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我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

你地曾經有沒有我呢個問題 - 一見到奶奶接觸bb就mun!　（不過我地係完全沒有鬧過交！）
我同奶奶是分開住的,因為我地兩公婆要番工,平日都係由工人take care the baby. My baby is now 4 months old. 奶奶會隔日上來睇ｂｂ．每事都好緊張ｂｂ，初時我坐月的時候係差不多日日上來，我差ｄ因為咁有產後屈．　後來番番工，有一段時間以為會好ｄ，因為我放工番到屋企佢已經走咗，大家少見面．　但一到星期日，佢晏晝就會上來見ｂｂ，成日想抱住佢，好似唔想我比阿ｂ瞓咁．餵奶都爭住餵，因為我阿ｂ食奶時間係７am,11am,3pm,7pm and 11pm.我一早７：３０ａｍ要出門口，到放工番到屋企已經過咗７ｐｍ，有時一個星期我都同佢餵唔夠３次奶，到１１ｐｍ工人會餵佢及抱佢瞓．加上馮星期三自己又要番學，放學番到屋企又已經１１點．

奶奶　”種”阿ｂ係必然，好多時都發表好多意見，要這樣要那樣，我看在眼裹有時就唔出聲，有時都有ｄ黑面，但永無頂佢嘴．而家我見到佢心情就立即好ｍｕｍ，尢其放工番到屋企見倒佢話留响道食飯．心情可以由開心立即變成好ｄｏｗｎ．　My husband needs to go for work this Sunday, I'm wondering how terrible it will be if I just stay with her the whole Sunday (my maid is off that day)!!!!!!! But I can't ask my husband to tell her not to come this weekend. How do I do? Is there anyone who can help me to get rid of this? I really want to build up good relationship with my mother-in-law, as I don't want to let my husband drop into a difficult situation. He is feeling that I'm strange these couple of days. :-|

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

Hi Genki,

I have similar feeling as you towards 奶奶, especially when my first kid was born. Her methods in taking care a child is different from whay my mom teaches me. Of course she thinks that her methods are the best, not even in child caring but everything. I have never had quarrel with her, but the relationship is 好淡.

Actually I think you can take care of your baby during weekend by your own. So suggest you to ask your husband to call his mom, saying that you want to try to take care of the baby alone (as a kind of self-training), Or make up a story that you have friends to visit & not convenient to have 長輩 at home.

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Genki 寫道:
你地曾經有沒有我呢個問題 - 一見到奶奶接觸bb就mun!　（不過我地係完全沒有鬧過交！）
我同奶奶是分開住的,因為我地兩公婆要番工,平日都係由工人take care the baby. My baby is now 4 months old. 奶奶會隔日上來睇ｂｂ．每事都好緊張ｂｂ，初時我坐月的時候係差不多日日上來，我差ｄ因為咁有產後屈．　後來番番工，有一段時間以為會好ｄ，因為我放工番到屋企佢已經走

:-o

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

我雖然不是同奶奶住, 但好多時她都會比好多意見我, 意見我照聽, 但唔會做, 有時會同老公夾好在她面前假裝做了她想的事情, 所以關係都幾好, 我想妳都係同妳老公商量下啦, 除非妳想同奶奶反面否則只有他可以幫到妳.

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

雖然我不是同奶奶住,由於2個小朋友關係婆婆今年就跟我們同住,而奶奶則每天都會我家中幫忙照顧bb,婆婆就照顧大仔HeiHei及家務飲食.奶奶則晚上吃完晚飯才離開。
昨天晚飯時奶奶說起Hei不可以再寵他了,係時後要教他了,跟住我老公說當然有教他啦,唔通時時刻刻都在你面前教咩

(語氣不可太差,話晒都是亞媽不可太無禮),我也插咀說奶奶你不要再縱容他啦,很多時我見Hei百厭打妳或嚇細佬,你都不教訓他,要我出聲;所以很多時Hei才會蝦你。
其實我已多次跟奶奶說過請不要再縱容hei,要跟他講道理,過份時可用藤條打他,我是贊成的。
我奶奶很多時也會比好多意見我,我覺得對的就聽,不對的聽完就算。很多時大家照顧bb方法不同,跟她說過但沒有改善,我都唯有隻眼開隻眼閉啦。:tongue:

