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Siuchoi


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發表於 09-3-4 13:26 |只看該作者
呢度咁多姊妹比男家恰~ 身為媽咪既你:

1) 點保護囡囡唔比男家恰?
2) 比男家恰時你會點做?
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2#
發表於 09-3-4 13:31 |只看該作者
我會好似我阿媽教我咁:
唔好嫁個多兄弟姊妹既老公, 男家問你識唔識D 咩 (好似煮飯呀, 做咩特別野咁) 都話唔識...因為唔識就唔駛做喇.
如果第二時阿囡唔好彩真係比男家蝦既,我一定會叫佢返外家, 人地唔錫佢0者..仲要自己父母錫.
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ac321


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發表於 09-3-4 13:41 |只看該作者
男家 can't 恰 my kids.
你會點做?
I never give any change for 男家 to 恰 us (me and my kids).
What I did is:
1. never live with 男家 families, include 62, 99, and his brothers/sisters.
2. never ask for 男家's help such as takeing care of your kids, cook for the kids, take care of kids from school.....
3. never depends on 男家 (even your husband because he is also a member of 男家), esp. $. You should contribuit to your family such as share living expenses with your husband (99's son). Then, 99 can say nothing such as his son give you your live ........
4. never give your key to 99's families.

Then, 99 can do nothing and becomes passive........

原帖由 Siuchoi 於 09-3-4 13:26 發表
呢度咁多姊妹比男家恰~ 身為媽咪既你:

1) 點保護囡囡唔比男家恰?
2) 比男家恰時你會點做?
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060905


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發表於 09-3-4 13:54 |只看該作者
agreed.
原帖由 ac321 於 09-3-4 13:41 發表
男家 can't 恰 my kids.
你會點做?
I never give any change for 男家 to 恰 us (me and my kids).
What I did is:
1. never live with 男家 families, include 62, 99, and his brothers/sisters.
2. never ask fo ...

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Ashley0605


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5#
發表於 09-3-4 13:59 |只看該作者
Totally agree!!
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咖央


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發表於 09-3-4 14:05 |只看該作者
我要好好保持自己身體健康,唔好咁早死. 我去左就保護唔到個女
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mother904


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7#
發表於 09-3-4 14:08 |只看該作者
呢個世界好現實，如果男家知道個新抱係：

1.任何方面都既唔駛靠佢地，包括：金錢、照顧bb、家務...，
2.隨時夠膽同佢地反面，可以一年甚至一世唔返去，分分鐘連個孫都冇得見，

仲有邊個敢恰我個囡！
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mother904


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發表於 09-3-4 14:12 |只看該作者
睇睇下，好似會錯意，你係咪想問呀囡嫁左驚俾男家蝦？

呢樣野真係要睇佢命水同性格，好難幫，只可以由細到大教佢自己做好人無所謂，但一定唔可以俾人蝦，遇事要反抗。仲要培養佢唔好有要男家同99照顧、幫忙既心態。

最後一步，就係家門永遠為佢打開。
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Melody_Che


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發表於 09-3-4 14:18 |只看該作者
原帖由 mother904 於 09-3-4 14:08 發表
呢個世界好現實，如果男家知道個新抱係：

1.任何方面都既唔駛靠佢地，包括：金錢、照顧bb、家務...，
2.隨時夠膽同佢地反面，可以一年甚至一世唔返去，分分鐘連個孫都冇得見，

仲有邊個敢恰我個囡！ ...


完全岩, 點保都保唔到個女一世啦!! 所以由細培育佢做一個可以自立既人, 有能力有收入先!! 起碼唔洗靠男人, 唔識睇人面色, 仲洗咩怕佢將來6299... 一句唔岩聽米鬼返去羅!!
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ac321


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發表於 09-3-4 14:24 |只看該作者
there are no difference .........
even we and our 99, or our daughter with her 99....
If a female can:
任何方面都既唔駛靠佢地(include her husband)，包括：金錢、照顧bb、家務...，
Then, what can her 99 do? nothing.......

That's what my mother teach me!

原帖由 mother904 於 09-3-4 14:08 發表
呢個世界好現實，如果男家知道個新抱係：

1.任何方面都既唔駛靠佢地，包括：金錢、照顧bb、家務...，
2.隨時夠膽同佢地反面，可以一年甚至一世唔返去，分分鐘連個孫都冇得見，

仲有邊個敢恰我個囡！ ...
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ac321


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發表於 09-3-4 14:37 |只看該作者
I find that most of the case in BK ...... when the wife complain that they are 俾男家蝦 have 1 or more conditions as:

1) live with 男家. (may be no $ to rent/buy her flat)
2) her parents ask for $, tables, cakes...... from 男家(may be pay by her husband+herself) when she get marry.
3) need her 99 to take care of her kids
4) borrow $ from 62 99 to buy their flat/get marry.
5) $ depends on her husband (her husband pay most of the living expenses.....)

for 1,3,4,5, I will teach my daughter don't do that. However, she still can have her choice.
As a parent, what I can do is no. 1. I won't ask for $, tables, cakes from my daughter/son in-low. That's what I can do.

