Hello Rilley, ignore your stupid and selfish 99! When she dies, you don't have to go to see her because she isn't your mother.
For grandfather is your own grandfather and I strongly support you to see him before it's too late. I regret all my life bceause I couldn't accompany my father's last moment (I was a student in a foreigh country and my father died in a heart attack!). You must follow your heart and do according to your own will! I'm ON YOUR SIDE!!