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angelachan

複式洋房

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發表於 04-8-1 17:44 |只看該作者

Re: 各位全職媽媽努力!!

hi hangkeelong,
I think there is plenty of vacany for nurses.Why don't you try to take no pay leave for the time being and see whether being a full time mum is suitable for your family or not?
My husband is very supportive and he perfer me to quit the job as my job is quite demanding and long working hours.However, i still worry about the financial situation if I quit my job. My parents and sometime my sister is totally dependent on me.My mother will give the money that I gave her to my sister and blame me for not giving enough money to her.Mind you that my sister is already 24. That's why I still keep on working and take care of my bb after work.It is so tiring.
What is worst of all, my mother keep on blaming me not taken good care of my bb. So when i am really piss off and I will tell her that OK ,I quit my job and be a full time mun . Then she will stop scolding me. : :cry: :cry:
I have tried no pay leave for several months and this worsen the relationship between my mother and me , so I think i can only be a full time mun when my sister earn more and spend less and can help me to support the living of my parents.

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hangkeelong

洋房

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發表於 04-8-2 23:54 |只看該作者

Re: 各位全職媽媽努力!!

Dear Angelachan,

There is no no-pay leave for nurses in HA. Only the GS staff have this right. Therefore, I have to think twice before I quit. I also have the same problem with you. My mother and my father are depending on me . My sisters earn not much money. That is not enough for their own expenses. However, My mum quite support me. She said she would be OK if I give her less than before. But I think it is quite difficult to ask my husband to give money to my own family. Moreover, my husband is a very 節儉 man. I believe I have notmuch money to use. Since he always blame me 大洗 and not save more money. I have no jobs at the home. He doesn't give me 家用. He pays all the bills. He said that I am too absent mind. I don't need to buy food. My mother-in-law may buy and cook. If I don't have the job, I wonder how much money he may give me. Every time I buy the books or toys for my children, He would say I waste the money again.
You are lucky your husband support you. When I told to my husband I don't want to do the job. He said immediately "I also don't want to work. Let's quit together and take care the baby together. Let's get the govenment fin. support" I am quite disappointed.

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12355

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發表於 04-8-3 00:52 |只看該作者

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Hi hangkeelong,

I am really sorry and frustrated to hear the response of your husband. He actually earns quite a lot, he should be an educated man, then how can he blame you for buying the educational toys/books for your children. You know, it is absolutely worth to invest in the intellectual development of a child. I do believe a happy and fruitful childhood means a lot to the child. Also, if he is very mean, he should have a big saving, then you have better ask him what's the reason for saving, for the sake of the family or himself only. If for the sake of family, then how come he is not willing to give you any 家用 if needed. It is ridiculous and irreponsible for a man to say such kind of words - "I also don't want to work. Let's quit together and take care the baby together. Let's get the govenment fin. support"

Maybe I am too mean to comment on your husband, but I really feel sorry for you. :evil: You already have 2 lovely sons, it is understandable that you want to accompany with them. If you are financially stable, it may be a good idea to be a full-time mum. But of course, you must get the compromise of your husband beforehand.

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3mmm

民房

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發表於 04-8-3 01:55 |只看該作者

Re: 各位全職媽媽努力!!

Dear ALL,

我係新會員, 各位多多指教呀!!!
我好鍾意小朋友o架, 當知道有咗bb真係好開心!! 大肚期間因為沙士, 所以我由有咗bb5個月o既時候已經冇返工喇!! 回想起沙士事件真係令人心酸!! 當時, 我老公都為咗安全問題, 贊成我提早做全職媽媽, 不過奶奶就唔係咁睇, 佢話我哩個年紀(29)應該努力搵銀為將來喎....所以由冇返工開始, 我覺得奶奶對我有微言! 不過我堅信自己行o既路係正確o既!! 做一個全職媽媽好大壓力.....由睇住肚入邊o既bb一日一日生長, 到出世後全天候24hrs照顧佢, 哩段日子雖然當中有艱辛, 但同樣地有開心!! 囝囝10月就1yr o 喇!! 我仍然堅持係送上最好o既人奶比佢 !! 自從身為人母之後, 覺得做媽媽真係有好多人,事&物可能要放棄, 但係回心一想, 所付出o既, 的的確確係直得, 睇吓身邊o既小寶貝!! 因此我感到自豪, 妳地呢?!
各位偉大媽媽, 大家努力加油呀!!

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+MaMiAKiRA+

別墅

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發表於 04-8-3 02:35 |只看該作者

Re: 各位全職媽媽努力!!

hangkeelong 寫道:
do you feel hard to ask your husband money?

hi hangkeelong,

會ar!! 我同你一樣, 我蝦子餅都唔中意我買咁多玩具或者
教材..........

