pufferfish,
i can imagine how you feel!
i think you've already done what you should do, i.e. telling your wife about your feeling, no matter it's good or bad. of course, many women want their spouces to praise them and speak of sweet words but if your points are valid, even it's something not so nice to your wife, just tell her, with your justification. i think someday she would understand.
just like me, my husband sometimes points out my shortcomings that i really don't like to listen. when i was arguing with him, i didn't really listen but after a while i would realise that what i've done was wrong and i would try not to do / say that again.
how long have you been married?
give your wife a little bit more time......