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我就嚟被C6佢屋企人搞到顛！已經忍佐幾年，而家唔想再忍啦！
因為我同C6住緊間屋係6299一早買定來俾C6結婚時住，所以99一直keep住條鎖匙，初初結婚時，她來時都會按門鐘先，然後就自己開門入屋，而且都唔係成日上嚟。自從我生咗BB後，佢就連門鐘都冇按，鍾意就嚟，唔鍾意就唔嚟，總之無時無刻佢都會突然間係我屋企出現，時時都要提心吊膽(寫到呢度，我已經好想喊，我而家要一個人湊2個B+煮飯，已經好大壓力+好忙，出街好困難)，最恐怖的經驗我試過晏晝同BB訓緊覺，一轉身竟然見到佢係我床邊！如是者，過了幾年，我已經唔想再忍啦！又無能力搬走，都唔知可以點做？為此事，而家同C6冷戰緊，我現在打算反鎖度閘，但唔知會有咩後果？

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緊接受唔到啦!:;pppp: 我果個仲衰到連我睡房門都照開!又要我綁住我d貓，無耐又命令我再縮短d綁貓條繩及話任何時間都唔可以放貓貓出黎走!豈有此理!

間屋又唔係佢買，佢要key自出自入我都算喇!我訓緊覺佢連我房門都開我都忍!佢得寸進尺要我一而再虐待我兩隻貓......頂!

終於我發左封e-mail俾我先生，話佢知我有幾容忍及難受，當時我決定如果佢再迫我，我就自己搬走，及後先生話佢阿媽唔會再話我d貓，我就算啦!
不過從果日起我會反鎖自己係屋企，佢要拍門先入到黎!佢仲好意思問條key點解開唔到度門，我都費事理佢!心照啦!

我係人，人就有容忍既極限!而佢就係度試緊我既極限去到邊!

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發表於 09-1-22 18:06 |只看該作者

already accepted la

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針無兩頭利....受得人地恩惠就預左有呢d野發生
而且你99真係算係咁....大拿拿用筆錢買定樓比你地結婚住(平極都起碼幾十萬啦)....你睇下有幾多太太因為未有能力搬走而要同99一齊住咪仲慘仲無自由

你99盡左本份養大你老公....唔係老馮要買樓比你地住架....你想要話事咪唔好住佢層樓囉

你話未有能力搬走....我就勸你點都要忍埋佢....唔好玩咁大(反鎖度閘)....萬一激嬲左你99收返層樓到時喊都無謂
現實係好殘酷....無能力自立就無人會比面你

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發表於 09-1-22 17:17 |只看該作者

我接受唔到99隨時可以開門入屋，同bf拍拖時、結婚及大肚時，99會早講佢會上黎 or 按門鐘

，點知阿仔出生後唔同晒，同C6講佢話一直都係gem

，之後同C6吵架，99一按門鐘便一秒唔夠便自己開門。

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發表於 09-1-22 11:47 |只看該作者

No la. I only 供起1層樓 we are living in now. And my husband pay for the other one (share with another brother who live with 99's).
However, I agree that: 有自主權先係最幸福！

原帖由 heymom 於 09-1-22 11:28 發表

-我最倩慕係ac321，有本事供起2層樓，靠自己，有自主權先係最幸福！

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發表於 09-1-22 11:42 |只看該作者

If I had a 99 like yours =>She don't need us to buy her a flat, and gave me a flat when I got marry,
Then we will have 4 flats now (use the same $)!!!!!
Forget it, it is only my dream......

Therefore, don't be unhappy! Your 99 is 'good' enough......... (compare with mine)

原帖由 heymom 於 09-1-22 11:28 發表

-我最倩慕係ac321，有本事供起2層樓，靠自己，有自主權先係最幸福！

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 09-1-22 11:48 編輯 ]

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原帖由 ac321 於 09-1-22 10:08 發表
heymom
係咪好倩慕呢=> No, not you.
I 好倩慕 heymom........ as her 99 bought them a flat and they don't need to pay rent/mortgage and have a 'fee of charge' flat to live in............

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-我最倩慕係ac321，有本事供起2層樓，靠自己，有自主權先係最幸福！

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發表於 09-1-22 10:08 |只看該作者

係咪好倩慕呢=> No, not you.
I 好倩慕 heymom........ as her 99 bought them a flat and they don't need to pay rent/mortgage and have a 'free of charge' flat to live in............

原帖由 aromama 於 09-1-22 04:13 發表
HAHA 我比key我99,99都吾上我屋企架,要請先來,99住隔離街,講都吾信ne,姊妹!係咪好倩慕呢?!

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 09-1-22 18:02 編輯 ]

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發表於 09-1-22 04:13 |只看該作者

HAHA 我比key我99,99都吾上我屋企架,要請先來,99住隔離街,講都吾信ne,姊妹!係咪好倩慕呢?!

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發表於 09-1-21 23:25 |只看該作者

can't accept that, too !! but probaby it was my fault that i told her to use her key when we are gone for work and only the maid & bb at home... eventually, she thinks she can just use the key to open the door anytime! It's hard to accept that she think this is her home............

hildameme,

totally understand your feeling! we need to depend on them to look after the babies.. sigh... i almost got 產後抑鬱 after my 2nd baby was born because of 99, too ...

