ok mums,
here it is, tracy went shopping with this mum n little gal and when the gal started to scream and cry for what she couldn't get, tracy placed a little mat on the floor (in case it's dirty), sat her down on the mat from the trolley (no cuddle) and said to her "calm dowm 1st and b a good girl) the more she cried or struggled, tracy held her down on the mat and kept saying the same thing until she really calm down for a bit, tracy put her back on the trolley and prasied her a great deal... (after a few success, tracy said you could let her to pick 1 thing as a gift but not straight after, it has to be at least a few good gals) of course it won't work straight a way, the little gal started again, tracy did the same thing again and again... when they were at the cashier, the little gal started to pick up things from the shelf next to the cashier, tracy stopped her by saying firm "no!" and took the thing in her hand away, instead she showed her different things which mummy got in the trolley, like "look! mummy got you this apple pie, why don't u hold this for mummy please..." (of course the apple pie has been scanned thru the machine already) so, tracy asked the mummy to practice the same thing she did to the little gal by herself next time they go shopping, disregard how many time she has to repeat herself, keep the same method, it is not to punish the little gal but to introduce the proper way to shop otherwise, "we'll stop and you r not gonna go anywhere or get anything" the mum tried this menthod next time they went shopping, yes, it was quite hard work (taking her down, sat her down in the public to calm her when she was screaming) but she did... at the end the little girl finally pick up the new way to shop, she get her praise and prize in the end and shopping together is ever happier to both of them since then!
i've got almost all her books, and it works SO well with my baby boy, shame that tracy has passed away last year from cancer, otherwise i shall visit her for sure when i get back to uk end of this year... :cry: