 家用, i need to use my saving when i don't hv money, now my saving is almost come to an end, i don't know what to do.

he did shout on me because i can't earn more money,i'm useless, i'm his burden, i cried many times, my friends ask me to leave him, but i can't, how about my baby, i don't know

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ringoivy

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發表於 07-11-7 16:48 |只看該作者

d男人未試過係唔會明架

搵日攪長沙入下廠等佢一腳踢試下咩滋味仲好過經你把口講啦

原文章由 poho 於 07-10-29 13:52 發表
我c6很討厭, 因他心中只有錢, 我已經有2個小朋友, 只是每月比足家用便以為已付責任, 他只要做好份工便可, 其它不要煩他, 唔好以為比家用大Q晒先得架, 其實湊細路仔好辛苦, 好辛苦呀!!!!! ...

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yau2012

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原文章由 tinasy 於 07-11-7 15:25 發表
my case is no better than 樓主,my husband is a professional, we had a 1.5yr old daughter, i'monly a clerk, his salary is 4 times more than me, he's only responsible for mortgage, bun bun and his mothe ...

千祈唔好覺得自己無用:loveliness: ,家庭是大家有份,他與你結婚時你都應是做緊類似既工作啦,係咪?

正面d面對,會唔會係mortgage要供好多?如果要供多過$15,000,再加bun$5,000+mama$5,000=$25,000,佢得$32,000-25000=$7,000,如個重要供保險,少少地$1,000,車費$1,000,食烟就重衰,再賭吓波、馬,lunch, 有時happy hour......真係唔係好見使,HK消費真係幾高:(
不如同佢好好傾吓,攤開家庭支出佢睇:) ;同時,我估你哋關係麻麻,設法溝通吓:D ,過多1年度,阿女要讀書,更大支出

,當時決定生阿女前佢係咪贊成嫁?生之前佢都係咁?

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tinasy

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發表於 07-11-7 17:34 |只看該作者

回覆 #24 yau2012 的文章

he earn about $40000-$42000 per month, after he paid mortgage, bun bun, his mother and insurance, he still has money left, but nnone of my business, when he's happpy, he will buy something to me, if not, he shouts to me, blame me from time to time, in front of bun bun, in front of baby, he even mentioned divorce, but every time after argument, he is back to normal, not mentioned again, but this cycle happen always, before i get married is like that, i thought it would change after baby's born, but i'm too childish, it's his idea to hv baby, but now, i really can't support any more

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yau2012

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發表於 07-11-8 01:24 |只看該作者

你既處境相當進退兩難:-| ,既然佢連離婚都經常掛在口邊,相信你一定很難受:cry: ,最容易解決的方法是離開這個不尊重你又不負責任的男人,自己從新好好生活

,不過我估你捨不得你女兒:-( ......
他錫女兒嗎?你與他及自己家人的關係狀况如何?

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tinasy

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發表於 07-11-8 14:11 |只看該作者

回覆 #1 yau2012 的文章

i think he loves his daughter, maybe that's the reason he still stays right now, i don't know. my friends told me he may know that it will be my advantage if he get divorced with me, as from his salary income, he doesn't want to benefit me(that's what my friend thinks of him), so he didn't really get divorce at this stage, maybe some years later, he will propose it again, as the daughter will grow up and he may hv more money to find another woman etc... my friend told me all about this probabilities which makes me really confusing now. i always trying my best want to protect this family, but will my friend's prediction come true? i don't know and i'm scared to face and think of it.
these days i think of the solution day and night, but i can't come to the conclusion.

as for his family background, his parents get retired, his mother plays 股票,he and one of his brother will give them 家用, his mother is money minded also, before we get married, she always ask him to fly me as i will be his burden and i don't earn much money, she thought her son deserve a better woman of a higher quality. therefore, i hate her very much and my relationship with them is bad. now my husband use exactly the same reason to blame me, i'm really very upset

but i really don't want to lose this family, what can i do?