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如題,
老公回歸後係點樣相處?
不以任何型式抗議。唔好以為佢虧欠了我,我就大曬咁欺壓佢。
其實就算佢口認對我唔住,心裏都未必一致。佢好可能完全沒有虧欠我的觀點。只是基於一些不能向我說真的原因而回歸,因為佢知道如果對我說出了真相,我會接受唔到而失去生活的能力。
當聽到對方表達佢同我相處有幾困難,對佢帶來精神,情緒創傷後,我一定不要有如此反應:「Saying things like you are emotionally broken from interacting with me is unkind and will not help me trust you. After what you did to me, you have no right to complain. You broke me down at any rate. I have less confidence and feel stressed whenever you are around because....」記住,無錯,這是我個人的經歷和感受。但尊重佢也有佢真實的經歷和感受。這樣說只會畀佢睇到佢更加應該走。因為佢會認為我根本無心同唔想了解佢。
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own ~ H. Jackson Brown