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rubytang,
移民+寄人籬下... 生活係咪一定開心/唔開心..見人見志喇.... 我初到紐約, 條命可以話賤過你好多... 所有US媽咪都知我點爬起身做人..
我會勸你搬出去, 租車唔駛担保架... although, 你冇credit(信用), 但你可以pay up 1 year, 就已ok架喇... 你快啲去銀行, 開bank account, 之後問bank, 開cash/check visa card.. 有credit card, 就可以build up 你嘅credit, 而且credit係1日1日咁類積嘅...冇得急. once 你有credit card, 加你passport, 就可以考US車牌..
你日頭出去real estate 睇屋喇, 唉聲嘆氣冇用呢.. 受咗氣2個月, 你唔為自己, 都為對寶貝仔... $1000話多唔多, 話少唔少.. 但相見好, 同住難呀!
希望你快啲settle down

原文章由 rubytang 於 08-2-11 03:17 PM 發表
Hi, Nillie~

首先恭祝大家新年快樂, 身體健康~
我黎左美國都有兩個月lu~
我大仔都返左成兩個星期學, 佢每日返黎都話返學好開心,
佢係hk果時就唔係咁, 日日都唔想返學,
但係美國佢似乎就開心好多囉~

Nillie, 其實我 ...

[ 本文章最後由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-2-11 17:00 編輯 ]

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-2-12 05:57 發表
rubytang,
移民+寄人籬下... 生活係咪一定開心/唔開心..見人見志喇.... 我初到紐約, 條命可以話賤過你好多... 所有US媽咪都知我點爬起身做人..
我會勸你搬出去, 租車唔駛担保架... although, 你冇credit(信用), 但 ...

hi, Nillie~
我雖然無全部睇過晒你既奮鬥史, 但我之前都有睇過一D你講既,
坐月食凍蛋飯既慘情~
新移民+寄人籬下就真係好悽涼,
因為我從來都無諗過自己既父母同姐妹會咁樣對我,
雖然佢地不嬲都對我唔係話好好, 但都未至於咁差丫,
點解我過到黎會咁呢~
其實間屋都係我兩個妹自己住, 我爸媽都係兩年先黎一次咁多,
其他野又唔見佢地咁齊心, 但想趕我地走就咁齊心,真係激氣~

我唔係係度怨天怨地, 我都係想同你呻下啫,
我一早就已經有美國既車牌架啦~
因為以前住係度時, 我有車, 但後來我返左HK,
架車俾左我家姐用, 所以, 依家我過到黎就無車用囉~
我未租過車, 所以唔係咁知租車既規矩, 多謝你提醒我呀~
BUT我就無信用卡, 但我就有銀行既saving & time deposit A/C
我諗都係聽你講去銀行申請張卡好D,
我都有諗過去我家姐個邊, 但佢係德州,
而且, 我大仔先o岩適應左呢間新學校,
我諗我會先租出去住先, 有左自己既地方,
我諗就算捱腐乳, 但點都開心過日日俾人搵藉口鬧囉~
等我地定下來時, 再打算以後應該點做好~

前日我家姐同我傾計時都有d暗示,
問我會唔會真係想留係呢個州, 或者, 有無諗過去第2個州住下,
其實, 講真我就無諗過去第2度, 因為我比較熟芝加哥呢邊,
而且, 叫做有d朋友係度, 如果去第2度,
我又驚無人無物, 一個女人帶住兩個仔都唔係容易架~
我係呢度, 衰衰地都叫做有d家人係度,
雖則有事都千祁咪洗旨意搵佢地幫手, 但我都仲有兩個亞姨,
好彩我同佢地既感情就好好多,
依家有好多野,都係我細姨幫我手, 但佢weekday就係唐人街住,
weekend就返indiana, 所以, 我都唔係成日可以見到佢,
咁有時都要等佢放假帶我地出去行開下囉~
好似前一個星期咁, 我就去佢indiana果邊住左一晚,
諗住行開下, 避開佢地, 咁大家都唔會咁唔開心,
但點知返黎個晚, 一入門口連鞋都未除就又俾人鬧,
仲開到聲要我地去我亞姨度, 唔好係度住添~
其實, 我都係暫時係度落腳先啫,
我都無諗過一世都住係度, 但點解咁都容納唔到我呢~
之前我都有同老公商量過, 會搬出去住, 但都要D時間去搵架~
係呢~ 你知唔知, 點樣去搵屋租呀~
上次有D 媽媽都提過我, 租屋時要留意D咩野,
今次我都真係要拎起心肝自己去創一條自己既路,
我咁受氣都要過黎, 都係為D仔讀書, 等佢地將來有條好既路行下,
我就無乜本事, 留到D咩俾佢地,
但都仲叫做有能力做到, 俾佢地留係美國生活,
唔係要奢侈既話, 我諗慳慳地都夠生活既~
咁佢地有好既教育, 就係一世既財富, 咁就算我無野留俾佢地,
咁佢地都有本事, 自己搵份好工, 夠佢地生活就好啦~