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

i have the same problem with you, i know she loves my son so much, and always use the old day method to look after my son. sometimes, i'm so angry that i'd like to give her son (my husband) back to her, and take my son away!

but after i calm down, of course i won't la.
i'd prefer talk to my husband and find the best method of looking after my son.

i think she can feel my anger, and no one want BB bad, so at last, one of us will retreat and make a comprise.

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

見到99抱囝囝、掙住餵奶都算，有次亞囝打c益，我打喊囝囝，等作益完餵奶，但你o地有冇聽過99講，仲要一路講、一路餵奶、一路搖身：Baby，你乖，你啞媽衰，打你可！都嫲嫲對你好，唔好要亞媽，叫你亞媽比我，等我帶你返嘛嫲到，好唔好，我話﹕你呀！我對個仔唔好，你對個仔就最好，吓！我老o左學你，我咪發達囉。
當然老公唔響屋企，99先講啦，佢好識做戲o架，盼個金馬獎比佢就至啱啦

仔仔06-12-2003出世

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

老人家多數會從容孫子的,所以我都唔會俾奶奶湊,雖然我和奶奶關係都好好,佢好無所謂,成個男人敢,但係佢太粗豪了,我怕第時bb會學左佢,加上我唔係太認同佢d教仔方法,因為佢兩個仔都唔洗做家務,而且一對住阿媽d脾氣就忍唔住,家庭關係唔算太融洽.

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

我同奶奶關係都ok既, 不過佢脾氣好差(當然唔會對我發啦),通常都搵我老公黎發既,就算唔關我地事(姑仔或老爺)都好,都係入我地數既,好mum家麻,不過我老公有時頂唔順都會鬧返佢既.

有一次佢去我屋企探個孫,點知個衰仔樓計,我老公大聲鬧個仔,奶奶即刻走去抱走b仔仲鬧我老公:"咁大聲鬧個仔,會嚇親佢架,你要鬧就鬧我好過喇!" 我老公其實都肉赤個仔喊,但係我奶奶分明就係到"種"緊佢,我老公咪叫佢唔好"種"佢啦,佢即刻發脾氣大聲鬧:"咁我以後咪唔入黎囉." 跟住仲嬲左幾日添呀,連老爺話去我屋企食飯佢都唔肯黎呀. 通常佢咁樣我地咪唔理佢囉.

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

我講你知，同老公講係無用架！　This is my experience!　佢只會嘆氣，之後就話手掌又係肉手背又係肉．．．跟住就大家都唔開心．我到而家都未可以好好咁同９９相處．有時自己都口黑面黑，都控制唔倒自己情緒． :cry: I think it is good to share our experiences here, at least I can open up for a moment at Baby Kingdom.

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

My babe will be born in March. My 99 also will live with us afterwards. Now, I am also afraid with these kinds of problem.
I think sharing will be the best solution. Actually, HB will be in a position of dilemma.

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

我又係唔鍾意我老爺奶奶黎我屋企或抱個仔或錫佢。佢地乜都要爭住做，想將來話俾我個仔聽，你細個麻麻都有湊過你。明明我工人接佢放學，佢又要山長水遠走過來接。以前逢星期四至日都要來，後來我向老公詐型，先改為每星期見兩次。以前星期六來到，見我個仔訓晏覺，奶奶又要爭住um佢訓，我有工人架！駛鬼你做咩！佢成日話未試過幫我個仔沖涼，駛唔駛乜都俾你做過晒呀？又鍾意管住我菲傭，工人放假又打黎問佢去過邊，我都未問，你又搶住問，個工人係你請定我請？係你用定我用？又要我工人煮埋d古靈精怪嘅野俾我個仔食，我叫我工人唔駛聽佢講，我先係你僱主。放親公眾假期就老馮要黎我屋企，我屋企人都放假架，佢地都想黎，你黎咗佢地又唔黎，放假又要見到你，真係好討厭好乞人憎，唔通氣，我都有我自己嘅生活，唔係放假就要陪你架！最激死我就係永遠唔通知你，你幾時黎我屋企，"失驚無神恭喜你"，上咗車就黎到你樓下先話你知佢黎緊，你話死唔死？試過我落咗樓去食野都要返轉頭。
老公幫你就話咋，如果佢係愚孝，乜都覺得佢老豆老母係啱，你就死！我老公都麻麻地幫我，我覺得佢地兩個老人家唔會明白我有新的家庭、新的生活模式，佢唔會體諒你

