My wife recently took our son and left me from Hong Kong. My son is 5 months old and born in Hong Kong. and we have been married for 11 months. She's Chinese and she left Hong Kong with him and took him to China without any notices and also refused to bring him back until my son is 16 years old.
Its been a week since I finished work and back to home. When I was back to my home and saw her message.
it said she's keeping my son in China and she will look after of my son without me until my son is 16 years old.
She originally said she was going to take him but she never came back. Turns out she had this whole plan figured out to take him away from me and leave me. They're in China somewhere now but I don't exactly know where and I have no number/address to contact them. I made many calls to her however her phone off. She will not tell her parent where her current address is in China. Our marriage has been very very strained for a while now. I just lost my whole family and I'm feeling very depressed. How can I see my son again? I need advice. What can I do with not much money?
If she is a housewife and rely on you financially, how can she support herself and your son in PRC without your financial contribution?
I think you better report the matter to the police, telling them that you don't know their whereabouts. You must insist on asking the police to open file for "lost persons"!
Or can you contact your parent-in-law to locate them? At least, get to know that they are safe in PRC.
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Thanks for any advices.
I've been to police station and they told me it should be waiting for more a week and see how is going. My wife is country girl. Her thinking is not same as Hong Kong people. I really want to recover her good relationship with me in order of my son and my family. I don't want to go to worst with her relationship.
Thanks for any advices.
Recently, I heard some Negative news from China. I do not want happening with my family. I will ask the Free Legal Advice scheme and see what they advise.
don't get too distracted or concerned which whatever you hear about certain place or people, it could be just hearsay and may not reflect the truth and besides, it's different case for different people.
right now, it'd be advisable to focus and deal with the matters in hand and hopefully, you'll get some ideas on what to do next. good luck.
abviously she wants to leave u and takes your son along, if she needs money from u, that's better cause she will be contacting you, dont give her money until u see her and your son's face, but if she can support her own in china, and she is not coming back to HK, nothing u really do, or the poilce can do....china is very big she can easily hide from u, maybe u should start looking where her roundabouts in china.
I got message for my wife that it said she will going out to have a tea with me and discuss about this issue this weekend. She said she will not bring my son to see me until this issue fixed. So, what can I do to prepare for her?Any Advices given will be appreciated.
I got message for my wife that it said she will going out to have a tea with m ...
I don't know what issue you are going to discuss with her, but both of you must be practical and reasonable to settle the matter at the interest of the kid. Just update us here! Good luck.
Mahou, from your message, I feel you care your kids more than your wife, right? Did you ignore her since the birth of our child. Is it the cause she left? Anyway there is still hope to recover your relationship because she gave you a chance offer.
Don't talk to her too much your son. Just show you're still loving her.
Good luck man!
@Laumangmang. Perhaps, you are corrected. I think she is jealous of her son. I love my son more than her and she felt ignored. Anyway, I will try to fix up this issue.
What's your background?
You said your wife is a Chinese country girl, how about you?
As I realise you use English but it seems not your native language, may be the cultural difference is the main issue.
To solve the issue, you must probe out the main problem and see if you and/or you wife would like to change, otherwise the problem would go even worse.
You coming meeting is importance opportunity for you to know what she is thinking, remember to hear than say in a sympathy way as you said she is emotional.
Good luck!
From a lady's point of view, I won't leave my husband as long as I still love him or he still loves me. I bet you probably made her be too disappointed, the case is simply a signal to you that you should do something so-called "wrong" during your relations, maybe as you said, you ignore her, or she could not feel your love anymore.
If I really wanna leave my husband, I won't let him reach me in any event. Now, she has promised to meet you again, just take this golden chances to talk to her and figure out the chances to stay together again. Good luck!
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