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原文章由 rubytang 於 08-2-12 11:52 發表

hi, Nillie~
我雖然無全部睇過晒你既奮鬥史, 但我之前都有睇過一D你講既,
坐月食凍蛋飯既慘情~
新移民+寄人籬下就真係好悽涼,
因為我從來都無諗過自己既父母同姐妹會咁樣對我,
雖然佢地不嬲都對我唔係話好好, 但都 ...

如果可以個話，咁係搬出去啦。。
不過我真係唔係好明自己O企人,都咁對自己O既!!!

我都係NY住過兩年....又係自己一個人過去,冇人冇物..
過去時剛剛18歲,又係咩都唔識,唔知道人情事故...
係NY得伯父一家人可以投靠......

不過見到面時,我真係唔係好好受...
1:佢O地話唔會俾KEY我,同我唔熟,驚我偷O野..
2:O個時我身上有D錢,想話擺自己身上唔方便,想擺小小係佢O地度...點知,佢O地話要我擺幾多OR拎幾多都要簽名,驚我會屈佢O地錢
3:住O左一個星期,就要我搵工啦..後來我搵到一份有宿舍既工,就搬出去啦...見少O左,佢地反而對我好D....

至於我嫁左俾我老公後,都係唔好受..
因為99蝦我冇親人係O個邊..成日單單打打....連我生左個女,個女都唔知俾佢鬧左幾多次............

不過我好彩既係唔使同佢O地住,但就日日見面...........樓上樓下呀:tongue: :tongue:

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即使係親生父母姊妹，有時都唔係一定會對你好架，特别係生活在美國好耐的唐人，好多時都係好自私。我都有好多親戚係度，有好多都好有錢，成間廠成條街係佢地嘅，以前我爸爸幫佢地擔保去香港，佢地先可以到美國，我爸爸果時一份人工養老婆同四個仔女，仲有我阿嫲，佢地唔係冇錢，但都同我爸爸借，我爸爸好錫細佬妹，對佢地幾近有求必應，佢地成日話爸爸以後去美國會照顧佢，俾錢佢洗。點知爸爸嚟到後，莫講話俾錢佢，有D仲問番我阿爸借，有錢果個仲怕我地痴住佢地，講明唔會請我地係佢地公司做，慌死我地靠佢地，好彩細佬都自食其力，讀完大學入咗銀行做，起碼唔駛睇人面色。我嫁我老公果陣佢地仲多多嘢講，話點解要搵個ABC，好難溝通，又話佢地大把好男仔介紹，問我點解唔慢慢搵，駛鬼咁心急，講到我慌死嫁唔出咁，講真如果咁關心我，唔好早D介紹所謂好男仔我識，係要等到我話訂婚先講三講四，我老公知道都好唔開心，但我話佢知，嫁果個係我，我唔鍾意冇人逼到我，要証明我冇搵錯人，佢就要對我好，等佢地冇聲出。:lol 其實，有時D人冇嘢做就最鍾意理人閒事同講是非，你都冇謂唔開心。最緊要自己同仔女OKAY，既然你嚟美國係為小朋友好，你都係搬出你妹個度，起碼小朋友有個正常開心的生活環境。我一向都幾獨立，到美國之後更加明白必須要靠自己，有咗小朋友之後就更加要堅強，因為小朋友成長有賴我地父母，我地一定唔可以認輸，要積極面對，你仲有家姐阿E同朋友可以幫你呢。

花旗太太生活在花旗國，留意時差，你問我未必即時答到。

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-2-12 01:51 發表
coey128,
check your pm la.. would you mind me to post over here. I don't answer question in PM to pay safe.
Nillie_Mami

知咁多野....唔知可否幫一幫我?因為我真係有太多O野唔明呀..希望你唔好厭我煩啦..
...