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CarrieSo 寫道:
My babe will be born in March. My 99 also will live with us afterwards. Now, I am also afraid with these kinds of problem.
I think sharing will be the best solution. Actually, HB will be in a position of dilemma.

我絕對唔會同老爺奶奶住，我同老公嗌交時講過幾次，將來你要我同佢地住，我會離婚。我知我性格口直心直，有個句講個句，試過幾次講野令佢地唔開心。大家生活習慣和模式都唔同，老公同佢相處廿幾年就話冇問題，我冇喎！到時有糾紛，你叫我走定你屋企人走？住咗夾唔黎再搬走就尷尬啦！所以我一早講明，佢冇同佢屋企人講，因為佢唔敢講，佢屋企人一廂情願以為，假如佢地是但一個過咗身，我地願意同淨番個個住。
我都有父母，將來佢地都會淨番是但一個喺度，到時老公又唔肯同佢住。都唔可以調番轉頭，所以我堅決唔肯。

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I have same problem too! I will go back to work after lunar new year, 因為工人新來剛做2個月唔放心得佢一個同BB响屋企, 唯有叫奶奶來住一排睇住個印印啦! 我奶奶又喺好鬼trouble, but no choice la, 個仔点都重要D, my sister also warn me la, I should give 奶奶 a message "this arrangment is only for temporary, don't think will live with us forever"!! 唉................真惨 :-( 做mother 真的好唔容易, 壓力太大la, 又要返工, 又要顧住個仔, my husband thinks I worry too many things and it is not necessary :-x , but I guess it is because woman and man have different way of thinking. What should I say, 各位 working mother 你地明白嗎? :-( :-( :-( Really want to quit the job and stay home to take care my son, but financial situation is not allowed 唉 again :-( :-( :-( :-(

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

Genki 寫道:
你地曾經有沒有我呢個問題 - 一見到奶奶接觸bb就mun!　（不過我地係完全沒有鬧過交！）

奶奶　”種”阿ｂ係必然，好多時都發表好多意見，要這樣要那樣，我看在眼裹有時就唔出聲，有時都有ｄ黑面，但永無頂佢嘴．而家我見到佢心情就立即好ｍｕｍ，尢其放工番到屋企見倒佢話留响道食飯．心情可以由開心立即變成好ｄｏｗｎ．　

我都有相同嘅問題，自從生咗ｂｂ之後一見到９９就覺得好煩．我美其名就話同６２＆９９分開住，其實大家都係住埋一齊，因為我哋住村屋，兩間三層嘅村屋共五個單位痴埋，一人一層，但係同一個門口出入，老公兩個細老各佔一層，仲有姑姐姑媽，未生ｂｂ時都仲可以接受咁嘅生活，最多自己早出晚歸，ｂｂ出世生活就唔同晒

記得ｂｂ初出世時，我嘅情緒簡直接近崩潰，一來自己情緒未穩定，一出院９９一手就响我手抱咗我個ｂ，個一刻我覺得好似搶我個仔咁，第一日返屋企就無得俾我休息（我响醫院失眠訓唔到），抱住ｂｂ又要招呼老公嘅姑姐姑媽，擾攘一輪我先可以俾我上番自己屋企，未到兩個鍾又上嚟睇ｂｂ我真係頂唔順，到第二日我巳經累得很緊要，正想訓落床之際，９９又打電話上嚟又要招呼ｄ親戚睇ＢＢ，我嗰一刻Ｄ眼淚不自主流出嚟，我覺得佢哋好自私，佢自己都生過都知好累，點解唔理下我感受俾我休息下．．．

