Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
My husband is a born catholic & grew up in catholic schools but he was not devoted in his faith at all. 4 years ago, he started going to a christian church with me till now and he is quite into it - I don't have to drag him out of bed & he attributes much to God's will.
Problem is he wants our son to be baptized as catholic & as we sink in my christian church & our son is attending Sunday school, I think our son should be baptized as christian instead.
A practical issue is he is now 3 & will soon apply for (primary) schools. Should we still be undecisive on his religion, we will be worse off then those whose parents are neither catholic or christian but baptized their kids to get 5 marks for some schools.
Of course I believe God will prepare the best school for my son, whether he is baptized or not. As parents, we do have to have our standing. That's why I like to invite for some sharing. Thanks!
Re: Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
Hi, JsMami,
I am really shocked to read your message!
I think it's a pretty sensitive issue and as a person with no religion, I think you should let your son to decide. So, not to baptise as christian or catholic at this stage.
Lun Ba Ba
Re: Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
Jsmami,
Well... is it an urgent issue? Your husband want your son baptized in catholic church right now? Did he really said that he concerns the 5 points to enter into a Catholic school?
It's quite strange to know that he leads you to a Christian church and he wants his son to be a Catholic. Why he not in his first hand leads you to a Catholic church instead, I wonder????
If he cares just for the 5 points, I have nothing to say and can't help. But, besides Catholic schools, there should be a lot of good Christian school to consider. Can you find those good schools for him as a reference and let this “baptize” issue hang around a few years later when the boy is older. I know that quite a lot of Christian churches don't have baby baptism. They have to 決志by themselves, not through the parents.
Jsmami, if your husband never brings the child to a Catholic church to join Sunday mass (service), it's weir to know that he wants his son to be a Catholic.
Re: Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
Thanks all for your reply.
Jsdaddy wants to baptize our son as Catholic because he remembers (which I don't) he made a promise to the pastor in the (catholic) church where we got married 7.5 years ago that we had to baptize our children as catholic!!!!!!! It's not because of pressure from his mum or for the 5 marks for school - though the latter helps if we apply for Jsdaddy old school.
If we cannot come to agreement on this, we probably will let our son decide for himself when he gets older.
LunBaba,
Hey, we saw your 2 brothers & in-laws going to our church on one Sunday!!! Good for them! When is your turn?
Re: Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
Jsmami,
Yes, you are right!!! There is really such a commitment before God when you have your marriage taken in a Catholic Church. (Of course, in my Catholic point of view, I would like to have one more Catholic laa :lol: :lol: )
However, to be more realistic, your husband did not take your boy to baptize when he was a baby. Now he was already 3 years old and your family all have devoted to Christian church. We are really worshiping the same God, same 基督宗教, so in ONLY my point of view, he doesn't have to be so stubborn to have your son baptized as a Catholic right now. Actually, baptized as Catholic has no meaning to your son as he does not have any chance to know about Catholicism unless his dad brings him to a Catholic church. Right?
You better discuss with him, about his responsibility to raise a child as Catholic, if he insist to have him baptised in a Catholic church. Actually, if your honey now so devoted to Christian church, I see that a whole family have the same religion and going to the same church benefit more. 同佢傾下啦！
Re: Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
Hi, JsMami,
Actually I have been there for one time together with my two brothers and in-laws. I am sorry to say that the church does not fit me.
Hi, JK,
I did go to St. Margaret Church with my wife and son every Sunday morning. Frankly speaking, I was bored sometime but the fishballs and other snacks sold in the tuck shop next to the church is quite good.
Talk to you later.
Re: Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
Jsmami.
I agreed with jk67jk, it is not easy for your son to baptized now. Your son must attended the "sunday class' in a catholic church for at least one year. So, take it easy.
麟媽媽:
You are so good because your husband at least he willing to follow you to church every Sunday. I don't think my husband will willing to do that. He say if he need to choose, he will prefer to be a buddish.
Of course, I know it is the thing between he and the GOD.
Re: Seek help - How to resolve between Catholic & Christian parents in a family?
Thanks for all your replies & PMs.
Between my husband & myself, we both are God believers & followers, whether we are catholic or christian. My husband is a little subborn he wants our son to be baptized as catholic. Me? I have to be indifferent orelse....
I called St Margaret's church but ..... the Sister told me I, the mother, held the most responsibility in teaching our son about God (& catholism) & therefore insisted I had to attend their Sunday school with our son as he is more than 3 yrs old (by just 1 month). That posts certain difficulty to me as I am christian. I have a strong impression that the Sister wants me to convert to catholic in order to teach my son about their religion (not so much about God). Besides, my son uses to have a nap during the time of Sunday school & he barely understands cantonese. Anyway, the Sister considered all these were excuses.
Excuse or not, my son is attending Sunday school in my christian church & we are very comfortable with that. I am afraid going to Sunday school of a catholic church & a christian church may be quite confusing & demanding on a 3-yr old.
Unfortunately, when I asked my husband yesterday whether to let our son take part in the 嬰兒奉獻禮 held by my church next month, he declined. So it is still an indecision for us.
What I have decided is to pray that God lead us to the right path. It's not our call. Appreciate those of u who pray for us on this. I will definitely report if I see the light at the end of the tunnel!
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