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我C6太過份
我已經到左底線, 無得再忍, 我發覺佢愛99多過我
我對C6重好過對我自己既家人樣樣以佢為先無論對頭家點付出我都無問題, 但........原來倒轉C6係唔會好似我咁為頭家佢只會為99 樣樣以佢為先
當我發覺左......我成個人都好down....如果係咁why我重要去愛佢?

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又唔好咁諗,你99係你老公個呀媽,
應該要互相尊重....
我係用真心對老公同埋佢屋企人~

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I don't know what you should do.......
It is because I do nothing...... and I can feel that my C6 love me much much more than 99.

When I decided to marry him, I believed that he will be a good husband and father as he loves his families very much. He gave all he had to 99 (his flat, all his $.....)
He need to support 99's family when he earn $ in this 1x years (before we got marry).

I never request him to give less $ to 99 (I think it is his $, right?) after we married. Sometimes, when he have no $, I give my $ to 99 in his name. (I think as a son, it is his responsibility to give $ to his parents! When he can't do that, I (as his wife) should help him to pay)
I never request him to give $ to me or my parents(as I can earn by myself)
I share all living expenses with him (use my salary).

However, in this 10 years, 99 just do the opposite things of what I did.
She forced him and want to have all his $ after we got marry..... She even told my husband he should give all his $ to 99, and use my salary for living expenses of our family!
My 99 even force him to transfer our flat to his brother (I pay the mortgage, not my husband) even he have already bought 99 a flat before got marry........

When times going on, my C6 don't want to have close relationship with 99. He don't want to listen to her call, don't want to eat with her, and even don't want to visit her at weekends........

Now, we move to Yuen Long for almost half year, and he never tell 99 our new address.
Finally, I told 99 our new adress. As a mother, I think she should has the right to know where does his son live in now..............
My husband always tell me don't talk too much (about our family) to 62 99.

Sometimes, I feel my 99 is very poor........
I can't image that if one day, my son treat me like that....... I may want to die!

原帖由 sally1 於 09-6-18 17:58 發表
我C6太過份
我已經到左底線, 無得再忍, 我發覺佢愛99多過我
我對C6重好過對我自己既家人樣樣以佢為先無論對頭家點付出我都無問題, 但........原來倒轉C6係唔會好似我咁為頭家佢只會為99 樣樣以佢為先
當我發覺左. ...

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I think, you don't need to compare with C6's love with 99. It is meaningless. Your C6 just love the one she take up of him for 20 years.

原帖由 sally1 於 09-6-18 17:58 發表
我C6太過份
我已經到左底線, 無得再忍, 我發覺佢愛99多過我
我對C6重好過對我自己既家人樣樣以佢為先無論對頭家點付出我都無問題, 但........原來倒轉C6係唔會好似我咁為頭家佢只會為99 樣樣以佢為先
當我發覺左. ...

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原帖由 barbiewong 於 09-6-18 18:19 發表
又唔好咁諗,你99係你老公個呀媽,
應該要互相尊重....
我係用真心對老公同埋佢屋企人~

我都知係要互相尊重但99無尊重過我嫁左比C6咁耐99佢地都係自出自入鐘意幾時來住就幾時來我屋企所有野99都當係自己佢地所有既惡習我都忍
到現在99老公C左 C6就惾左咁"藍"哂99上身最離譜係叫我同仔訓 99要同我老公訓.....我張床佢地都打主意
重有好多多野.......

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原帖由 sally1 於 09-6-18 18:42 發表

我都知係要互相尊重但99無尊重過我嫁左比C6咁耐99佢地都係自出自入鐘意幾時來住就幾時來我屋企所有野99都當係自己佢地所有既惡習我都忍
到現在99老公C左 C6就惾左咁"藍"哂99上身最離譜係叫我同仔訓 99要同 ...

冇野呀....99要同你老公訓?
真係未聽過呀,都咁大個仔咯,
點解唔係99同個孫訓呢?

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原帖由 ac321 於 09-6-18 18:40 發表
I think, you don't need to compare with C6's love with 99. It is meaningless. Your C6 just love the one she take up of him for 20 years.

你都好叻有能力可以餋起成頭家唔需要老公比家用.
我無你咁叻我要2公婆先可以為持到
但你有無諗過女人既工作能力無男人咁持9 萬日有一日你無收入你老公又要比哂99 咁你自己頭會點呢? 一頭家點都要save反小小以作不時之需做男人應該餋家至係如果唔係不如唔好結婚生仔

如果有衝撞唔好意思

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原帖由 barbiewong 於 09-6-18 18:46 發表

冇野呀....99要同你老公訓?
真係未聽過呀,都咁大個仔咯,
點解唔係99同個孫訓呢?

係咪過哂火愛99愛到...重成日一柸水2份飲....crazy

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你老公是否心理有問題. 走啦!!!!!!!

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Thanks for your advice. You are not the only one to tell me those words.

This condition (餋起成頭家)was just happened in the first 1 year after we got marry. It is because my 99 worry that my husband will give me his $ (may be)...... therefore, she try all the methods to get all his money. At that moment, we have no kids, I 可以餋起成頭家 (use some of my saving).

