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原文章由 conniechan1975 於 07-8-6 22:57 發表
tks. but i really go to " big" on the street ar. need to find toilet ar.

your gf so lucky. do u know my ex-bf just dump me in june this year? i think kind of because i have some mental and di ...

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過去左既唔開心唔好再諗, 因為其實唔係好多人明白我地既病同感受, 不過我地明白你既彷徨, 你既憂慮, 你唔會得一個人行架

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我個人經驗覺得傷風/感冒既徵狀都好易令驚恐發作, 所以我會睇西醫架, 因為快d好呀ma

你今日好d未呀?

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都明白如果你打電話比你ex-girfriend, 佢點解會有抖唔到氣/驚恐既感覺

我地呢種病既人其實都幾依賴架, 好需要安全既感覺, 而你地既分開, 我相信佢感到失去依賴, 所以每次你再搵佢時, 佢內心會有一種恐懼, 佢好驚以後如果發作, 唔知可以搵邊個支持

你嚐試叫佢上黎同我地傾下, 最多我地打返多d中文啦, 呢度佢可以搵到明白佢既聲音, 係一種共鳴好緊要架

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ConnieChan1975,

I really feel for you. My C6 has diaherra like yours before and it last for 10 years. Now he's getting better but don't know why. He has done nothing it to cure it. Like your case, he always look for toilet to big when going out and almost everytime after eating a little bit of food he will need to go Big right away. It brought him a big pressure as I could see. But it didn't lead to any panic and that's what I what to tell you.

I truly suggest that you go try yourself getting into malls more often. You may start with those with more toilets. Bring along your napkin (or even put it on), extra pants in your handbag to make yourself feeling safe (actually you won't need it). Go line up in the toilet if you need it, and if you feel panic, jsut let panic, or, if you feel like "Lai", of course hold it and tell yourself that "Lai" is just fine as I got extra pants. Don't magnify to yourself about teh result of "Lai C" as even if it happens it's not a big deal!!

To tell u a secret , when I was 2x year old I "Lai Liu" in a shopping mall cus I was so urgent and couldn't find a toilet in time. My bf (ie my C6 now) saw the whole thing happen.

I had my whole lower body wet taking the MTR back home. So wat?? I'm still here and I never Lai Liu again.

I feel sorry to see you affected so much by the diaherra and sincerely ask you to try it out. You may not cure your diahera for the time being (it takes time) but you can still lead a "closer to normal" life even with diaherra.

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Tech4Lee

都明白如果你打電話比你ex-girfriend, 佢點解會有抖唔到氣/驚恐既感覺

我地呢種病既人其實都幾依賴架, 好需要安全既感覺, 而你地既分開, 我相信佢感到失去依賴, 所以每次你再搵佢時, 佢內心會有 ...

Agree with you 卡樂B薯片. It seems you are quite fine BTW. Keep going !!!

Tech4Lee, you may print out some of those messages in here and pass it to your ex-gf (or gf

) for a look if she won't bother to look into the BK. Sorry I can't type Chin as I don't know how but still I'm willing to offer a little help if I can.

(I understand it's not quite friendly to type in Eng here in BK and how I wish I can type Chin too

)

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你唔駛學打中文啦, 唔好有壓力呀.....傻妹
你真係幫左我地好多呀....

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原文章由 卡樂B薯片 於 07-8-7 08:35 發表

connie
過去左既唔開心唔好再諗, 因為其實唔係好多人明白我地既病同感受, 不過我地明白你既彷徨, 你既憂慮, 你唔會得一個人行架

絕對同意....係我睇這裏前跟本好唔明你地既病同感受,多睇多了解現在才明. 我記得有次她暈左係地鐵,我收到call個路人話她暈倒去緊醫院,我係屋企第一次騰哂雞,之後去到見到她當然定返哂,我只識坐係床邊握着她的手以作支持,都唔知可以點做幫到佢,內心好難受....旁人真係好難明白怎樣幫你們,需要你們不嫌其煩講出口你們的需要架!

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pollyw
你唔駛學打中文啦, 唔好有壓力呀.....傻妹
你真係幫左我地好多呀....

Oh not really !!! I'm just nothing! Instead, we need to thank God for giving us chance to share here.

At times I am weak too and stressful, and I need to count on God for the strength He offers. What we see as stress for us has actually got it meaning behind which is part of God's plan.:) :)

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原文章由 卡樂B薯片 於 07-8-7 08:47 發表
Tech4Lee

都明白如果你打電話比你ex-girfriend, 佢點解會有抖唔到氣/驚恐既感覺

我地呢種病既人其實都幾依賴架, 好需要安全既感覺, 而你地既分開, 我相信佢感到失去依賴, 所以每次你再搵佢時, 佢內心會有 ...

Oh my God....比你講中哂....同她講的一模一樣...其實什麼是安全既感覺?

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原文章由 pollyw 於 07-8-7 10:28 發表

Agree with you 卡樂B薯片. It seems you are quite fine BTW. Keep going !!!

Tech4Lee, you may print out some of those messages in here and pass it to your ex-gf (or gf ...

print out some of those messages in here ....Good Idea wor, thanks! I also don't know how to type Chinese ka

我用手寫板

中藥苦嗎?她怕苦.

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安全既感覺即係我地發作時, 只要一見到果樣野 (可以係一個人或一樣物件) 個人就會定哂安心哂, 我地發作時, 通常會有抖唔到氣, 喉嚨實哂既感覺, 然後就會好驚, 因為驚會死

你要明白, 呢種憂慮係我地理智上控制唔到, 而且一發不可收拾

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即係我地發作時, 只要一見到果樣野 (可以係一個人或一樣物件) 個人就會定哂安心哂, 我地發作時, 通常會有抖唔到氣, 喉嚨實哂既感覺, 然後就會好驚, 因為驚會死

你要明白, 呢種憂慮係我 ...

Yeah, 卡樂B薯片 is right.

Some people bring along things like cross, Pak Fa Yau, gums, cell phone (for calling closest person), etc, which make them safe and help to relax. Some people need a person next to him, say her husband /bf. SOme, like me, have no specific kind of measure when attack comes, but my 安全既感覺 comes from "escaping from the environment". But as you may have read from the book, these are actually no good and actually the patient must gradually quit all these habits. These "safety tools" are just to help us escape and feel better right at the attack, but they don't help us face the treatment.

But of course, I think if your gf got the attack, at that critical moment you can still be next to her to support and to remind her this will be over. Your position will be jsut like a "treatment officer" instead of "safety tool". And I think you may need to assure/remind her afterwards that it's no harm, as proven by the fact. And don't bother to produce things like Pak Fa Yau or gums la.

Sorry, perhaps I'm talking too much but really want to help....

BTW, what situtations are you gf afraid of??

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