When I was pregant about 8 months. One day, she told me that "你知我頭家在Tuen Mun，but 你住在 Kln.，我無可能唔理自己頭家去照顧你". You know what's the meaning la! So I say, I will take care myself.
After I give birth, she told me don't touch water and wash so much thing, but she remind me again, she will not go out to take care me. So I need to do everything myself, even I just give birth only 3 day, I also need to cook the meal for myself. (My mother need to take care my son, he's P.1). But in front of the others, she said "why you wash the thing yourself ka?" She is so cheap.
Then坐完月, I sick and the Chinese doctor said why I don't eat some 補品, she said"唔使食補品＆貴
My 奶奶 forced me (with my baby daughter) to have lunch in Chinese restaurant just 5 days after I give birth. Of course I say no la. Then she forced my husband to force me. I told to my husband "I just 生完 5 days, do you want me die with your daughter?"
After I gave birth to my baby, my "wonderful" mum-in-law also told me "唔使食補品"ga, but after a while she also said all of my daughters ate a lot of 補品 after gave birth to their children. In front of her son, she always mentioned my face looks very 紅 潤. May be she's afraid her son might complained she wasn't cook any 補品 for me to eat.
She told my other child " your mum got a lot of jewellery hidden somewhere". I forgot to tell her, oh yes, I got a lot of jewellery but not even one of them was given by you.
I also lived with my 99 during the first month after giving birth to my BB. She always said no need to eat other "Bo Bun", just eat "Ginger Vinegar" is enough. So she only boiled "Ginger Vinegar" for me. After 1 month, her daughter also gave birth and lived with her for the first month. However, she boiled Ginseng and chicken for her every day! Even though I saw it, she would not ask me to eat. Then I know it was because she is her daughter and I am not. She just treat me as an outsider and not a family member. And I said to myself, "99, you don't treat me as your family member, you also can't expect me to treat you the same too!" :-x
It's difficult for 99 to treat ourself as her daughter. So, always in my mind "I can't have any expectation from her as she is not my mother". Then, how can I love her who is my husband's mother.
Previously I very concerned her feeling - happy or not and her commend on me/my family. It made me very unhappy. But now, I am trying to - 時運高，聽不到，睇不到．
Prior to my pregnancy, my 99 kept on saying that she would help take care of my baby. She has never mentioned this again since my pregnancy. She has never prepared any thing special for me to eat during my pregnancy.
She will come to visit BB once a week now. Whenever she comes, she will have a lot of comments. "You cannot make BB burp like this." "
Why don't you put on some cream for BB after taking a bath?" "You don't need to take a bath for baby everyday". "Let BB cry, it's a good exercise". "Don't carry BB too much". And then she will go on telling me something how she raised her children 30 - 40 years ago.
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