I got marry for 8 years.
In the pass 8 years, I never went to my parents' flat for meal. I don't know why, just don't want.
I have a good relationship with my parents. (For example, my father's saving a/c add my name, and my saving a/c add my mother's name so that we can take other's $ when necessary)
I have a strong feeling that the place I live with my husband and kids is my family. Therefore, I don't like to visit my parents' family. (P.S. my parents live close to us, and there are only they 2 live there).
For special days, I will invite my parents to have lunch or dinner in my flat. Tell the truth, I visit my parents' flat less than 10 times in the past 8 years.
Similarly, my husband don't like to have dinner in my 99's flat. However, I will 'push' my husband to have dinner with them for all chinese festival. It is because 1)I don't want my 62, 99 and other brothers/sisters visit my flat and have dinner in my flat. 2) My 99 will be happy - as a son, we should do that.