My stupid ININ made me crazy. it is just a very small matter. Last night, I wanted to pick a pant for my daughter and I found one on the high chair so I asked her why there is pant on high chair, where did you take it. She has no respond at all and last for few seconds. Then I repeated my question again, she still kept silent and stared at me. Oh my god, what happened. I was so angry at that time and started to shoot her. but still no respond. I shouted loudly just like a crazy woman. my daughter came out from room. I was so unhappy to let my daughter see me like this, so I took her to room and talked to the maid again. Still no respond. She really pissed me off, then I asked her to pack her lagguage and leave my place at once. She moved to pack and cried. I asked her why she did not say a word. She said she did not how to answer. Are all inin like this. I went crazy last night. It is not the first time she has no respond. She is like a rice ball. I want to fry her but my mother appreciated that she has not argument and black face (acutally no respond). She signed a resignation letter to me before, I really want to take this chance to sweep her away. poooooooooooor.
(eith they don't want to admit mistakes or they are afraid that their answer can be considered as TALK BACK. Or they just want to make you angry... Nothing is what you want.)
if they talk back
you are angry
if they don't say a word
you are angry too
Now I juts tell them what to do
sometimes I don't even want to hear their explainations
I told my maid that you could be 100% right but you can not work for me... as simply as that
I just want it to be done.....
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Please don't be upset la!
Thanks a lot for your comfort. Yes, you are right, I don't like people have no repond.
Summer, your experience is 100% correct. I should make the things simple, just give instruction and
not need to hear any explaination and excause. I am looking a new one but takes time. My mother is
protecting her very much these two days. She always persuade me to keep her as she thought she is a kind of honest but stupid maid. Now, I am finding Philipino maid, but not many choices. I got once choice working in Singapore 10 yrs in one family, taking care and bringing up two kids from baby. She is Single and a bit old - 40yrs. How do you think?? any advice??
My Inin also keeps silient (like she has hearing problem sometimes). But I repeat my question again and again until she answers it. When she eventually answers my question, she would turn her face the other side (not looking at me). 吹脹!
She gives me black face all the time. So you are not the only one.
I think language is the key problem for Indonesian maid. Their English is poor. Luckily that my maid worked in Taiwan for 2 years, so she can speak Mandarin. We don't have language problem, at least she gives me response.
我對工人已經學會唔會去問點解，唔會問原因，如果做錯了就要跟她說清楚。要她清楚明白我的instruction，我唔會理會她的反應，因為已經唔重要了。點樣知道她明白我的instruction，如果有下一次發生，你就要俾verbal warning她羅，久而久之她就算表面無反應，但只要她之後實行就得了。其實我開頭很反對成日用warning這樣武器的，但如果你唔用，個工人就會覺得no big deal，所以我同她講得很清楚，3次verbal warning，一封warning letter，如此這般她收夠三封信就pack and go，不是講笑的，那麼她就會take it more serious去做每一樣野。但當中要獎罸分明，不可以老是指責她，我要讓她明白做事有對與不對，有黑有白的。
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