I don't have any expectation from them (the only people that I care are my husband and kids). Frankly, I don't feel uncomfortable that they have preference on the big grandson becaus ...
Take it easy unless you are, in fact, expecting more than visits from them.
I don't have any expectation from them (the only people that I care are my husband and kids). Frankly, I don't feel uncomfortable that they have preference on the big grandson because it is very normal for old people to like the first grandson and they live in HK.
However, I don't feel good that they never ask for them even when they are calling? I don't feel good that they travel everywhere with their friends in China for almost 3 months but don't come to visit their grand children - and we are talking about once a year!
I also feel bad for my husband, he probably did not say to me.
We never live together, no chance to argue or communicate, and definitely won't have 心病.
My parents will visit us 3-4 times/year, and stay at least 1 month/visit. They will call us at least twice a week.
My parents-in-law will call my husband (maybe once a month), but they never ask for talking to the grand children, NEVER! (they even confuse by calling them a wrong name etc)
Even they have visited us ONCE a while, my son always talk about them, and he remembered them. I just feel bad for my son.
I think they are the kind of parents that only love their children, but not the grand children.