My brother applied for bankruptcy in last year, all because he owed a big amount from the finance companies / banks. In fact it happened since I was in the secondary school. At that time my mom would help him to repay the monthly loan. Everytime when he asked for help and we settled the case, he would apply for another loans, it happens for over 20 years and in total we, including my parents, my other brothers, sister and myself, helped him for nearly 1 million ...
When I started having my job I would give 50% of my salary to my mom and sometimes more in middle of the month. Frankly, it was not my intention to help my brother because I always think he should be responsible for what he did. Of course, he didn't and even worse he disappeared for few years and left the loans to us 10 years ago...
Last year when I know he planned to apply for the bankruptcy, I do think it's good for him, probably he wants to have a new start. However, I am wrong again!
He went to apply for the 宗援, even bad he used my parents' name to apply more. When my mom told me that he has sent the application, I cried heavily. I always think the $$ should be for those who really need help. I also think why my parents need to apply for 宗援!
My mom then said the gov'nt asked me to write a letter to them, to prove that I provide them several hundreds only every months. It's not true and I don't want to tell lies. I then used the excuse that I have put their names on my tax return, that it's illegal if I write this letter. Finally, finally I wrote the letter with the true figure but I was really sad and kept crying when I type the letter.
Last month end, my mom called me and asked for the same letter. I also used the same excuse, however, she kept saying that I wrote several hundreds only in last year.
I said that's impossible. How could I forget the painful process in last year? Furthermore, if I have already wrote that letter with less amount, how come they asked for it again??? Then I think it may be the idea of my brother, if I wrote less in this year he will get more from the government...
I then asked my mom why, she said it's because my brother's case is now being take care by other branch. She furthered that it is actually the advises of the gov't official. Probably because my brother aware that my mom could not convince me, he then took the phone and started convincing me.
I used the same reason for not writing the letter. The same he said the gov't official showed him the letter I wrote in last year, it showed that I wrote several hundreds only. I couldn't stand for it any more so I asked him the true reason why I need to rewrite the letter, his reply was, then he would get more from the gov't.
I started out of control and said directly... I will not write the letter but I could promise that I will not claim the parents' tax in next year, then he could claim everything from the gov't. He refused and keep arguing, I pissed off and said if he couldn't wait then I pay him the difference that he will get from the gov't....He then hanged up without saying a word.
Frankly, I am really sad... not only because my parents ignored my feeling and the legal liability, most importantly, they will always help my brother on these ridicious things. In my opinion, if they keep helping my brother, he will never "wake up". Could they help him forever?
My mom and dad called again indvidually and my husband talked to them instead. They said my brother told them if I do not write this letter, my brother is required to return part of the $$ he received in last year to the gov't. My brother is a big liar, he used my parents again...
My husband told my dad for what my brother just said to me. Sounds that he had no feeling at all and kept saying the same thing. My husband gave up and ended the call with the comments... are the several thousands really important that the parents could ignore the feeling of their daughter, and even just let her to take up the possible legal liability??? My husband stayed firm and requested to hang up...
I didn't call my parents and see them since then. I really don't know how to face up with them. From bottom of my heart, I do not really angry with my parents, but I do sad and being hurted.
Sisters, I need to attend a relative's banquet on this Sunday. My orignal plan is not to go, then I don't need to see them. Should I go? To be honest, I couldn't sleep well in these weeks and sad everytime when I think of them... but contrary, what should I say in front of them??? Should I wear a "mask", present to them that I am fine? Frankly, it's not me, I am not that kind of person....
PLEASE HELP!
懷孕
健康
煮意
遊樂
熱話
學校
管教
移民升學
理財
潮流
使用意見
故障報告
下載APP
關注我們
發表於 
返回列表
