That's why nowaddays I 've always avoided chatting with them...I find that the more I listen or interact with them, the more I get annoyed. Their minds are far beyond our imaginations and there is never going to be overlap, not even a little, between theirs and ours, in particular , about values.
Their values are often placed on beauty, money, jetso, and selfish stuff. I don't mean how heavenly I am but being Chinese, we will sometimes consider 礼義廉恥 and conscience, whereas they never have these in mind.
原帖由 pollyw 於 09-2-11 10:38 發表
If taking about cleaning work, they can most of the time make it without much problem (given that I'm not strict with it).
My Buns/Yans always have assumed that their work are limited to cleaning wo ...
原帖由 qqqqqq 於 09-2-11 10:47 發表
You know, I go to market and cook for her everyday,even I seldom cook for my parents. I am the one to fetch my kids to school , she only help me to do all the cleaning work. I also assist her someti ...
The hell I would ask them to cook for myself. What they hav cooked will be juz sth uneatable which even she herself wouldn't put into her mouth.
Frankly, at last they would look for some other jobs in HK. But for those that I have hired, including my current one, who often don't like learning their Cantonese and cooking skill, it's very difficult for them to survive out their in HK...They never realised this point..
I think my situation is similar to you, hire her for cleaning. I already try local helper for cleaning before, that's fine. But,two of the kids have some actitives after school, but they are not study at same school, that is the reason why I need someone assist me. I want to put more time with my kids, so I don't want use the time for cleaning the house.
原帖由 pollyw 於 09-2-11 10:38 發表
If taking about cleaning work, they can most of the time make it without much problem (given that I'm not strict with it).
My Buns/Yans always have assumed that their work are limited to cleaning wo ...
My present policy is, 'one eye open, one eye close', as my maid is good to my baby, I keep all the briefing as minimal as possible. Of course, she occasionally needs some medical check, like lung x-ray!!
原帖由 pollyw 於 09-2-11 10:47 發表
That's why nowaddays I 've always avoided chatting with them...I find that the more I listen or interact with them, the more I get annoyed. Their minds are far beyond our imaginations and there is ne ...
wow, haven't been here for half-day then 2 pages have been added in this Horse Critic! Thanks for you guys' support!
Enjoy so much these 2 pages coz finally you guys are getting serious on the theme!! (well, of course I enjoy all the jokes).
Originally wanted to make their working atmosphere a more friendly one, but in reality this will finally make your life far more difficult. This time when I blamed "Middle Lady" I have never spitted out these words before with her predessesors: "U are EMPLOYEE only, not part of the family. Mind your own status pls". Have to admit that I had to give up my usual friendliness and it was totally their fault to make me being so harsh.
Regarding Christy-mama's enquiry, I applied military training on them: 立正!站好!爲什麽隻腳不是穿在拖鞋裏?look into my eyes!......
Well, if you can't control this at the beginning, or your maid has gone wild, I would suggest you buy another one rather than spending time to tame them.
Thanks for everyone's opinion. From my observation, "Middle Lady" isn't that bad in roots, but just like to shoe-polish (coz she has not been outstanding in the past), and unfortunately she had to throw away all the brushes when meeting me. Pls continue to have more discussion on management skills and strategies!