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goodsnooky

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Sorry for typing in English because workplace hasn't got a Chinese typing tool.

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My wife and I have 2 boys, aged almost 10 and 6. She was found to be pregnant again last week. She's in her mid 30s and I'm close to 40. I'm a professional and have a small mortgage to pay off on the house so financially, we have no problem. The only problem is: I can't retire in 10 years :(

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First, retirement by 50 is a torture. What are you going to do between 50 - 80 years old, assuming you die early at 80, the average age of man in HK is 85!. Have the baby. Since your other kids are older, they can look after the little one. 3 kids can have they look after themselves. Even if you retire at 50, you still need kids to keep you entertained. Trust me!

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引用：Quote:johnnywalker+發表於+14-5-6+12:03+

原帖由 goodsnooky 於 14-05-06 發表
Oldest one is almost 10 but is intellectually equivalent to a 13 year old. Younger one is 6 years o ...

I don\'t think this is a reason to justify the call of abortion here. It sounds like you may need to spend time to talk to your sons and explain to them what had happened (you learnt that you spoilt the younger son and you knew how it hurt the older one and how you will do differently in the future or even now,) and how things would work when new baby come.

I personally wouldn\'t take it if my sons try to leverage with me even they have their valid reasons. At the end if the day,we are still the parents and there are certain things we should stand firm on our ground and be the one leading the matter.

It\'s a precious gift to get another baby.hope you won\'t stress out and could figure out how to work it out with your boys. Good luck

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goodsnooky Thanks for the kind advice. We are definitely keeping the BB. 發表於 14-5-12 12:41

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goodsnooky

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Thanks for brooklynbb's comments. I have decided to work something like 4 days a week after turning 50. We have decided to keep the baby. The baby has become the talking point in the family. It seems that everyone likes discussing about the baby.

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發表於 14-5-10 11:05 |只看該作者

如果係因為想可以早D退休而唔要個BB, 呢個想法係幾自私...

其實我同你都一樣, 希望可以提前退休, 但我真係會好小心唔令太太再有BB囉

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發表於 14-5-9 11:41 |只看該作者

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As mentioned in my previous response, we have decided to keep the baby. Yes, we think it's God's will. Maybe God thinks we need the baby to make the family complete. You suggested that abortion is a must in our case because we are one selfish family. You are entitled to your opinion but we don't think we are selfish.

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本帖最後由 circleda 於 14-5-9 11:17 編輯

If you had use a condom and the baby can still be conceived, don't you think it's God's will??

The second baby come out leg first - to my understanding this was only by chance and not a problem of you wife's health whatsoever.

So your wife wanted you to retire in 10 years and you both worry this third baby is an obstacle, and you elder son has cunning thoughts, and you second son is pessimistic

In this case Abortion is a must to prevent a misfortunate baby to face a really selfish family who at the same time claim they are christian!

If you can't happily welcome this baby and you got all the selfish reasons, please please please don't bring him here! Enjoy your life and drop you conscience, now!

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jasontlcheung Looking forward to read his reply on this. 發表於 14-5-9 11:24

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引用：回覆小馬高的帖子我想回答你的問題：1。

原帖由 goodsnooky 於 14-05-08 發表
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我想回答你的問題：

恭喜你的決定

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如果你一開始係寫擔心你太太健康而唔係寫"the only problem" 係擔心退休, then, You are a Man! but now ............forget it!

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goodsnooky

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She knows about the post and she doesn't feel upset at all. She is also worried about her own health and whether she is suitable to carry the third baby.

Christianity doesn't say abortion is completely out of question but it should be the last resort. If you don't understand about Christianity, please don't make rude comments about Christians.

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My wife wants me to retire in 10 years so we can spend more time together. This is not selfish thought.

