Hi everyone, if I become a full time mummy later (may be a few months later), should I employ a live in foreign maid to help me? I have a 1 year old baby.
Do you have any helper? Part time or live in? Can you share your experiences? Thanks a lot.
hi,
I have been a full time mother for 2 years since my bb borned. If there is no financial problem, you must have to hire a domestic helper (Bun or Yan), otherwise you have no spare time to do anything even those go to toilet/taking bath, go out for a while.
But if your bb is easy to take care (sleep a lot/eat well .. etc), you can hire the local part time to do some general housework.
this is only my own opinion
I just became a full time mom for few months only. I have the same opinion as ngchunyeemama. With the helper doing the housework, I can spend most of my time with my baby. If I have to do the housework, I may be too busy and get angry with him easily. Then, I rather go back to work.
Thanks ngchunyeemama and sweetiebarney for sharing. You are right. Sometimes when I am with my boy, just don't find 1 minnute to go to the toilet because he always needs a companion. And when I can't do other things and rest well, I become very angry and not enjoying motherhood. Think I shall employ a bun bun.
Mummy, you are right. I totally agree with you! Sometimes when I go out to have lunch/dinner with my boy and my husband. I just CANNOT eat or talk because of my boy. And my husband is not really a family oriented guy, and doesn't look after baby as such. The best he can do is to watch TV together. He will put him down after carrying him/playing with him for 2 mins. I am actually thinner than before pregnant. And my big boy (ie my husband) wonders why I am always so tired.
Do you have a bun bun or yan yan? How old are your kids? How long have you been a full time mama?
Agree to what Mummy said.... When I had my 1st kid, I had my mother-in-law taken care of her and the helper did the housework. Then when I had my 2nd kid 3 years old, I quitted my job and become the helper "number two". My mother-in-law resumed her "very busy social life" (very jealous). Understanding that there are many mums from low income families, who can "one foot kick". However, If your financial situation is ok, why not hire a helper? You know, a full-time mother is always needed to standby/work 24 hours. If you don't have someone to look after the kid for several hours and go out for some relax, you must be mad !!!