1) 要學懂狠心, 唔好因為小朋友扭小小計 (e.g. 唔想起身返學就由佢唔返, 一兩滴鼻水又 sick leave) 就 give up , behaviour 係要 consistently 去 mould 既, 依家d小朋友好醒的, 佢一知只要扭就會達到目的的話, 下一次就會照辦煮碗, 你地就更難 control 佢. In fact, 長遠我甚至 recommend 唔好無端端就請假唔返學, (e.g. 因為要去旅行) 我明家長有時有d schedule 就唔到先咁做, 但有一點亦要 aware..係: 成日都係咁, 小朋友就會知..去旅行先係 priority, 返學係可以隨時都唔返的, 我都知基本上真係返少日唔會話差好遠, 只係我認為返學係一個 obligation to them somehow, so 就要培養佢地既責任感, 尊重"返學"呢個行為, 唔係下下為左 personal reasons 就將重要既野放在一旁的, (尤其上到小學係 value building 既 most important stage) , 唔係的話, 第日佢地大個要上班, 一個唔知醒又話唔番, 見頭有少少痛又唔返, 一陣想去街街又請假...well...我唔知大家如果係夾著個咁既同事你會有乜感受了.
2) 要控制自己 EQ , 咪一見小朋友入課室 (or 上校車), 面對要同你"分離" 就喊個陣你就又喊埋一份 (通常所有新手媽媽都係咁) , 又要響個窗仔門口 etc 去裝佢, 你一俾佢睇到你唔捨得佢個個"可憐"樣, 佢就一定更扭你, 結果係你地兩母子/女就攬住一齊喊 ...我次次睇到呢度都諗唔明, 依家小朋友係去飲去食去訓去玩, 又唔係去 c , 整乜兩仔 lar 會搞成咁, 好似生離死別咁?? so 係唔係做阿媽既 EQ 又真係唔多得呢.... if 真係咁, then 就要 aware, your kids always learn from you, 你自己都唔識去控制情緒的話, 又如何叫個仔/女去"控制自己" 唔好一嬲人就打人咁呢....? right? 諗諗你為乜要送佢地去幼兒/稚園就唔會咁"傷心"架喇...
3) 要學識唔好用大人既標準去 measure 小朋友既行為, e.g. 小朋友 A 打小朋友 B 一鎚, B 既阿媽就即刻好緊張咁問老師"邊個打我個仔??!!", 甚至想揪個 A 出黎大興問罪之師....再唔係就俾壓力老師, 要佢出面"擺平"件事, 還你"苦主" 一個"公道" etc....唉......小朋友打架, 唔識同人相處係必然既階段, 我地細個都有此 stage la...so nothing special bor, 而且好多仲係 1st child, parents 又係新手, 唔多識教, 仔女較自我係都無可厚非的, 只要唔係真係打到入廠, 少少傷有時都要 take it as a learning experience, instead of 去追究, 就不如 (1) 打人個個就要教佢唔可以再打人, 不斷 repeat 地教 (2) 被人打個個唔係同佢講: "係啦, A 小朋友真係好曳呀, 下次唔好同佢玩" 呢d 大人既處理方法...(個個一唔妥佢就避, 一世可以避得幾多個??) 而係要教佢要學識保護自己, 人打佢, 唔駛還手, 但都唔應該由人打, 要識避, 一係就走開, 一係就大聲講: "唔好!", 再唔係就要即刻走去老師處同老師講, 等老師處理等....呢d先係積極既做法....因為咁唔單止被人打個個會學懂保護, 亦會等打人個個知道 : "原來我打人人地會唔鍾意架!" 呢個 concept, 因為好多時小朋友根本唔知自己"打人"呢個行為係唔岩, 因為 so far 被佢打個d人都冇話過佢知佢地唔鍾意, 有d 小朋友仲"單純"到被人打就只係識喊, 乜都唔做, 咁打人個個就會見你唔 say no, 即係冇問題, 就再打...係咁的, so be assertive 係好重要, 咁 both parties 都可以學到野.
4) 要開始好多野少少, 少少咁放手了, 要記住, 做阿媽既 of course 想小朋友一世都同自己好 close (呢個係情意結), 但諗野要 wide angle d 啦, 同要 define what do you mean by "close" la...要明白乜你都幫佢做絕對 =/= close; 佢越能早d take good care of themselves 對佢地黎講絕對係一件好事, 好多野太"婦人之仁" 係會有 long term effect 的, e.g. 成日驚小朋友唔食飯就餵, 去到 5, 6 歲都仲幫佢著鞋 etc.....咁只係害苦大家, 小朋友係真係好難長大的, 我知咁講大家都明, 不過係做唔出, or 冇恆心啦, 但呢個就正正係大家既 learning process.....種瓜得瓜呢個道理大家都應該明卦...