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What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?


複式洋房

國民生產總值:160


發表於 04-5-12 11:00 |顯示全部帖子

What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

A few days ago, my Indo maid suddenly asked whether she can live outside and come back to my home to work during daytime when my son turns 1 year old (he's now 10 months). I ask her why she want to do this, she says nothing special, just asking. I turn her down immediately in front of her.
I suspect she may have some other reasons and I start thinking she is not reliable.
What will you think/do?


侯爵府

國民生產總值:21395


發表於 04-5-12 11:05 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

佢同你做左幾耐? 如果還係新的, 叫agency 丙佢.

小心佢係出邊識左男朋友.

無論如何都不可以出去訓.


大宅

國民生產總值:2989

醒目開學勳章


發表於 04-5-12 11:13 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

妳個工人應該做唔夠一年,好少印印會提出出外留宿.因為佢地都知唔得.我諗妳個工人可能係香港有左男朋友,如果唔係佢就想經營副業.
妳話番比個工人知,按勞工法例,佢係唔可以出外留宿.有乜事保險都冇得賠.等佢清楚知道以後唔使再問.
重有妳個工人已經還完債,可能開始作反,唔再咁聽教.如果妳一發覺有問題,妳就要不動聲色,請定人先炒.


別墅

國民生產總值:551


發表於 04-5-12 11:13 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

wa.... absolutely not ... "only my opinion" -- i think it's better u have to talk to her why she asking this request.... it must have the reason... because she know that she have to live in yr house under contract...

Victoria


別墅

國民生產總值:551


發表於 04-5-12 11:15 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

yes,, totally agreed SKI....... even the insurance is not covered...
Victoria


子爵府

國民生產總值:12409


發表於 04-5-12 11:28 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

No good Indo DH would dare to ask for permission to live outside on a permanent basis.

I agree with mummies that most likely she has a boyfried (a local HK one).

In my case, my Indo DH has been working in HK for 10+ yrs now, and her mother and auntie (姑姐) are also working in HK. She is also a very devout Muslim. The only times she asked for permission to stay for 1 night outside each time, all on Saturday nights, were :
1. To stay with her mother, at her mother's employer's flat, the night before her mother went back to Indonesia for good (not come back to HK to work anymore).
2. To read the Muslim bible at a Muslim mosque near CWB, (a very very thick book which they must finish reading in 1 day), for Muslim New Year.


複式洋房

國民生產總值:486


發表於 04-5-12 11:32 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

Please make up a plan to fire her.
She is not reliable.


複式洋房

國民生產總值:160


發表於 04-5-12 11:49 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

She has worked for me since my son is born. Before that, she has worked in HK for 2 yrs. I think she may want me to give her extra money coz she said her friend get $500 more for staying outside. I sometimes want to change another maid as she is very "inch" and turn "black face" when I points out her mistakes or discover that she has not do something. But all in all, she loves my baby and can take care of him. I'm afraid to take risk if I find another to replace her at this moment. But I'll seriously think of hiring a new one after her contract is expired.


珍珠宮

國民生產總值:45477

2018勳章


發表於 04-5-12 12:35 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

個contract, 即係比入境處o個一份, 寫明個外籍家庭傭工係要在工作的地方, 即我地屋企住宿. 個工人係唔可以隨便話出去住的.


複式洋房

國民生產總值:486


發表於 04-5-12 12:59 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

My experience is that once we sensed that the maid had something wrong (when we sensed it, it is normally only the pillar of an iceberg), it is wiser to take action early than late.

I hired an indonesian maid when my baby was new born. Shewas dirty and alway lie to us. We are usually accomodative. But somehow I saw her shake my baby in two instances but I was not very comfirmed about it as it was just a snapshot of action. All along, I believe she loved my baby and my baby also appeared stickly to her. The worries with me was that my baby may stick to her bec she had been the care taker since her birth. I heard that it is important to have the same caregiver for baby until it reaches 3 yrs old. So I renewed the contract with her but I eventually fired her before commencement of the new contract after hearing comments from my friend who just met her once. He said my maid was very dirty.

Yes, she is a lier and my house was dirty. My new born baby continued to see doctor for infections on face which must be due to dirtiness. I was afraid that her bad habits might be transplanted to my baby. So I took action immediately. If the maid is not trust worthy and with poor attitude, the baby who is taken care by her might pick up the same habits from her. I would want to stop it early better than too late.

Eventually it proves that my baby loves the replacement maid more. She never cried after the Indonesian maid is fired. I then learned that baby by nature is sticky to the caregiver. It appeared that the second and even now the third maid (both Filipinos) treats my baby better because my baby will still mention the name of the second maid after she left. And she will now say to the present maid "I love you". Most Filipinos loves baby may be because of its culture and religion. Filipinos are more joyful and you might see them sing and dance in spare time. While muslims are not.

If you choose a new maid, chose those with fair hair, clean and with happy face and tidy hand writing. You must choose one who appear to have patience. But keep in mind that maids who patient might work slower and appeared to be stupid. This is the trade off that I will take if I will hire maids to take care of new born baby.

Actually, I had regret for not changing my Indo maid earlier. May be she had not a patient person that she might used to threat my baby (that's why I saw her shake my baby). As a result, my baby did not talk until after 2 years old. She started to talk one week after I changed the maid. And my baby was so afraid of strangers before. She had no confidence in herself. This problem was gone after I changed the maid.


複式洋房

國民生產總值:160


發表於 04-5-12 14:15 |顯示全部帖子

Re: What do you think/do if your maid asks to live outside?

Chuchumui,
Thanks for your sharing. You're so lucky to have a good replacement. I would like to ask why you don't continue to use the 2nd maid as she is also good. For me, I think I will hire an Filipino to replace the existing one. My friends always tell me to hire some who have been worked in Singapore before. Do you have some comment. What else I have to pay special attention to when choosing the maid?


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