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發表於 08-4-19 19:55 |只看該作者

Isaac.cheng,
Gabriel did that to me and one time.. I got a one degree tear at my 6 o'clock area (under my nipple). I found it out when I pump milk at work with all the blood coming out.. I was scare to die.. with my shield on my breast.. blood leaking over my uniform.. running upstair to see the GYN.. surgeon said that I got the tear from.. Gabriel's biting. Glad that .. it did not infect.. because breast milk always surround the site.
but then, everytime Gabriel bites me.. even it is an accident. he has punishment.. I hit his lip, and stop BF.. let him starve for 1 meal.
now.. he has 7 teeth.. he's never bit me.
they know.. what they are doing.. so you have to make it very clear.. no bit, or you are going to suffer from starving

原文章由 Isaac.cheng 於 08-4-17 02:58 PM 發表
Dear Nillie, I am feeling exactly you said. I am wondering if we had made a wrong mistake.....please check your pm.
Isaac has 2 teeths on the bottom and 2 on the top are coming now. He bites me when ...

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Hihi Nillie, I am scared of Isaac now. For some reasons, he doesn't want me bf him too....if this is the case, please give me some advices on quitting. I didn't bf Isaac yesterday, my breasts hurt so much last nite.

原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-4-19 19:55 發表
Isaac.cheng,
Gabriel did that to me and one time.. I got a one degree tear at my 6 o'clock area (under my nipple). I found it out when I pump milk at work with all the blood coming out.. I was scare t ...

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發表於 08-4-22 03:52 |只看該作者

Isaac.cheng,
then in this case, you need to use your hands to sqeeze some milk to release the pressure.. but not empty your breast.
eat the animal intestines, pigeon, reduce your intake of fluid back to 6-8 glasses a day.
reduce BF skin to skin slowly.. you can't just stop it.. that is not possible. you will have very bad engorgement..
if you used to bf 5-6 times a day, reduce it to 4 times, then take 2-3 days, reduce it to 3 times, I am doing that too..
now, I only bf skin to skin Gabriel 2-3 times a day.. no more pumping.. and Gabriel is on Whole milk at day time and before bed.

原文章由 Isaac.cheng 於 08-4-20 08:01 PM 發表
Hihi Nillie, I am scared of Isaac now. For some reasons, he doesn't want me bf him too....if this is the case, please give me some advices on quitting. I didn't bf Isaac yesterday, my breasts hurt s ...

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發表於 08-4-28 01:16 |只看該作者

Hi Nillie, thanks. Isaac is behaving normal again after I posted the question to you. So I am bf him again but not as often as in Hong Kong. I only bf him in 3 times a day. But he wakes up almost every hour in the middle of nite. He looks for my breast. He goes back to sleep after sucking for around 5 mins. I guess he is not feeling safe in this place. I hope he will do better later.
My hubby will has his 3rd interview next Friday in Red wood City. If he gets the job, we will fly to NY the next week after next Friday. I will call u if the trip is confirmed.

原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-4-22 03:52 發表
Isaac.cheng,
then in this case, you need to use your hands to sqeeze some milk to release the pressure.. but not empty your breast.
eat the animal intestines, pigeon, reduce your intake of fluid back ...

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Isaac.cheng,
that is cool, and I wish that he will get the job that he interested in .. ^O^
yeah.. I guess.. probably because he is insecure.. also.. your maid is not here as well...
poor lil boy.. so you need to be patience and help him to get thru this period, ok? you need to take some naps with him in the day time, otherwise, your immune system will break down.. OK?

yeah.. we may have gathering at May 18, not so sure.. but if you interested, let me know.. ok?

原文章由 Isaac.cheng 於 08-4-27 12:16 PM 發表
Hi Nillie, thanks. Isaac is behaving normal again after I posted the question to you. So I am bf him again but not as often as in Hong Kong. I only bf him in 3 times a day. But he wakes up almost ...

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Isacc mami,
Long time no talk lar! How are you and Isacc? How you feel living in CA?

Nillie,
I just have the 1st mastitis last week. It's really painful and I have fever for 3 days. After taking the antibiotics for 2 days, my left breast was even more swollen and painful. My head was just like being banged by a hammer and my whole body from top to hip was so much in pain. I felt like in hell and could not see when I could get out from it. My ob told me that it will take up to 4 days to feel better. Now, it's the 6th day and I feel much much more better. My breast is soften again but my nipple still hurt as Amanda bit me and sucked so vigorously when the milk ducts were clogged. There're several times that the milk turned pink because my nipple's bleeding. Another thing happened at the same time is my period - the 1st period after delivery of Amanda - that's why my hip and my lower back were so hurt. I cannot believe that I have 2 terrible thing happened at the same time!

