We just hired a bunbun last month. My husband and I will have a baby in about 3 months. We do not have a lot of work for the helper to do at this moment. Usually she does not have anything to do after the dinner .Then she will turn on the TV without asking and watch about 2-3 hours. I am not a TV person. I always go back to my room right after the dinner and leave the dinning room for her for the whole night.
Do you guys think I should talk with her? However, I am afraid that if we are too mean to her, she's gonna leave. She is a good helper anyway. And you guys know how difficult to find a good helper that is also willing to take care of the new born.
Maybe it is me letting her feel like it is OK to watch TV at home. There were one night I saw her sitting on the balcony and looked so lonely. Then I asked her if she wanna watch TV? She said no at the time and the day after that, she started to turn on the TV automatically every night. :) What a stupid suggestion...
First time to have a stranger living at home. To be honest, it is really "strange." Just like taking EQ test every day. I wanna keep her since she is very professinal in housework and can alway finish her job by 120 percent. And she is sweet in her heart. However, I really felt that she crosses the line a little bit. For many times, I feel pressure at home.
1. She mocked me all the time when I was talking to the baby in my tummy.
3. She always say something negative when she saw me reading stories or trying to educate my baby.
2. She always trying to talk with us when my husband and I were eating the breakfest. Come on! Please leave us alone! That is the only meal we can enjoy together since my husband won't come home until very late of day .
4. It just like I paid $3740/month for a help and a mom.
I think you better stop letting her to watch the tv from now on.
You find some excuse ... Instead of telling her you don't want her to watch ... Next time... Don't make any favor for the helper ... To be honest... If she is doing very well and co-operative .. Obedient... You can start offering her a break...
But one mth.. Really too early to make the conclusion...
Plus.. You will have baby soon, you should start training her or give her some baby book to read...
Set up the rule is very important at the beginning
...And make sure she follows your way....
i let my first maid to turn on TV.. and then it's out of control... she wouldn't turn on while we were home.. but once we were out for work.. only left baby and her alone at home. She turned on every 15 mins (yes... turning it on for 15 mins.. and then turn it off .. and then 5 mins later, turn it on again)............
ended up, my TV broke because it was on and off too often...
therefore, my current maid and the 2nd maid after my 1st maid left are all not allow to use our entertainment units.
no way.. i cannot accept a maid turn on TV herself without or even with asking
it is not her house.
i can foresee your future.. that she will be the "head" of the house.. not you or your husband. she love to watch tv, she will turn on the tv to your most loved baby (if you are working mum) when you not around.
my ex-maid is like that.. try to control everything ..
but i m a bit better you.. she know who to scare off. Still, it is only when i m at home, when i m not around, she be the boss again, even over my 6299 n hubby
good start is very important.. trust us.. a lot of mums here had sort experiences, really dont want to hv one more victim
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