"見一次就唔開心一次" <-- exactly how I feel... but I need to see her almost every morning as she will come over when I left home for work..... because ne maid can't look after 2 babies... so I need her to come over just in case a spare hand is needed... even though she doesn't know how to take care of baby at all..................... what a pity.

"有時都知佢係為我好但唔鍾意一個人佢做咩你都會睇唔順眼" <-- this is exactly how I feel now... no matter what she did... I would be upset. Especially she is spoiling my 2-year old... and I also afraid my baby girl will be spoiled by her, too ..................

my 99 also has the tendency to make my son 跟 her 唔肯跟我... when my baby boy was attached to me.. she would say 'how come he got so attached to you gar.. so weird!" .. I don't see anything weird that the baby attach to mommy wor! She is like 搶仔 all the time............... sigh............

原帖由 hildameme 於 09-1-21 17:15 發表
你嘅心情我都好明白,我奶奶住對面一日自出自入我HOME幾次,仲比佢攬到我依家有產後抑鬱,因為我唔想見到佢,見一次就唔開心一次,見完佢自己會埋一邊喊,但無法子其實佢應該知道我唔鍾意,因為我會有意無意會講D說話叫佢走 ...

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我住既果間屋, 係我同c6既
但有次因c6病左, 大意失荊州咁俾左key佢上黎幫手照顧c6.
就開始自出自入, no call no bell
響28日後...頂唔順....問佢要返條key

佢好唔願....又周圍同親戚講: 我打完齋唔要和尚"喎
我話之佢:lol

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原帖由 naviegirl 於 09-1-21 18:54 發表
If I were you, I would feel like someone crashed into the washroom when i was taking a shower. Like if i have a leased apartment, the landlord does not have any right to visit the premises without ad ...

你完完全全講中我的感受-"I would feel like someone crashed into the washroom when i was taking a shower"。

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原帖由 chole_bb 於 09-1-21 19:00 發表
有一段時間我99都係自出自入(一個禮拜嚟3,4日),搞到我一聽到key聲就好驚,同c6嘈到拆天,要分開咁濟,最慘係佢一嚟到就大叫:bb,嫲嫲嚟咗呀!亞b明明瞓緊覺都比佢嘈醒,次次玩到亞b得番半條人命,有一次發緊燒都唔放過,喺度 ...

我都係"一聽到key聲就好驚"，無時無刻都要豎起耳仔、打醒精神做人，仲發過好幾次惡夢--99帶了一大班人剎上來，我著住睡衣......！

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有一段時間我99都係自出自入(一個禮拜嚟3,4日),搞到我一聽到key聲就好驚,同c6嘈到拆天,要分開咁濟,最慘係佢一嚟到就大叫:bb,嫲嫲嚟咗呀!亞b明明瞓緊覺都比佢嘈醒,次次玩到亞b得番半條人命,有一次發緊燒都唔放過,喺度大大聲講嘢,跟住入房整醒埋亞b,重要話亞b醒咗跟手抱出嚟又玩一倫,

我嬲到想喊,之後佢每一次嚟,我都唔會點同佢講嘢,我會扮到好忙,唔會招付佢,可能佢feel到我唔鍾意,過咗一段就冇乜上嚟,同埋以前佢話親呢樣乜呢樣七我都由佢,湊亞b嘅方法極到九唔搭八我都唔會開聲話佢,因為佢係c6個亞媽,我都想尊重佢,忍得嘅都忍,但係既然佢咁唔尊重我,我都唔需要忍佢,所以依家我覺得唔啱嘅嘅我會say NO!不過呢排佢唔知係咪見我多番d嘢講,又耐唔耐就會拱上嚟

,但係依家會打比我先,如果佢又好似以前咁我又會想

又

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發表於 09-1-21 18:54 |只看該作者

If I were you, I would feel like someone crashed into the washroom when i was taking a shower. Like if i have a leased apartment, the landlord does not have any right to visit the premises without advance notice to the tenant.

Unfortunately it does not applied to your case here. Your 99 thinks that your home is part of her home just like your husband's room before he got married and she has all the right to go to your apartment anytime she likes especially she paid for it. She absolutly does not have the idea that she is invading your privacy.

Do you or your husband pay her any monthly rent?

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發表於 09-1-21 18:13 |只看該作者

換鎖啦

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原帖由 hildameme 於 09-1-21 17:46 發表
你都好起碼bb你自己湊番,我唔鍾意我奶奶嘅原因就係佢一開始幫我湊個女,佢湊咗3年幾湊到個女唔肯跟我,到依家呢個細嘅遲d都要比佢湊,我好驚佢會搶埋我個細女所以成日會諗埋咗一邊囉.... ...

其實到他們大時，一定唔會唔跟你架啦，始終係亞媽，除非你唔錫佢地啫。唔好諗埋咗一邊啦！

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你都好起碼bb你自己湊番,我唔鍾意我奶奶嘅原因就係佢一開始幫我湊個女,佢湊咗3年幾湊到個女唔肯跟我,到依家呢個細嘅遲d都要比佢湊,我好驚佢會搶埋我個細女所以成日會諗埋咗一邊囉....

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