"When I first met NDW, she looked much younger to me than she really was. I thought she was about 16, perhaps 18-19 at the most.
She had long black hair.
That and her eyes were about all I noticed about her features. Her eyes were large like she was seeing new things. I could tell she was very alert and observant.
When we were introduced to each other, as I spoke she was listening to me with her eyes and seemed aware of what I was speaking.
It seemed that she was more mature than she looked and also seemed to be someone who could be trusted.
I felt safer with her despite the difference in our age and culture background.
I still needed to get to know her to make sure and see if she really understood me or not.
I also saw a tenderness and compassion in her eyes that made me feel this is a person worth getting to know better."
fafacat: These are typed by him. I asked him to write these down and I put it up here.
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fafacat
These are typed by him or you still are keeping every words he said. Love at first sight!
發表於 11-9-7 21:42
雖然大部分他們在講什麼,我不是聽得很懂。但是,我也可以觀察到雞蛋是一位很有交際能力的人。He has a very pleasant manner. 又有幽默感,常常講話有個 punch line 使聽見的人笑不欲止。我很喜歡坐在他旁邊,跟在他身旁,潛意識裡想沾到一點光彩似的。最強烈的感覺是一份安全感。我並不是矮小的人,媽媽曾經怕我太高了,找不到人嫁。這雞蛋一定出乎媽媽的意外,他比我高差不多一尺。
在這聖經讀者聚會 (基督徒聚會)裡,我們每人手裡只有聖經,最多是加一本 concordance. 沒有帶領人,在這裡,我們人人平等。 我特別留意雞蛋的表現。雞蛋真是不同凡響,一談到聖經,神的話語時,他很多正面的讀後感,而且還會隨機引用聖經經文支持他的論點。與干媽談論得滔滔不絕。我同干爹大部份時間卻靜坐著做聽眾。從這查經聚會中,我觀察到雞蛋並不是那種為追到好女仔而口話自己是基督徒的男生。 雞蛋也不是一位熱衝於基督徒組群活動的"好"基督徒。 He realy takes God's words in his heart. 他是“唯喜愛耶和華的話語,晝夜思想”的有福之人。 ~ 詩篇第一篇
第一次查經過後,我單獨問干媽覺得雞蛋這人如何? 干媽面露外母見到未來女婿,口水DUR DUR 帝 0甘0既表情說:“He is a young fine man .”。
我也認同干媽的觀察判斷。我在過去參與過不少未結婚的年輕人的查經班,團契,主日學等聚會,我從來沒有見過像雞蛋一樣活躍於聖經討論。 我見過的未婚男生,他們不打瞌睡,能帶著耳朵來聆聽已經是很好啦。
有一個農展會,基督徒組群裡有一對公公婆婆有幾張免費入場卷,他們請我和雞蛋同去。相約於下午在入口裡面見面。好像是個double date。叫我們上午早點入場先兩個人玩玩。
那天,我知道雞蛋剛畢業,正邊做工廠臨工邊找與他讀的 major 有關的專業工種。一定很窮,我也是依賴父母供應的窮困留學生。於是我提議我先早上做好三文治帶去做午餐。We will have a picnic. 這是我第一次做吃的給雞蛋。
雞蛋吃得津津有味。我看他是“有情飲水飽”。
下午,與公公婆婆共四人同行。公公恩愛地推著婆婆的輪椅來會面。雞蛋也很賣力幫手推住婆婆坐的輪椅走馬看燈。實在太多東西看了。很多次,我們停下來看一些展覽品,雞蛋都指東指西問我喜歡這個那個嗎?我都搖頭說不喜歡。問到可能婆婆都煩了,就對我笑著說:“哎呀!你就揀件啦,雞蛋是想送樣禮物給你啊!”噢!我才醒目。我一望,心目中是要選件最便宜的物品來讓雞蛋買。結果是一個中國制的香座。雞蛋覺得挺有意思的,他說我也是中國制得。呵呵呵!
至今,這件雞蛋送的禮物一直跟隨著我們的家。 我叫他扔掉,他還不舍得。現在放在他的私人物品中深藏著。連同遺書一起放。
我話就話“雞蛋看來上釣了”這麼牙刷, 其實雞蛋也在起我的底子。問埋曬我 D 如何看受洗的意義,如何覺得自己是正在跟從主耶穌等討論性問題。好在我又很從心底裡有興趣地與他以聖經為基礎來談論這些屬靈的事。雞蛋後來話我知,我不像他以前認識的女朋友們,她們一講到聖經就即時沒有什麼可以接著話題講下去了。The conversation just stopped there. All the sudden become so quiet. The most they can do is replay with "Uh hum...Yeah..." with a smile and than say nothing. 還有的反應跟甚,覺得煩加悶。 但與我談起神的話語時,我們都有很多交流。從這,他便信我是真心愛主的,真心追隨神的話語而活的。
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了解到了這階段,雞蛋是否一位真心愛神,跟隨主的問題已經不再成為我的疑問了。
接下來的,我想我該要坦白下我自己內心的〝衰0野〝,那個舊我還是想 backing in to the heaven's gate。看看雞蛋接受得我還是不接受。我既想嫁個基督徒,同時又想嫁個律師呀、醫生呀、老板呀、總裁呀,起碼都要是位專業人事吧。 總之嫁了后可以不用出外打人家的工, 看人家的臉色的生活就最好啦。 至於為何要老公的收入這麼高呢?環顧教會各家庭真的很少姐妹嫁了人生下孩子還要出去做工的。