恕我不能盡同意。Osho的詩是寫給沒有腳的雀仔的藉口，愛一朵花和愛一個人是兩囘事。愛一朵花，不要採摘，人人共賞。但愛一個人，無需擁有他，人人共賞？這和愛上別人的妻子或做小三有何分別？愛很大，但不能淩駕道德和責任。我相信大部分女人拍拖的終極目的是建立家庭，享受家庭樂。如果對方不願行到這一步，只是享受拍拖的自由（包括隨時分手不用簽字），那麽他們的愛也到此爲止。我很明白樓主的感受和分手的決定，既然對方不願承擔，不如對自己負責，另覓真愛。利申，我拍拖6年才結婚，擁有幸福家庭，我們的愛不只是appreciation，我們有更多的possession and commitment. 我有看全為愛其他的文章，有很多points我是十分認同的，繼續寫，加油啊！
I totally agree with what you said about the poem and the meaning of love.Appreciation is not the only element in love.
Commitment is definitely something crucial too
I had dated my husband for 10 years and it's been 4 years since we married
Once i was the one who didnt want a marriage
Coz honestly i wasnt ready to sacrifice my freedom for him
I did really feel like actually my love wasnt that strong to convince myself to commit
But as i grow older with him,my love grows as well
More commitment comes
By the same token,as commitment grows,i find love grows too
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