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brooklynbb 咁早退休好悶架，你又係專業人士，半退休揾輕鬆錢好過啦……其實你擁有最少兩樣好多人好恨有嘅嘢，1. 一份搵到錢嘅工 2. bb 好好珍惜發表於 14-5-10 10:23

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本帖最後由小馬高於 14-5-8 17:17 編輯

goodsnooky 發表於 14-5-8 15:36
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我想回答你的問題：

其實唔係你最後的決定係點
你第一件事諗唔想要個bb, 已經係一個自私的想法, 仲要係驚無得退休先唔要個bb

你要知道, 墮胎不單是非法, 而是非常危險, 你有無為你太太著想過? 你的動機已經非常有問題

希望你太太唔好睇到你呢番說話, 因為真係令人太傷心

枉為基督徒 ... (純粹個人意見, 不吐不快, 其他基督徒不喜勿插)

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ally1234

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樓主你根本就係自私, 一開始你就只係諗冇得退休...""The only problem is: I can't retire in 10 years""

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回覆小馬高的帖子

我想回答你的問題：

1。如果無第3個BB，我可以5年內供完我間屋，用之後5年儲夠錢退休。
2。我有用安全套，但依然有意外。第3個BB可能對太太有危險，因為第2個BB出到世都唔容易，要醫生即刻revive先救番。
3。我做事有計劃，但今次係意外。
4。我地已決定要個BB。

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本帖最後由小馬高於 14-5-8 11:30 編輯

樓主, 我係一個媽媽,我睇完你編野真係好嬲

1. 你太太3x, 你40, 好後生, 你打算50歲退休? 你供完樓未? 10年後你兩個小朋友十幾二十歲, 仲要讀緊大學, 仲需要好多錢, 有無諗過將來? 雖然我唔知你有無錢, 但既然你要為錢要想唔要bb, 都應該一般, 而家65歲退休都早啦, 何況50歲 ?

2.既然你地大家都唔想要個bb, 點解唔避, 白d 講, 你唔好話心我聽唔記得戴套, 呢個世界無意外的, 既然生咗2個都唔想再要, 點解唔做好d 避孕? 而家有咗, 就搵老婆條命黎較飛, 你知唔知落仔好傷心又好傷身,係一個生命黎ga, 會有報應ga, 你自己殺死自己的親生骨肉

3. 你年紀唔細, 唔係18, 22 . 點解做事唔諗清楚 ?

仲有 [size=15.454545021057129px]My wife and I are both Christians.[size=15.454545021057129px] <--- 我唔係基督徒, 都唔會隨便地殺害生命, 十誡不是說不可殺人嗎 ?

[size=15.454545021057129px]如果你唔知道點同兩個仔交代, 因為你連自己都交代唔到

講完

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jasontlcheung GOOD 發表於 14-5-8 20:24

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回覆：Should we keep the BB

再多口講句，楼主一定是早前跟他們"商量",他们才會耍約法三章之類行動。又係嗰句，要懂幾時慬慎，没思量的民主害了他們。父母要攞番主導，控球在手！唸下點再部署場波啦！他們也要知幾時是有商量，咩野事上要服從和尊重。人地爸爸，努力呀！

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回覆：Should we keep the BB

To be honest, I won't discuss over the decision with my children if yet to decide But inform them only. 佢地咁细，—個生命怎可能聽佢地講。

我會试探佢地口風, 用以日後向他们交代和教育的部署。但我若決定要(in fact not needed To decide ) , 我會逐部教他们去接受和我们分享喜悦。這件事上，你要謹慎，今天你俾他們看到你在生命上的決擇，他朝他們也.....

他們就算不太喜歡有细sibling, 也是他们學習的機會。日後也有無盡情況不願看見，但也要學懂接受，從當中看到另一面的美麗。

Your wife is not yet 40, sounds still okay for fertility. if children are in public School, then you have less financial burden. Yes bringing up a new born is challenging than in the past, so pray To your lord and ask for courage and strength. I have two children same as your two ages. I can understand how your wife feels. But please understand her feeling. to her, she may feel even more more stressful..... looking after three children could be worse than working in a full time job. 又擔心功課，又擔心老公份工，又要成日唸點save money.