唔介意..你回答o左我o既問題,我多謝你都o黎唔切...

不過我唔係好明呢一句呀...Do not put all document into the window when you face the officer.......

點解唔好俾哂呢?

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rubytang,

*sigh* your own parents and sisters doe gum... Anyway, try to lookg for a place and move out as soon as you can la. If you already have a driver license and know how to drive, it's easier. See if you can rent a car or buy a used car if you don't think you will move very far away to another state. It may be more convenient especially since you have kids and you don't live close to downtown chicago. When I was in Chicago, I live in the city so taking the L train/bus was fine (I didn't have a car). But back then it's different because I was a student and it was easy though I had no family over there.

How's the public transportation in your city (sorry, I forgot where you live)? If you live around the L train route, at least it may be more convenient. Anyway, try to search for a place to move out first and go from there... Good luck!

原文章由 rubytang 於 08-2-12 11:52 發表

hi, Nillie~
我雖然無全部睇過晒你既奮鬥史, 但我之前都有睇過一D你講既,
坐月食凍蛋飯既慘情~
新移民+寄人籬下就真係好悽涼,
因為我從來都無諗過自己既父母同姐妹會咁樣對我,
雖然佢地不嬲都對我唔係話好好, 但都 ...

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-2-12 01:51 發表
coey128,
check your pm la.. would you mind me to post over here. I don't answer question in PM to pay safe.
Nillie_Mami

知咁多野....唔知可否幫一幫我?因為我真係有太多O野唔明呀..希望你唔好厭我煩啦..
...

美國警方証明係唔係要收到領事館O既事自可以整呀..........

定而家可以整呢?整完又係警方直接寄俾領事館?

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coey,
你入到領事館, 係個官叫你show セ嘢文件..你就一樣一樣show俾佢.. otherwise, 你俾個官鬧硬架..
police check 只有hk要letter approve, US police check (name check)--only new york唔洗..other states, 你要做FBI finger print check 架.
你可以做咗先.

原文章由 coey128 於 08-2-12 07:07 AM 發表

美國警方証明係唔係要收到領事館O既事自可以整呀..........

定而家可以整呢?整完又係警方直接寄俾領事館?

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rubytang,
我都係嗰句, 此地不留人, 自有留人處..
for 你, 加洲or new york, 會更易settle 呢...
BK媽咪可能更幫到你
你芝加哥有冇chinese newspaper? 一定有租屋架.. check 咗之後.. 揾car service 車你去睇屋囉..
以後叫car service, 唔好倚賴家人喇..

以前你係tourist, 又點同?
我家人嚟親都駛我5個位, 我媽咪同99都係極品.. 只係我同佢哋冇緣份...
佢哋要嚟new york探我, 我唔會stop.. 因為佢哋嚟只係為見Gabriel, 唔係見我.
ruby, 放開啲喇... 快啲check 唐人報紙嘅租務分類廣告為上策

原文章由 rubytang 於 08-2-11 10:52 PM 發表
hi, Nillie~
我雖然無全部睇過晒你既奮鬥史, 但我之前都有睇過一D你講既,
坐月食凍蛋飯既慘情~
新移民+寄人籬下就真係好悽涼,
因為我從來都無諗過自己既父母同姐妹會咁樣對我,
雖然佢地不嬲都對我唔係話好好, 但都 ...

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原文章由 coey128 於 08-2-12 01:06 AM 發表
如果可以個話，咁係搬出去啦。。
不過我真係唔係好明自己O企人,都咁對自己O既!!!

我都係NY住過兩年....又係自己一個人過去,冇人冇物..
過去時剛剛18歲,又係咩都唔識,唔知道人情事故...
係NY得伯父一家人可以投靠... ... 不過見到面時,我真係唔係好好受...
1:佢O地話唔會俾KEY我,同我唔熟,驚我偷O野..
2:O個時我身上有D錢,想話擺自己身上唔方便,想擺小小係佢O地度...點知,佢O地話要我擺幾多OR拎幾多都要簽名,驚我會屈佢O地錢
3:住O左一個星期,就要我搵工啦..後來我搵到一份有宿舍既工,就搬出去啦...見少O左,佢地反而對我好D....

haha.. Coey,
我都係一樣... 冇key, 因為佢吔話我會放賊入屋..
老華僑都係睇唔起新落腳嘅人...