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And, Spencer starts to show jealousy and he cries for everything, struggles for my companion, refuses to listen and fights so hard with us. Once I put down Amanda or give her to another person, he runs to me and spread his 2 arms to me. I have to admit that I did not pay enough attention to him and treated him the proper way before and now, I see the result and I know that I need to make more than double the effort to correct his bad habits. He's my son and I know that he's a very loving and caring boy. I really need to have more patient to teach him and bring him up as a good person. Sometimes, my hubby thinks that he's bad and always says that he needs to punish him. I feel that Spencer's lack of security and beg for our care. These days, everybody telling me that I have good reason to leave Spencer to my hubby because Amanda is so stick to me. However, I think that I need to work this out - maybe give myself and Spencer some mommy time everyday to let him know that he's loved.

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發表於 08-5-13 07:41 |只看該作者

rose-mag,
glad that you are feeling better after the infection.

I had a few times already.. and every time takes me a few days to recover.. especially hard for us as we are working mom with that engorged breast with fever and pain..

most of the time, left your son with his father when you have to deal with Amanda which you are not be replaced.
then, spend a reading time, a bath tub time with your son.. comfort him, made up a silly story.. color the wall with the crayora bath time paint.. do some silly thing.

he knows you love him.. and he just afraid to loss you.

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發表於 08-5-13 07:50 |只看該作者

babytomato,
you need to build that up, skin to skin your infant every 2 hours, breast fed infant have to be fed at least 12 times a day in the initial period.
so, you must change your pattern now, as you even notice that your breast feeding schedule is not established.
wake your infant up by changing his/her diaper round the clock, it is hard to wake up every 2 hours, but if you chose to be a breast feeding mom, then, you need to give up your sleeping time. after skin to skin your child both of your breast, (or just 1 side if you have a lot of supplies), then, pump out the rest to empty your breast to maintain the maximum reservior.
Amanda was a premature baby, 34 weeks when she was born, and she was feed every 1.5 hours for the whole month.
how's your diet? do you eat well?
how many meals you eat everyday? how many beverages you drink everyday?
about your pump, how is the suction power? did you set it to high level? or at minimum level? any air leaking?

Nellie,

我的bb在5月2日出世, 只有5lbs4oz. (39 weeks) 我只用母乳餵她, 但她差不多每4小時才吃一次奶, 而不是書上說的每2-3小時(for newborn babies). 妳說我應該擔心嗎?

另外我在hospital租了個breastpump, 但每次只得幾滴, 有沒有什麼方法呢?

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發表於 08-5-14 06:38 |只看該作者

thanks a lot Nillie, i thought i'm fully equipped and know a lot after taking the breastfeeding class, but the longer i bf, the more uncertainties i have. it's lucky that we have you here to help and share your knowledge. there're lots of people who are expert in child care but not everyone is willing to spend so much time to help others. i'm surprised that you have time to go online at work, when i was in the hospital, the nurses were all running around and didn't have a minute to rest.

my mil has come from hk and will stay with us for 1 month, she does all the cooking now and i think i'm eating a good diet. i drink a lot too, have to go pee pee every hour. i don't mind getting up at night to bf, i just don't want to wake my husband up because he has high blood pressure and was sick after taking great care of me and the baby (i had 2nd degree laceration and severe back pain and anemic and was crying everyday when i was in the hospital)

when you say bf every 2 hours, does it mean 2 hours from the beginning of the previous feeding? or the end? when do i start decreasing the number of feeding and how do i know?

i read from a book that babies have a growth perk at 7 to 10 days, what is a growth perk? my bb weighs 5lbs4oz at birth and 5lbs 12oz on day 11, is it acceptable?

i know babies eat more as they grow, so if she's sucking 15 mins on each breast now, as she grows, should it take longer? like 20 mins on each side for the 2nd month, then 25 mins on each side the 3rd month....

will babies overeat? esp when i bottle feed the breastmilk? what are the signs that she doesn't want anymore?

if she falls asleep while feeding on the first breast, should i wake her up and offer the second breast?

since my bb is underweight her doctor suggests us to supplement with formula, is there a brand that you recommend?

breastpump questions:

i was using the ameda pump from the hospital but the medela has arrived yesterday so i'll try it today.

since i'm pumping multiple times a day, can i store them in the fridge during the day and put them in one stroage bag before i go to bed and freeze it? i don't want to waste a bag if there's only a little milk.

should i pump right after feedings? or in between?

my mil said she shouldn't use any soap to wash the bottles but the medela instruction booklet says we need to use a mild soap after each use, who should i listen to?

i'm sorry to have so many questions, hope it doesn't bother you.. thank you!!

