This is really depends on your husband. If he think which method is suitable then ask him to arrange.
To me. when we are getting marry, my brother was still a student although over 20, he only be my best man and no gift to me, and I also said no need. As be the best man need to do a lot of thing for us.
In the future, when he married, I will give him money or gift depending on my financal status.
If he feel that is not enough and black face to me or my wife......then please. I don't mind to lose a brother if he was so trouble.
(By the way, I am a man , I share the account with wife here)