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-2-13 00:42 發表
coey,
你入到領事館, 係個官叫你show セ嘢文件..你就一樣一樣show俾佢.. otherwise, 你俾個官鬧硬架..
police check 只有hk要letter approve, US police check (name check)--only new york唔洗..other states, 你 ...

唔好意思呀..我唔知PM你,你會咁麻煩..唔會有下次啦..

我就係住係NY BROOKLYN...咁係唔係唔使整呀..
我尋日有打去律師樓問佢係NY既警方証明點整,佢話紐約警察部只會出一張証明話冇我O既紀錄...........佢叫我老公自己去整就OK啦..

但我老公話NY唔覺有呢個部門WO.......(佢係警察)....
你知唔知係邊個部門整呀..

另外..你好似誤會O左呀...I-130我係律師樓整O架..張回條都係我度..放心啦...........不過我老公係粗心大心..我都要提醒下佢先得啦..

法庭D文件我都有KEEP好呀...電話單O個D我都一直有KEEP......放心啦...........

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-2-13 00:58 發表

haha.. Coey,
我都係一樣... 冇key, 因為佢吔話我會放賊入屋..
老華僑都係睇唔起新落腳嘅人...

哈哈.唔知老一輩係唔係個個都係咁呢?

不過我覺得O個邊生活好悶呀.......

見到D人好似冇咩娛樂..日日都係返工放工.......好似機械人...

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原文章由 rubytang 於 08-2-12 11:52 發表

hi, Nillie~
我雖然無全部睇過晒你既奮鬥史, 但我之前都有睇過一D你講既,
坐月食凍蛋飯既慘情~
新移民+寄人籬下就真係好悽涼,
因為我從來都無諗過自己既父母同姐妹會咁樣對我,
雖然佢地不嬲都對我唔係話好好, 但都 ...

rubytang

By some reason, I read your message.. I am sorry for your situation.
My husband came from Chicago, and his family are still there. (I hate chicago, even thought I met my husband there. The china town is too small.. and people are not nice...) anyway that is the long story.Now we are in New York
By the way, in chicago rental is cheap..(cheaper than in New York or CA ) you can rent some kind of basement, the rental range is about $600-700.. my brother in law rent a room with bathroom (everything inculded) only $300. Also, you can live close by train station, there is orange line to china town or buses.. you don't need a car right a way.
But the first thing is.. you have to decided do you really want to stay here. If so... in chicago the living standard is not too high. Sometime, when you walk around, you will see some house post a rental sign out. Or you have to ask around.
If you need help finding a place, you can leave a number, msn or e-mail, see my husband can help you out.

[ 本文章最後由 Ahchings 於 08-2-13 01:38 編輯 ]

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原文章由 Nillie_Mami 於 08-2-13 00:58 發表

haha.. Coey,
我都係一樣... 冇key, 因為佢吔話我會放賊入屋..
老華僑都係睇唔起新落腳嘅人...

Haha... me too..
I was a student, so when hoilday I had to stay with my uncle, his wife didn't even let other people call me at their house.. (give out the phone number)..People can find where they live.. then 會放賊入屋?-( Hahahahah
Key.... hahahahha never seen it
For a short summer break (only 1 month) I had to work in restaturant.....
老華僑都係睇唔起新落腳(or not a citizen/ green card)嘅人

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coey,
所有移民問題, 為咗保障大家.. post 出forum會好啲..(我怕PM message 被改, or 私下 copy and phase 之後, 個message 变咗, 就好痲煩, 我只係義務幫手, 唔想因為message 俾誤解而變咗千古罪人呢) 我哋有mami 識買屋, banking, 離婚.etc 律師.... sy-mom, Rose-mag, bunnymonkey都會幫手..