就算好平, 佢都會覺得唔好買咁多!!!!!
"side 錢"!!!!!!!!! :lol: 所以好多時都會偷偷地買番屋
企~~~

其實你先生份salary 都已經好正啦喎!! 我蝦子餅都係得
萬幾~~~ 我由大肚己經quit o左份工, 安心養胎到依家.
係就係無咩錢駛, 成日都o岩o岩夠用, 甚或唔夠錢用!!!!
但為o左阿B, 大家辛苦o的都係值得~~ 小朋友o既性格
要從小建立, 仲有知識, 安全感.......父母同佢o既關係都
係從小建立, 童年光陰一去不返~~ 我自己就唔想假手於
人~~ :-P

我諗你先生都係擔心難搵o野做, 你比o的時間同佢傾o下!
安撫o下佢先~~~ 可能佢對屋企o既責任感重, 所以先會
有好大壓力, 驚兩個都無o野做, 唔知會點!!

家用方面, 你唔駛擔心啦!! 既然你唔駛買餱煮飯等等, 就
唔駛要家用啦~~~ 淨係要"零用"lor~~ :mrgreen:
買護膚品ar, 買衫都要錢嘛~~ 最多買少o的o者~~
我諗佢識做o卦~~~ :-P

3mmm,

cheers~~~~

希望大家都可以繼續陪住自己o既仔女成長!! :-P

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angelachan

複式洋房

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發表於 04-8-3 12:17 |只看該作者

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hi hangkeelong,
Nevermind la.I know a lot of working mothers (medical field especialy doctors )have more than one kids.They are fine. May be the quality of time is more important than quantity.And they have a good and reliable maid .
Although my hubby is very supportive, I also feel uncomfortable for him to support all the expenses for my parents and sister.Sometimes , he even gave money to them for travel expenses several times and waste a lot of money!!!I think he spoiled my family .
We are not rich, and we work very hard for that!!!!My sister and other relative always take advantage from us!
I have to save money for my son as i know no one will help me when I have no money. For that I think i know the feeling of your husband.

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天使兒

大宅

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發表於 04-8-3 12:37 |只看該作者

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hangkeelong,
我有時都好難開口問老公要錢的. 就算佢真係搵得到, 但我覺得搵一萬就會過一萬既生活, 搵8萬就會過8萬既生活.
而我依傢希望生完後可以唔好靠老公養, 女人都係要經濟獨立好d. 當然仔女都重要, 但冇左經濟好多野都唔可以講.
而你自己屋企話可以比少d, 我其實都同我亞媽講過, 但佢地冇錢咁又點呢?! 真係睇住佢地冇錢使咩....我之前都同亞媽講過話我出番黎做野先比番家用佢地, 亞媽當然會支持個女. 但我最近見我亞媽兩次, 都會唔覺意話我知佢冇錢使囉.
而我覺得要自己個老公養我自己屋企就唔係咁好, 除非我係獨女. 但如果係我梗加會做野.
老公已經要養奶奶那邊, 仲有我地加個b呢邊....如果要佢真係比錢我亞媽那邊....佢就真係要搵好多錢先夠....仲有我自己屋企本身有3姊弟...個個比得夠....係唔使要老公比錢的.
當然呢方面你自己要衡量下本身自己個環境囉(我講係你亞媽那邊喎).

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mother904

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畀面勳章

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發表於 04-8-3 15:37 |只看該作者

Re: 各位全職媽媽努力!!

hangkeelong,
我諗你老公的心態是如果醫管局不和他續約，咁如果佢做私營醫療機構會搵少好多，出來開診所又要駛好多錢同初期收入真係可能好少。其實專業人士比一般人更加難轉工，佢讀左醫咁多年，而家要轉行真係唔知做甚麼。你份工收入唔少而且又穩定，所以佢唔想你唔做。

當然，自己揍bb係感覺好唔同而且好開心，可能你老公感受唔到，以為俾工人揍冇分別。試下同佢傾多d，俾佢知道由媽咪揍大的bb會有好多好處。

不過，以你形容你老公孤寒的性格，你唔做野想問佢拿零用可能會幾辛苦，所以最好係你決定唔做之前，儲定一筆私己，萬一有事都唔駛下下問佢拿。女人唔一定要做野，但有錢在手講野都大聲d。

日日是好日

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hangkeelong

洋房

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發表於 04-8-4 14:56 |只看該作者

Re: 各位全職媽媽努力!!

Thank you for all of your sharings. BK mothers are so kind. In fact, I am quite understanding my husband feeling. Most of his colleagues, in his age, are still single. Even married, most of them are still have no chidren. They don't have much budren. They can enjoy their 'yuppie' life. But my husband has to l供層負資產, support his own family and now our family. I understand his feeling. Sometimes I feel guilty to him. Because I ask him to buy the flat, I insist to have my elder son and the accidental second son. He doesn't blame me. Only sometime may say some friends go to diving happily. Some friends have the trip to somewhere. He also love his children. He also know I am the best one to take care the children. However, he is very worry about the future. I have talk to him for saveral times. He promise me if he find a stable job after the contract completed, I may quit. Therefore may be have to wait more one or two years time. I promise myself I save more money in this coming time. preparing be a good ft mother. I am very 羡慕 all of you and your children. I hope I would be one of you.
Full time mothers, do yu plan when will you work again? When the child go to the primary? or go to kindergarden? or even older?

