my 21month old son has become very attached to me ever since i gave birth to my 2nd son who is almost 6months old. His behavior has gotten worse and worse. I have a live-in helper who has been with us since he was born, but he doesn't want anybody but me to help him change clothes, take bath etc. Everytime i try to take care of my 2nd son he starts misbehaving.
he can't control his temper. he wont brush his teeth. he cries for a long long time, sometimes until he throws up.
i stopped working when he was 7months old and have been taking care of him 90% of the time. Mostly my helper just does chores at home and cooks.
I want to be able spend more time with my 2nd son and help my 1st son feel comfortable without me and not jealous of his brother.
I think it is very normal for your older son to feel jealours or upset, coz he had you all to himself before his little brother comes into the picture. I think the most important thing to you to do is (a suggestion only) that you can involve your older son a bit more into taking care of his little brother, like pass you a nappy or bottle, or when the baby cries you can ask him to help comfort his little brother. You may have to make him feel proud being a big brother instead of thinking of that you need to spend more time with your baby. If this continue... emm... big problem. I used to be a kindgergarten teacher I've seen so many parents complaining to me about how their first born always jealous when baby arrives. I think you should, at least for now, spend more time with your older son, just to make him feel more important.
原帖由 soonayuen 於 09-3-6 21:22 發表
my 21month old son has become very attached to me ever since i gave birth to my 2nd son who is almost 6months old. His behavior has gotten worse and worse. I have a live-in helper who has been with u ...
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