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My hubby becomes so frustrated recently because of taking care of our children. Spencer is 19 months old and is very active. He touches everything and he always wants us to pay attention to him. Amanda is almost 8 weeks old, cries so much and recently becomes so difficult. They both make us so exhausted. My mom helps me to take care of Spencer at daytime and cooks for us. She also helps me to bathe Amanda and carries her sometimes. But, she really likes to give advices and has her own ideas on taking care of kids. My hubby complained of her spoiling Spencer but he does not really doing a lot on taking care of him correctly. He will stops feeding him if he starts playing then Spencer will keep on asking for food. When he's at home, he always on his computer and he will get mad when Spencer comes to disturbe him. For Spencer's age, he will find the computer interesting and he actually wants us to play with him.
Yesterday, my hubby cursed in front of Spencer when I was sleeping. I heard it and went to see what happen. It's actually a little matter - my mom forgot to throw rubbish in the can and left it next to the sink when Spencer cried for her. My hubby, without knowing it, touched it and all the mess on the floor. He screamed out "Fxxx" several times when he needed to clean it up. I told him to cut it before Spencer is there. It's not good to let him hear that. My hubby said that he heard me cursed too, just in different language. I told him that it's different, not the same. He called me "bitch" and told me that if I want him to stop, I have to stop first. I was so unhappy that he just mad on something very minor and my mom does a lot of things for us already. It's unfair for him to demand so much on her when his parents offer no help but spread rumours instead. I think that it's somehow a difference of culture and we grew up in 2 different family styles. My family members are so close and caring, we will never let any one down when he or she needs help. His family is different - his parents only care about money, do not know how to love. In fact, his mother does not love him. His sisters and brother do not help out the family and my hubby is the only one who do all the stuff. However, he is also be blamed to fix stuff and fool around money (in fact, he spends his own money on his family).
I know that we should treasure each other since we came from different parts of the world and it's not easy to "manage" a marriage. Sometimes, it's so tired and disappointed to deal with him; he has his ego as a man and the king of the family. I even need to argue so much on where to put the carseats in the van. Still, he insists to put the 2 carseats side by side in the middle and I sit at the back - I told him that we should be Amanda in the middle and I sit next to her and Spencer at the back so that I can reach him when he needs attention.:cry: :cry:
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