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珍珠宮

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發表於 04-5-5 13:00 |顯示全部帖子

(急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

我家的賓賓已經在我們家做到第3年(之前在香港做了8年),她年過40,人品就不錯。一路以來,她的表現都可以接受,最重要的是她真的疼愛我仔仔。

可是近半年來,無論我奶奶、我媽媽、甚至我仔仔都complain她常常在街市買菜時和其他賓賓街坊傾計傾過不停(要我仔仔站著等她!)而且,連我自己偶然下午放假回家都發現她喜歡在家講電話,日間仔仔上學,她會出去久久不來。

對於這些,我一向都採取容忍態度,我明白這是人之常情,可是她好像有點變本加厲。已經到了我快不能容忍的地步!

我昨晚很生氣,想和她對質,但她已經睡了!我想我應該待自己cool down才和她說我的不滿。但是我從沒試過要這樣和她講,又怕她用眼淚攻勢,更怕她“記仇”!(因爲她多多少少都知道我下個約不會和她續--[因爲我不想付long service payment]),我又怕她會更馬虎做事!

你們平日怎樣“鬧”賓賓的?可以給我一點advice嗎?


子爵府

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發表於 04-5-5 14:42 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

Teresa,

I think you and your family members have been too soft and your Filipino maid is taking advantage of you.

Try to start off with something like :
"I called back yesterday afternoon but nobody answered the phone. Then I called again 15 mins later and again and again for xxx mins. and still nobody answered. Where were you ?"

If she said she went to this place and that place to buy this and that, you can follow up and ask her :
"You only need to take x mins. to walk to this place, then another x min. to come back..... Altogether it should have taken you at most yyy mins. Where were you the rest of the time (30 - 60 mins)??"

And follow up from there with your composition / comprehension skills, e.g. "and aaa and bbb all told me that they saw you chatting with your friends for at least xxx mins., not once but many times, and you were chatting from the time they entered the market until they left. I know you have a lot of friends but ....."

How's that for a start ??

I did that once to my ex-Filipino maid (the one before my current Indo maid), and she took less time shopping thereafter. But my mum is at home too, so I was not afraid of her for the sake of my son.


別墅

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發表於 04-5-5 14:54 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

you are too loose on your maid at the start and I am afraid that there is too little you can do now. By the way, for how long will the contract finish, one year, 6 months .........

It all depends on the remaining period of contract and you have to assess the situation before you take appropriate means. Otherwise it is ineffective and to nobody's good.


大宅

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發表於 04-5-5 15:26 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

相信問題係佢已多多少少知道你下個約不會和她續,所以開始放任同 test your limit,甚要搏炒. 你唔話佢,佢亦會一樣變本加厲.

你的語氣要"堅定而强硬",嚴肅而且板著臉,無需怕佢用眼淚攻勢和記仇. 只需提出你的不滿,要求佢改善. 無需話佢知你下一歩的行動. 因為你平日少話佢,你比佢感覺到 "you are seriou",可能佢會知驚. 你一定要收起笑容,唔好同佢客氣.

遇强越强,係我工人教識我怎樣“鬧”人的.


別墅

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發表於 04-5-5 15:50 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

hehehe, 可能唔係幾好, 不過希望幫到你.

不如你同佢講其實你有打算會同佢續約(緊係唔係啦)不過見到佢ne排表現咁差, 會考慮吓先. 咁睇吓佢有冇反應都好架. 如果你鬧佢, 佢真係真係未必會理, 如果佢頂嘴, 條氣重唔順.

希望幫到你


洋房

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發表於 04-5-5 16:11 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

我會寫信給她,因為我發覺寫比講好好多,“鬧”咪仲吾聽,佢一定有原因,好似話得佢吾啱,仲要睇面識。我會用point寫,如以前做得好,為甚麽現在差了?你個工人如果驚你老公,我會加埋Sir都覺得你做得吾多好。問佢想吾想繼續在香港工作,我吾同你續約我都會問我D朋友,幫你慳份agency fee。試吓得吾得,我個工人受這套,大家免傷和氣。

喜歡在家講電話,我已用了有線電話,最好冇call waiting,話Sir打電話打吾通。

仔仔站著等她和其他賓賓街坊傾計,(我一定不容忍),Sir和你都不想再有這事發生,問她我和你一同外出,我和friend不停傾計,你一定要站著等我,但你喜歡嗎?

我發覺一但放鬆,忍耐,想收番都要忍,大前題是她要對呀仔好,沒有意外發生,如果吾係她講sorry都冇用。

我和你一樣不想俾long service payment。


珍珠宮

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發表於 04-5-5 16:37 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

多謝個位教路!這是實在令我很心煩!今天整日都沒心情工作!

我知道我比較“林”,我平時都很小批評我賓賓的,我已經把她當作一家人(尤其是我對上一個工人是她的妹妹)。今晚回家惟有硬著頭皮“鬧”下,希望她有所改善!

其實有時想:就算我換另一個都可能一樣!我只是不想大家心裏有條刺。。。。無奈。。。 :-(


大宅

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發表於 04-5-5 16:51 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

Teresa,

我諗你個賓賓都應該搵夠了,無有怕,就算你點鬧佢,佢可能都唔會驚,或者你試吓畀多啲嘢佢做,等佢無咁多時間傾偈,同時打多啲電話返屋企check吓佢,如果佢唔喺屋企或煲緊電話粥,咁你就可以直接話佢,有好多嘢都需要當場捉到時,即刻抦佢的,咁佢就無聲出啦,第二時想偷懶,都識得適可而止.


水晶宮

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發表於 04-5-5 16:56 |顯示全部帖子

Re: (急!)請教各位:你們怎樣“鬧”賓賓?

我的做法同bluestar一樣, 講o左個facts出黎先(i.e. 打電話返屋企冇 人聽, 有人o係街見到佢同其他人傾好耐計). 跟住問佢乜o野事 or 係唔係有咁o既事. 等佢自己講佢做過d乜, 同比個機會佢解釋. 我地多數都唔係好滿意佢o既表現同解釋, 再順勢同個工人講自己o既expectation同家規. (但有時放工返到屋企都好倦, 冇咁多精力修飾語句同佢講咁耐. 耐性好緊要)

如果佢講大話, 我唯有用其他方法幫我. 如叫個工人去完街市回家後要打電話比我, 我時不時打電話叫佢做少少 o野. 等佢知道佢要standby, 唔可以成日蛇o左出街或煲電話粥.

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