but i agree it must be heavy burden when u provide a very good life to both.
In the past, I gave my girl studying in an expensive kindergarten, including her other activities, it is around 10K per month, now I have three, I changed them to study local school (not bad one, very good) and it costs less. 10K can support three kids.
In addition, buying less expensive clothes. In the past, my girl's clothes costs very expensive, all with brand name, now, cheaper lor and but in good quality! Then, similiar!