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WongMing

子爵府

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發表於 04-8-4 16:30 |只看該作者

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我覺得供養父母,係好理所當然,但當遇到呢個問題,就陷入兩難之間,好無奈,好痛苦! 我未有bb,不過努力中,生完打算quit咗份工!我老公係獨仔,父母有無嘜錢果隻,兩個依靠晒我地。當日,我同老公講如果生bb就自己揍,佢好憂心咁話點夠錢呀?我味叫佢俾少d奶奶佢地,我最多“大義滅親”,唔俾我阿媽囉!〈我阿媽唔rich,但一定rich過我地多多聲!但唔俾,佢可能好多聲!〉過幾日,佢reply我,佢話, sorry呀,唔想影響到阿爸阿媽呀! 我無言以對! 我好hurt!我好明白佢嘅難處,但,咁即係影響我同bb就得咩?
不過,anyway,我已經唔諗咁多,即使唔可以全職,半職都要,我唔信解決唔到!!!!

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+MaMiAKiRA+

別墅

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發表於 04-8-5 12:07 |只看該作者

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hangkeelong

好開心知道你先生許下哩個諾言~~~
你o係哩一兩年要努力, 作好準備, 草多o的私己錢ar!! :mrgreen:

我聽個專家講, 小朋友首七年好重要!! 各方面都係哩段時間
建立, 叫我起碼要自己湊到佢七歲喎~~ 所以......... :-P
ha ha!!

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chityumama

大宅

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最關心BB問題熱投勳章

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hangkeelong
希望你丈夫contract後可以順利搵到新工作,等你可以安心做個FT媽媽.
我現在全職揍兩個B,都係全職了兩個多月,初初好唔習慣,好辛苦,現在好D喇.有時都會考慮做番o野,但諗到大仔今年搵K1出年讀,之後又要到個細女(佢地兩個差年半咋),呢D都係要自己親力親為好D,所以又打消了呢個念頭,我諗到他們小學先再算lu. 其實我都考慮過D part-time的job,話晒多個錢就係多個錢,唔駛

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WongMing

子爵府

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發表於 04-8-6 10:01 |只看該作者

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早! 我未有bb,努力中。我都打算如果有幸生得成bb,會quit咗份工,做full　ｔｉｍｅ　ｍａｍａ！不過好似妳咁講，會做ｐａｒｔ－ｔｉｍｅ　ｊｏｂｓ，唔想老公咁大壓力外，更唔想成日攤大手板問人攞！所以我１００個巴仙支持ＦＴ　ＭＡＭＡ！ :-P

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homingm

大宅

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發表於 04-8-16 05:16 |只看該作者

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自己有工作時，同老公大家的經濟獨立，但稔到九月就會轉做FT媽媽，到時要同老公拿錢駛，好似好唔慣咁

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:[img align=left]http://www.imagestation.com/picture/sraid100/p0efd5180a15094e49bc8309350fd91f5/f9e92a54.jpg[/img][img align=right]http://www.imagestation.com/picture/sraid100/pc8bf148c3b975239357968cfc2f3d509/f9e92a4b.jpg[/img][img align=right]

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朋友媽

別墅

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發表於 04-9-2 23:39 |只看該作者

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我住在馬鞍山，個女剛剛升小一，好多濕碎要跟。咁多年我一直都是上班一族，但d人話小朋友小一要自己湊先好喎！因可以和小朋友多溝通和親子。所以現在變了全職媽咪。

現在的生活可以用四字形容，就是"痛苦沉悶" ，成個人毫無衝勁和毫無目標。以前d朋友又要番工，無朋友可以傾。每朝送完女女上學就唔知做咩。好想在附近找一份返9:00放1:00的part-time做。但好難。

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+MaMiAKiRA+

別墅

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發表於 04-9-3 01:49 |只看該作者

Re: 各位全職媽媽努力!!

朋友媽,

唔好氣餒啦~~

我個Friend又係差唔多case~~ 最後佢忍唔住做番o野,
跟住佢個仔o既成績就急轉直下!!! 因無人監督佢溫書,
做功課~~ 後來佢最終都係 quit o左份工~~~~

不過如果你可以搵到份part time就真係唔錯, 時間唔太
長... 無咩影響!! 又可以賺錢買花戴!!! :-P
我都希望遲o的BB番學之後, 我都可以搵份Part time
做o下~~ 可以再"亂駛錢"~~~~ :mrgreen:

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