Fergus / Rita,
Your situation is same as me, may be a little better than me. My mum now is staying with us and go back to her home during weekend. My HB always complains to me, and sometimes my mum will say something is a little bit hurt. But I always say it's better to have a older people to take care of the baby rather than rely on maid, then , it's being better. May be we have time, we can sit together to discuss our mum la.