原帖由 mother904 於 09-3-4 14:12 發表
睇睇下，好似會錯意，你係咪想問呀囡嫁左驚俾男家蝦？

呢樣野真係要睇佢命水同性格，好難幫，只可以由細到大教佢自己做好人無所謂，但一定唔可以俾人蝦，遇事要反抗。仲要培養佢唔好有要男家同99照顧、幫忙既心態。

最後一步，就係 ...

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 09-3-4 14:38 編輯 ]
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發表於 09-3-4 14:43 |只看該作者
我會留一筆錢俾個囡, 等我C時先俾佢,
我在世時, 就同個囡講, 受氣就返媽咪度,
人地蝦你, 你就唔好出聲, 返啊媽度先~~
有個大後台, 我唔怕啊囡俾人蝦~~
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發表於 09-3-4 15:01 |只看該作者
邊個恰我個女我一定同佢死過!
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BBTWIN


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發表於 09-3-4 15:10 |只看該作者
我自己就冇老爺奶奶,同C6拍拖時佢地巳經唔o係度．不過如果佢地仲健在，又真係發生不愉快時．我媽咪都係會叫我忍．因為我媽咪係一個非常專重姻親o既人．佢成日教我要對大伯姑奶好．所以我知道佢一定會叫我忍，以頭家為重．
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發表於 09-3-4 15:14 |只看該作者
原帖由 ac321 於 09-3-4 14:37 發表
I find that most of the case in BK ...... when the wife complain that they are 俾男家蝦 have 1 or more conditions as:

1) live with 男家. (may be no $ to rent/buy her flat)
2) her parents ask for $, t ...



I think the parents have the right to asK for money, cake and tables when their daughter get marry, as their is a kind of tradition of we Chinese. However, I think these money should be paid by the one who get mary, not by their parents.
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BBTWIN


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發表於 09-3-4 15:25 |只看該作者
唔好意思，冇睇清題目tim.

我都係受傳統家庭思想長大．我都會學我媽咪先教兩個女要尊重老人家．特別係老爺奶奶．不過我都知相見好，同住難呢個道理．所以我會提醒兩個女可以的話都唔好一齊住．盡量避免衝突．女大o左應該識點去保護自己，做媽咪只可充當聆聽及安撫的角式，我都唔想兩個女為o左婆媳糾紛而攪散自己個家，代價實在太大啦．
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ac321


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發表於 09-3-4 15:28 |只看該作者
However, their is a kind of tradition of we Chinese is: 62 99 can treat their daughter in-law as a bun bun. It is because they think that they (or his son) have already pay for the daughter in-law's parent!
Therefore, 62 99 always say that it is your (daughter in-law's) responsiblitly to take care of 62 99, ...........
I think that my parents is so clever. They won't take 1 cents from us when we get marry. They said that if they take the $/tables/cakes (ofcourse we pay, not my 99 pay), my 99 will think that his son have already paid for my parent to buy me. Therefore, I am their family's belongings. (ofcourse I don't think so, buy it is the traditional thinking)
My parents told to my 99 that: how much they pay for our marry, my parents will pay double for us. Ofcourse, my 99 won't pay 1 cents.

Until now, my parents always said that (in front of my 99): my daughter got married, but she never marry to my 99's family. She just built up her own family.

Thanks to my parents.

原帖由 mother904 於 09-3-4 15:14 發表

I think the parents have the right to asK for money, cake and tables when their daughter get marry, as their is a kind of tradition of we Chinese. However, I think these money should be paid by the ...

[ 本帖最後由 ac321 於 09-3-4 15:40 編輯 ]
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發表於 09-3-4 16:20 |只看該作者
原帖由 ac321 於 09-3-4 15:28 發表
However, their is a kind of tradition of we Chinese is: 62 99 can treat their daughter in-law as a bun bun. It is because they think that they (or his son) have already pay for the daughter in-law's p ...


我都做齊你所講既野,(table/$$/cake those from me and C6's money) 但現實係,好多99吾臭米氣,佢地吾會諗你講既野,佢地只係覺得新抱係黎攞著數,不過好在我吾理佢地.

點精神protect囡囡都無用, 我地要為囡囡留定好多彈藥$$$, 到佢嫁左都可以係男家大大聲講野.

結婚買樓千其吾好用到男家$,後果真係不堪設想.
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發表於 09-3-4 16:23 |只看該作者
"點精神protect囡囡都無用, 我地要為囡囡留定好多彈藥$$$, 到佢嫁左都可以係男家大大聲講野."
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ac321


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發表於 09-3-4 16:35 |只看該作者
That's the main point I say: as a parents, don't take those (table/$$/cake) from your daughter.
It is beacuse, in the point of 99, his son is also a member of 男家. If his son give $ to your parents, i.e. 男家 give $ to your parents. (even some of the $ is your saving)
Therefore, I won't ask for 1 cents from my son in-law. That's what I will do to 保護 my daughter........


原帖由 心抱 於 09-3-4 16:20 發表


我都做齊你所講既野,(table/$$/cake those from me and C6's money) 但現實係,好多99吾臭米氣,佢地吾會諗你講既野,佢地只係覺得新抱係黎攞著數,不過好在我吾理佢地.

點精神protect囡囡都無用, 我地要為囡囡留定好 ...
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