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發表於 08-5-14 08:11 |只看該作者

again.. babytomato,
we are here to help.. for me I was working as a ward incharge at night in med surg unit, so I got time to go online at middle of the night.. when I was working in nursey before.. I have never stopped for a second.. very poor quality of working.. now, I work 9-5 mon to fri.. which is very different. I can go online at home now.

when you say bf every 2 hours, does it mean 2 hours from the beginning of the previous feeding? or the end? when do i start decreasing the number of feeding and how do i know?
2 hour each meal..so 12 feeds a day, it count from the second your baby woke up and you skin to skin your infant, till the next cycle. (so, your rest time may be about 45 mins if you do not do it fast enough.. )
i read from a book that babies have a growth perk at 7 to 10 days, what is a growth perk? my bb weighs 5lbs4oz at birth and 5lbs 12oz on day 11, is it acceptable?
growth perk means baby will eat much more and grow faster.. Do not weight your infant every day or every week, you will get insane, just relax.. leave that business to the peds.. even your infant was born with 5lb4oz, on the day she discharge back home, she doesn't even have 5lbs, believe me.. I was working in nursery for a while.. infant normally lose some weight on the first few days of life. so, she can get back and even have 5lb 12 oz on 11 days old, she is doing good.
i know babies eat more as they grow, so if she's sucking 15 mins on each breast now, as she grows, should it take longer? like 20 mins on each side for the 2nd month, then 25 mins on each side the 3rd month....
normally, they won't.. because the content of your milk will change from period ro period. (ratio of water base and fat base), at new born, higher water base then fat base, but when your infant gets older, the ratio of fat base will increase.
I would say, first 10 mins will be water base, so you need o BF on 1 side for 15 mins, so your baby girl will have about 5 mins sucking on fat base.
will babies overeat? esp when i bottle feed the breastmilk? what are the signs that she doesn't want anymore?
breast feeding infant will not overfed, because they will stop sucking on your breast and show you the "drunk" look when they are full. aware with bottle fed breastmilk, that overfed always found.. overfed cause vomiting and slip up.. when she is full, she will refuse to suck from teats.
if she falls asleep while feeding on the first breast, should i wake her up and offer the second breast?
depends, how many minutes she sucks.
since my bb is underweight her doctor suggests us to supplement with formula, is there a brand that you recommend?
which formula did your baby girl used in hospital? continue that one. and that is my recommendation. it is because it will reduce the chance for GI upset.
breastpump questions:

i was using the ameda pump from the hospital but the medela has arrived yesterday so i'll try it today.

since i'm pumping multiple times a day, can i store them in the fridge during the day and put them in one stroage bag before i go to bed and freeze it? i don't want to waste a bag if there's only a little milk.
for frozen breast milk, you must freeze your breast milk right after you pump, you can not keep the milk in the fridge for a whole day, and freeze it.. that is against the protocol from WHO.. I did that, frozen all milk in that storage bags, bag by bag, my maximum period, I got 600 bags of breast milk (from 1oz to 8oz each bag) in my chest freezer. I would suggest you, if you keep those milk in fridge.. hum.. you can wait until it cool down, then you can put them into the same bottle, to save the space.. but you need to discard them after 48 hours. Once you pumped, and not frozen it ASAP (which you kept in the fridge), you can not frozen it afterward. (for safety)
should i pump right after feedings? or in between?
as you better pump after feeding.. you are going to skin to skin every 2 hours, plus pumping.. you have less than 45 min to take a break or sleep in that every 2 hours.. I don't think that you have time to pump between feed.. as there is no "between feed" at all.. you will drive yourself crazy.
my mil said she shouldn't use any soap to wash the bottles but the medela instruction booklet says we need to use a mild soap after each use, who should i listen to?
you must wash the bottle , teats with soap every time.. breast milk is very good in nutrition which can cause bacterial infection plus breast milk contains oil.. how your 99 can clean it without soap?
you even need to use the sterilizer to steam all the equipment as well according the guideline from medela.

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發表於 08-5-15 03:37 |只看該作者

原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-5-13 07:41 發表
rose-mag,
glad that you are feeling better after the infection.

I had a few times already.. and every time takes me a few days to recover.. especially hard for us as we are working mom with that engo ...

Nillie,
After 7-day antibiotics program, I feel much better. My ob checked me up today and she said that I'm fine now, no more infection. But, since Amanda sucked my nipple so hard and there're several cuts on it, I still feel in so much pain when I breastfeed her. Now, what I can do is to wait for its recovering and stand for the pain. I do apply some lanolin and milk on the nipple to get it healed faster.