However, when we have kids some years later......... my husband don't want to give too much $ to 99. My husband request his other brothers to share the mortgage with him (who is living in that flat)....... and my 99 was angry with my husband. My 99 becomes crazy and always say that my husband love me (his wife) more than his mother!!!!! My 99 always compare how he treats me and herself.......

Now, I only pay the rent/mortgage of my house and expenses of my 2 kids. And my husband pay all other living expenses. I think it is fare la!

May be I never think that 做男人應該餋家. I think that we built our family by our hands. Both of us should have the responsibility to 餋家.
On the other hand, I think that as a son, he should 餋 62 99. It is his responsibility.
I never think about =>萬日有一日你無收入你老公又要比哂99 咁你自己頭會點呢 It is too far for me.
However, my husband do think about it. Therefore, he always tell me that never let my 99 know how much he has in MPF!!!!!

Even he has bouns, he never tell 99!!!!

原帖由 sally1 於 09-6-18 18:55 發表

你都好叻有能力可以餋起成頭家唔需要老公比家用.
我無你咁叻我要2公婆先可以為持到
但你有無諗過女人既工作能力無男人咁持9 萬日有一日你無收入你老公又要比哂99 咁你自己頭會點呢? 一頭家點都要save反小小以 ...

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如果有衝撞唔好意思 => ok la, I won't angry with you.

My husband haven't give too much to 99 after we have 2 kids. He is planing that when we are old, we should keep some $ in hands!!!!! He do that by himself, I never force/request him to do that!

原帖由 sally1 於 09-6-18 18:55 發表

你都好叻有能力可以餋起成頭家唔需要老公比家用.
我無你咁叻我要2公婆先可以為持到
但你有無諗過女人既工作能力無男人咁持9 萬日有一日你無收入你老公又要比哂99 咁你自己頭會點呢? 一頭家點都要save反小小以 ...

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你老公同99都心理有問題。

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Tell the truth, sometimes I also 一柸水2份飲 with my mother!

原帖由 sally1 於 09-6-18 18:58 發表

係咪過哂火愛99愛到...重成日一柸水2份飲....crazy

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原帖由 ac321 於 09-6-18 19:29 發表
Tell the truth, sometimes I also 一柸水2份飲 with my mother!

share一杯水唔係問題，但老公叫老婆讓半邊床位俾99就好有問題。

問心，你而家仲會唔會同爸爸睡同一張床？

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Tell the truth, I always sleep with my mother + kids in the afternoon!

However, I would never ask my husband 讓半邊床位俾my mother. I sleep in my mother's bed!

P.S. don't laught at me!!!!!!

原帖由 mother904 於 09-6-18 19:33 發表

share一杯水唔係問題，但老公叫老婆讓半邊床位俾99就好有問題。

問心，你而家仲會唔會同爸爸睡同一張床？

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原帖由 sally1 於 09-6-18 17:58 發表
我C6太過份
我已經到左底線, 無得再忍, 我發覺佢愛99多過我
我對C6重好過對我自己既家人樣樣以佢為先無論對頭家點付出我都無問題, 但........原來倒轉C6係唔會好似我咁為頭家佢只會為99 樣樣以佢為先
當我發覺左. ...

以前我老公都係咁：愛自己阿媽多過愛我，因佢覺得阿媽得一個，老婆就其實可以有好多個！

我亦同樣對c6家人好過對自己家人，我99當然覺得應本份，但當時連c6都覺得冇咩唔妥，而調番轉，c6對我家人就真係唔係咁好，連佢自己都講佢做唔到好似我咁。

至於你既問題，我既經驗係：
1. 等自己c6醒
2. 等99「突然諗通」

而我係屬於第一種！

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原帖由 yvonne18 於 09-6-18 19:05 發表
你老公是否心理有問題. 走啦!!!!!!!

佢唔係心理有問題係"勁"禺考!

我真係就來crazy 呻下先
62死左 99就唔肯反自己屋企住係都要來我到住 c6一口就應成左問都無問過我我都算見99咁可憐點知住左一排唔對路就問c6 99幾時搬反過去 c6就係到洗我成日話住多幾日先 99就當我間屋好像自己咁成日係到嘈嘈幣開大個電視灘係張sofa到開反汁碗都唔幫手好似皇后咁重要我老公烹埋比佢食話就話同我地帶仔但成日去打排放我仔係佢個女到
點知佢個女唔高興99無反屋企又成日走左去打排一興之下收反99層樓 c6第一個出來"藍"實99又係問都無問就安排99係到住就係咁我同C6日日抄大x 搞到我要離家出走佢先叫99去另一個女到住 99就日日來食反沖涼我都叫可安靜下點知佢另一個女又話唔再方便比99係到住我C6緊係又.........最後佢地搵到另一個女肯接收99 都好唔洗搞到我要離婚但c6就話我幹99走唔為佢諗下但我自問無做錯到 99有屋唔反收樓個個又唔係我 99話驚又來左住一排 62走左要幫手既我都幫左重想我點
我宜加要忍多幾個星期等佢走

諗住工人就來安排定張床點知C6就同99講有新床叫佢過來住我咪興囉知我同佢唔arm 又叫99過來住重要我找張床既單本來買屋企野邊個比都無所謂但明知我唔like重要係都叫佢來住我c都唔制 ............

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