My husband is empolyee, but my maid will listen both of us (I'm a good guy & my husband is pretend bad guy) .
Somethimes, when she make a mistake, my husband will blame her instead of me & check everything she do. I always give her instruction how to do and what to do.
Ar... Maybe that's why my maid does not listen to my husband. Sometimes, I am busy and ask my husband to tell my maid to do something. But the maid always said "later..."
Then, my husband come back to me and I cannot imagine my maid will do that.
But, the maid should know we are husband and wife, so, no difference.