I start to spend some more mommy time with Spencer everyday now. I bathe him almost everyday, try to read a book with him before bedtime (sometimes, I ask my hubby to do it), let him sit on my laps and put Amanda next to me and get down to his height when I talk to him. My sister came to here from HK for a short vacation and she really helps me to see the difference of alternative ways to talk and play with Spencer. I realize that I need more efforts to teach Spencer who is in fact quite creative and smart on learning things. To my surprise, he can speak out the names of different objects or animals after mentioning to him a few times. And, he's willing to go to bed on his own if I stay a little bit next to his toddler bed and talk to him.

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發表於 08-5-15 03:49 |只看該作者

原文章由 babytomato 於 08-5-14 06:38 發表
thanks a lot Nillie, i thought i'm fully equipped and know a lot after taking the breastfeeding class, but the longer i bf, the more uncertainties i have. it's lucky that we have you here to help and ...

Hi babytomato,
Congratulations to your new addition! It's normal that when you put your knowledge into practice, you will find that it's so different. Actually, every baby is different. The experience and situation were not the same for my 2 kids. I thought that I knew quite a lot after my son's bornt. But, when I dealt with my daughter, certain kinds of adjustments have to be made.

Hormone change leads to mood swing plus there're so much uncertainties for caring a baby, what you need is to have more rest and stay positive. I cried so much after my babies bornt. Even right now, I sometimes feel so helpless (actually, I have help from my parents and my hubby) and I cannot control myself from crying. What I do is to give some personal time to myself and keep telling myself that the hard time will be over one day. Actually, after the first month, you will find out that you know your baby better. On and off, you can see her progress. Now, my daughter is 9 months old, she's very cheerful, lovely but demanding. She sometimes draws me crazy but most of the times she brings me so much joys.

Believe in yourself as a mom who can know your baby better than the others. Try different ways if the one that you are using is not working. There's no fixed path for taking care of baby except some basic rules of babycare.

Welcome to the mom's club!

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發表於 08-5-15 06:23 |只看該作者

rose-mag,
I am a bad nurse mami.. I did take tylenol sometimes when I have to breast feed Gabriel.. mostly I take it an hour before skin to skin, to make sure the pain pills work on time.
as if your pain is acting up, your milk supply will drop deal to the pain.. therefore, you need to control your pain to maintain your milk supplies.
tylenol is a trusted brand for breast feeding mom and pregnant women, for fever and pain relief.
Good that infection cease.

babytomato,
+oil.. and we all work together..

原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-5-14 02:37 PM 發表
Nillie,
After 7-day antibiotics program, I feel much better. My ob checked me up today and she said that I'm fine now, no more infection. But, since Amanda sucked my nipple so hard and there're se ...

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-5-15 06:23 發表
rose-mag,
I am a bad nurse mami.. I did take tylenol sometimes when I have to breast feed Gabriel.. mostly I take it an hour before skin to skin, to make sure the pain pills work on time.
as if your p ...

Hey, you know what's safe for Gabriel. My ob gave me Vicodin for pain control. I tried not to take in daytime when I need to bf Amanda. Usually, I would have 1 after I fed Amanda before my bedtime so that I can have a better sleep. My neck and shoulders are so sore, not sure if it is the effect of mastitis or just fatigue. Maybe I should try to have Vicodin 1 hour before bf Amanda before bedtime. Being a working mom is really not easy.

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發表於 08-5-17 03:07 |只看該作者

thanks nillie & rose-mag, as a new mom and person with not much confidence, i have lots of worries and have been emotional at times. esp for the last couple days when i watch the news about the earthquake in china, those helpless parents who lost their own child, and the children who lost their parents, i can totally feel the pain!

it seems like my baby is eating less now, there're more times that she falls asleep after one breast and i just can't wake her up (even after diaper change). and the time on each breast has been shorter than before too. should i assume that she's full if she falls asleep and wait for the next feeding?

she also has some white spots on her upper pallet that can't be removed by Q-tips. i'm afraid that's oral thrush but the doctor can't see her until next tuesday. is oral thrush harmful if not treated immediately? should i stop bf for the meanwhile until she's seen? and should there by any spots on my nipples too?

regarding breast milk storage, all the guidelines seem a little bit different, like milk in the fridge can be kept anywhere from 5 to 8 days, should i follow the strictest guildlines?

