1. 成日話乜野養左個女咁大, 要報答養育之恩, therefore, the man (or his parents) 比足外父外母禮金+過大禮物品 is a must.
After get marry:
1. the husband should 養家 and pay all the expenses such as rent/mortgage, living expenses......
And the wife don't need to pay anything, just eat + live in that flat paid by the husband.
2. The husband's $ becomes the family money. He can't use it as he like. For example, the wife always complain if the husband give his money to 99 (his parents). However, the $ of the wife is her pocket money. She can use it as she like (such as give all to her parents).
3. The wife don't need to take care of 62 99. It is because she is not their daughter. Some of them even complain their 99 treat them not nice...... such as having cook for them, too dirty.......
When having kids:
1. The husband should pay all the expenses of the kids. The wife would like to cut the 'pocket money' given to 99 monthly (even it is the husband's money: sorry, it should be the family's money now). The reasons is that: we need to give the best to our kids!!!!! However, the wife's $ is still her pocket money.
Therefore, it is better to have daughter, not son!!!!