日子一日一日咁過，我好多嘢都好唔鍾意．

我唔鍾意我屋企變咗做無掩雞籠，全屋Ｄ人可以响我間屋自出自入，包括我老公兩個細佬．
我試過得自己同ＢＢ响屋企無關房門餵人奶，突然我９９開我門入我屋，我關都關唔切，無數次令我好尷尬，叫咗打電話先都唔聽．
日日都要睇ＢＢ，最初仲要唔理任何時候，我９９晨早８點又自己上嚟，夜晚１１－２點又上，又成日攞我個仔招呼朋友，連細佬Ｄ朋友都要招呼埋．仲有時响我訓咗帶咗我個Ｂ落去俾Ｄ人睇，等我訓醒週圍搵仔，個工人先同我講９９抱走咗，我又係坐响度喊，個仔係我嘅，點解唔問我就抱咗我個仔去．
依家ＢＢ就嚟４個月，我返工都有一段時間，以為會好Ｄ，但係每日一聽到９９上咗嚟我就好唔開心．雖然我見唔到，但唔知點解．可能我好怕佢掂我個仔，因為佢無咩安全意識，又唔識抱仔，見佢抱ＢＢ就心驚．又唔識換片，又要同個工人爭嚟換，佢可以前後掉轉攬都得，又成日都想整嘢俾ＢＢ食，仲問我飲茶有無俾飽ＢＢ食，叫我俾Ｄ飽ＢＢ食，我知佢好鍚ＢＢ，但係我返咗工唔知佢會俾Ｄ咩ｂｂ食，亂咁嚟．令我好擔心
又唔出聲抱咗我個仔落去，我試過打番屋企無人聽電話，以為個工人揍ｂｂ出咗事，即刻走番屋企，原來９９抱咗ｂｂ去我老公個姑姐度，仲危險到放個ｂｂ响梳化訓，我都唔明間屋都巳經俾佢哋自出自入，點解仲要將ｂｂ抱來抱去，我覺得好危險，因出入有隻大狗睇門口，我有時都驚隻狗整到ｂｂ．
巳經日日都睇ｂｂ，連星期日，想一家三口過都唔得，唔係９９走上嚟，就係要安排揍ＢＢ落去，俾全屋人睇，响呢間屋生活，要應付６２＆９９不只，仲要應付埋老公Ｄ姑姐姑媽．要満足全部人

我一路到依家都係忍，無黑過我９９面，無俾過說話佢聽，仲好乖滿足佢要求ＴＩＭ，但我忍得好辛苦好唔開心，好想搬．．．．．某程度上我覺得９９以為個孫係佢鍾意點就點，唔理我係佢亞媽唔使問我，有時我都諗係咪我小器，我有問題

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Re: 我好唔開心 - - 關於同奶奶相處

Bubble_bb & 各位姊妹:

我好明白大家的心情, 亦十分有同感．　知道雖然自己唔係最差嗰個,但係我真係諗唔倒點可以改善. 而家好多時都同老公關係好怪,大家無鬧交,但好怕講及d敏感問題,更加唔會share太多意見 :-(

bubble_bb 寫道:
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"我都有相同嘅問題，自從生咗ｂｂ之後一見到９９就覺得好煩．．．未生ｂｂ時都仲可以接受咁嘅生活，最多自己早出晚歸，ｂｂ出世生活就唔同晒"

"一出院９９一手就响我手抱咗我個ｂ，個一刻我覺得好似搶我個仔咁"

"我試過得自己同ＢＢ响屋企無關房門餵人奶，突然我９９開我門入我屋"

"日日都要睇ＢＢ...，連星期日，想一家三口過都唔得"