**Once you pumped, and not frozen it ASAP (which you kept in the fridge), you can not frozen it afterward. (for safety)**
so when i go back to work, i've to pump during my breaks and keep the milk in the cooler until i go gome, does that mean i have to use them within 48 hrs and can't save them for later use?

we're now washing the bottles and accessories with soap without letting my 99 know

and also the avent sterilizer. do i need to use the sterilizer right before pumping, or is it okay to sterilize early and use the bottles later on?

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babytomato
it seems like my baby is eating less now, there're more times that she falls asleep after one breast and i just can't wake her up (even after diaper change). and the time on each breast has been shorter than before too. should i assume that she's full if she falls asleep and wait for the next feeding?
let her sleep if she can sleep for 1.5 hours, that's mean she is full
she also has some white spots on her upper pallet that can't be removed by Q-tips. i'm afraid that's oral thrush but the doctor can't see her until next tuesday. is oral thrush harmful if not treated immediately? should i stop bf for the meanwhile until she's seen? and should there by any spots on my nipples too?
make sure you don't have the s/s of infection over your nipples. if so, just pump and feed her with bottle, if not, continue skin to skin until next peds visit.
regarding breast milk storage, all the guidelines seem a little bit different, like milk in the fridge can be kept anywhere from 5 to 8 days, should i follow the strictest guildlines?
to follow the strictest guideline, because I can't take any risk as I work as a health care professional.. 我買唔起個"萬一"囉
**Once you pumped, and not frozen it ASAP (which you kept in the fridge), you can not frozen it afterward. (for safety)**
so when i go back to work, i've to pump during my breaks and keep the milk in the cooler until i go gome, does that mean i have to use them within 48 hrs and can't save them for later use?
I use those milk from work at the next day.
those milk I pumped at home, I frozen them for later
we're now washing the bottles and accessories with soap without letting my 99 know

and also the avent sterilizer. do i need to use the sterilizer right before pumping, or is it okay to sterilize early and use the bottles later on?
use the medela steam bag which is about $5, 5 bags per box.. each bag good for 20 time.. wonderful item for working mom to use in office.

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Nillie_Mami,

I'm a LA Mom and I just posted a message for you in the "給餵人奶的靚靚準媽媽". I hope you can give me some advice.

Any nursing mom who has the similar experience, please give me some input.

Thanks.

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發表於 08-5-24 10:43 |只看該作者

Pink0325,
Firstly, your peds is a chinese or white??
I don't understanding why you need to stop BF?? that is really non-sense and as you said. that is not "wise" at all. Both of my child suffered from Jaundice as well, and I did continue BF and BF even more often, because Jaundice will cause poor appetite.
personally, I do not agree with your peds, and you need to make sure that you find a right peds for your infant, because you need someone who stands by your side, to take care and look after your infant. Some one with different concept or even against your concept, you need to make sure, you should still bring your infant to see that peds.

I would like to ask:
1. Is it enough if I pump my milk every 3 hours? Every time I am able to pump to about 2 to 3 oz (both breasts, so it's like 1 to 1.5 oz. on each breast.)
your newborn is only about 8 days old, I would say every 2 hours will be better.
2. I'm so afraid that baby would forget how to suck my nipple when I b/feed him again. If this is so, do I need to nurse him more often so as to practise on the sucking again?
your infant may forget how to suck from breast (if you believe that you should continue stop bf after you read the message above). You just need to let your infant suck as regular time frame. Do not mess him/her up.. do not feed infant when it is not the time yet..
3. Do I need to nurse him like every 2 hours to increase my milk supply?
for the first month of life, it is good to nurse your infant every 2 hours.
4. I always think I'm right on keeping on b/feeding when baby has developed jaundice. Is that true?
I was working in Nursery in hospital before, we let all infant to have bf even they are under the light (phototherapy)
My elder son was breastfed for 26 months and I had no problem nursing him. I never expected I would be advised to stop b/feeding this time. It's very frustrating!!!!

Kindly reply. Thanks so much.

Don't worry, I will say .. go back to bf, it is good for you and your infant.

原文章由 pink0325 於 08-5-23 07:03 PM 發表
Nillie_Mami,

I'm a LA Mom and I just posted a message for you in the "給餵人奶的靚靚準媽媽". I hope you can give me some advice.

Any nursing mom who has the similar experience, please give me some ...

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Hihi Rose-mag....we are doing ok....life in CA is not as good as in HK.....sighed....we are trying to settle down.....

原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-5-13 03:29 發表
Isacc mami,
Long time no talk lar! How are you and Isacc? How you feel living in CA?

Nillie,
I just have the 1st mastitis last week. It's really painful and I have fever for 3 days. After taking ...

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