同你老公講, 出5分局問吓.. should have someone to guide him out.
police check 只係proof佢冇犯罪.. 只係一張紙話 name list above 冇犯罪.. that's it.
你要話俾老公知你幾時入境, 幾時離境

原文章由 coey128 於 08-2-12 12:07 PM 發表

唔好意思呀..我唔知PM你,你會咁麻煩..唔會有下次啦..

我就係住係NY BROOKLYN...咁係唔係唔使整呀..
我尋日有打去律師樓問佢係NY既警方証明點整,佢話紐約警察部只會出一張証明話冇我O既紀錄...........佢叫我老公 ...

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coey,
呢啲係US life style 喇... weekend/dayoff 係 family day..
or 三五知己gathering..
如果為自己要娛樂, 就唔揀住呢喥lu...
但, 為咗小朋友, 我會留喺呢喥.. 因為回流返HK, 我冇能力俾到Amanda & Gabriel 相同嘅生活質素
可能, 我就係太怕香港生活嘅繁"hill"... 而家嘅靈靜, 我返而覺得悠然自得一啲..
大家都為人母.. 係時候而家攪移民前諗清楚... 係你過嚟NY or老公返HK..? 做過埠新娘.... 唔係講玩呢... 而三思而後行

原文章由 coey128 於 08-2-12 12:12 PM 發表
哈哈.唔知老一輩係唔係個個都係咁呢?
不過我覺得O個邊生活好悶呀.......
見到D人好似冇咩娛樂..日日都係返工放工.......好似機械人...

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原文章由 coey128 於 08-2-12 14:06 發表

如果可以個話，咁係搬出去啦。。
不過我真係唔係好明自己O企人,都咁對自己O既!!!

我都係NY住過兩年....又係自己一個人過去,冇人冇物..
過去時剛剛18歲,又係咩都唔識,唔知道人情事故...
係NY得伯父一家人可以投靠... ...

hi, coey~
係囉, 我都係咁覺得囉,
你都話你住係伯父屋企丫, 咁唔係自己父母都無得講丫,
但我住父母屋企都要咁,
就真係好唔開心囉~
你都話你果時18歲, 後生都可以重新黎過,
我又唔係細, 又帶住兩個小朋友,
就真係走唔得去邊囉~
不過,我都唔會就咁放棄, 唔為自己都會為D仔,
我會努力, 就算無豪華既生活, 但咪慳慳地, 最緊要開心~

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原文章由 rose-mag 於 08-2-12 14:32 發表
rubytang,
即使係親生父母姊妹，有時都唔係一定會對你好架，特别係生活在美國好耐的唐人，好多時都係好自私。我都有好多親戚係度，有好多都好有錢，成間廠成條街係佢地嘅，以前我爸爸幫佢地擔保去香港，佢地先可以到美國，我爸爸果時 ...

多謝你呀 rose-mag~
我會努力架啦~
我都有同感, 係美國住得耐果d人, 有時都覺得佢地會幾自私下架~
不過, 個個人唔同, 算啦, 唔想去靠人啦~
惟有靠自己好過啦~
我以前都有係芝加哥讀過書, 所以, 我比較熟呢個地方,
我諗等細仔返埋學, 我會去試下搵工, 始終靠自己好過等人幫啦~

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原文章由 bunnymonkey 於 08-2-12 15:56 發表
rubytang,

*sigh* your own parents and sisters doe gum... Anyway, try to lookg for a place and move out as soon as you can la. If you already have a driver license and know how to drive, it's easier. ...

hi, bunnymonkey~
我住wheeling果邊架~
我都近火車站既,我諗揸車去車站應該都係10至15分鐘左右,
以前我呢區係無PACE BUS, 但近呢兩年先至開始有,
不過, 班次就唔係咁多囉~
頭先我大妹打電話返黎, 問我係咪想買車,
佢話反正佢都想換車, 問我肯唔肯要佢個部車,
如果係既, 咁佢就賣佢個部車俾我, 然後佢去出部新既喎,
唔係唔好, 平既話都無所謂, 反正我d技術都唔係咁好,
買部新車仲反而心驚驚添~
唔知佢想要幾多錢賣俾我呢,
如果唔貴既, 咁我留番多少少錢傍身都好丫~
佢話佢架車都仲有1年廠保養, 而且話架車都仲好好,
我都仲可以揸多幾年, 到時先至換過第2部or出新車都未遲喎~

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