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發表於 07-10-13 01:25

Rose-mag,
其实對於夫婦,好難去計較边個做得多边個做得小.我覺得有時間同能力嘅就去做.如果你老公唔贊成你stay home嘅就唔好夾硬,費時將來有錢銀問題又會閙交.不過你應該同佢講清楚你唔係要critize佢d乜嘢,你只係想有better communication.叫佢唔好too sensitive.
我唔認為边個賺$多就可以响屋企講嘢大聲d,做夫妻要互相尊重.或者你揾個weekend同老公去個getaway w/o kids.大家relax吓同傾下.

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rose-mag,

yr hubby sounds almost the same as mine. he's been not happy since i haven't worked for 4 yrs now although we're financially ok. although i always told him that he makes more than a lot of working couples, he said something like our other friends can afford living in the most expensive area coz they hv 2 incomes.
he also said something like i could go to work and he could stay home to take care of our kid. but i know he won't be able to handle the housework and i know i won't make as much as him coz i don't hv a Phd and as much working experience as him.

so my opinion - don't stay home if yr husband doesn't agree; otherwise, he won't be happy and would hv more complains later.

原文章由 rose-mag 於 07-10-13 01:05 發表
socloudy, vivi_ma, nillie, carrie, sy_mom....
I understand guy usually think in a different way and usually not details-oriented. The issue of my hubby and me is that he always compare how much I do ...

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vivi
係呀..搵番d老字號買好d呀..不過我都唔知我老爺係邊度買..我估佢係寶榮行買多..因老細係佢同鄉

原文章由 vivi_ma 於 07-10-12 23:24 發表
carrie,
Thanks, I do need to go to NY Chinatown one time to get the birdnest, I will go to the big store to buy it, I am afraid that the small store will "trick us" coz I have no idea how to pick a g ...

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發表於 07-10-13 04:34

rose-meg
呢d野其實係未生之前好講定..不過而家都生左啦..更加要講啦..
一定要搵個時間出黎..講晒pros and cons啦..
照睇黎, 你老公唔多想你做stay-home mom, 咁最好都係搵人湊bb, 你媽媽得唔得呀?　大仔要搵ｄａｙ　ｃａｒｅ架啦．．唔係一個老人家，好難成日照顧兩個ｂｂ咯．．ｈｏｕｓｅｗｏｒｋ一定要分黎做，　講真有邊個鍾意做ｈｏｕｓｅｗｏｒｋｓ呀．．而家有個ｆａｍｉｌｙ，又有兩個ｂｂ，　實多野做架啦．．你再計下．．你出左黎做，　兩份人工係唔係可負擔晒當你唔係屋企時要做既野，　如係得既．．出去做野都係好架，　可多個錢洗麻．

原文章由 rose-mag 於 07-10-13 01:05 發表
socloudy, vivi_ma, nillie, carrie, sy_mom....
I understand guy usually think in a different way and usually not details-oriented. The issue of my hubby and me is that he always compare how much I do ...

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發表於 07-10-13 04:36

socloudy
你而家重左幾多磅呀？乜解夠今次嘔左咁多個月架..

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-10-12 22:07 發表
Nillie,
我冇用antibiotic cream,剩係用凡士林only. Just curious,如果用咗antibiotic响孕婦喥会点? Result要find out in a week ah.
Will keep you gals posted.

Pauline83y,
Thanks for your advice.我會試下煲 ...

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soloudy / carrie,

我宜家淨係focus買BB's furniture, carseat, stroller etc coz nille gave me some babies rus coupons mar . I will wait a little bit cold to get some infant (0-3 months) clothes, hopefully they will on sales soon lar. I did buy some summer clothes for 6-9 months (boys and girls) in Macys last month when they had big sales, coz Macys have 6 months return policy so I can return them after my BB born, hehehe

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-10-12 22:07 發表
Nillie,
我冇用antibiotic cream,剩係用凡士林only. Just curious,如果用咗antibiotic响孕婦喥会点? Result要find out in a week ah.
Will keep you gals posted.

Pauline83y,
Thanks for your advice.我會試下煲 ...

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發表於 07-10-13 05:08

I eventually catch up with all the posts in this forum. Actually, my husband mentioned he'd like to stay home to take care of bb before (at the time I was staying at home taking care of bb and I told him I don't like that task - too much work plus I didn't enjoy it). But I don't make as much as he does and can't cover all the living expenses so that won't be feasible. I told him the opportunity cost is too high if he stays home instead of sending my son to daycare etc.

And for me, I don't think I'd like to be a stay-home mom because watching a toddler at home all day long will probably makes me crazy. Plus I want to make more money (saved for rainny day) when I still can. I am afraid I won't be able to find a job if I stop working for a few years (when my son goes to grade school).

When I was looking for a full-time job couple months back, my husband asked me if I want to just stay home watching bb and do some business at home, I said no. To me, that sounds like 2 jobs (nanny plus work-at-home job) and I think I won't be able to really "work" if there's a infant/toddler around.

I know it will be even more stressful if people have more than 1 kid at home esp for 2 working parents. I guess the couple need to have better understanding of the other party and try to be supportive as much as he/she can. I know it's hard. Hopefully, the time will past and when the kids go to school, it will be easier for the parents.

I feel stressful sometimes with work and home and I hope I can work and work for another decade (or hopefully less...) and then maybe I can just move to another state with cheaper cost of living so I can be relax and no worry about unemployment (and buy a cheap house in aother state). I like the idea of no mortgage and life would be so much less stressful if we only need to find the money to pay for food and utility.

sy_mom,

Which field your husband is in? I always say my hubby got into the wrong field. He doesn't make much with his phd and I said even he just get a BS degree in the right field (consultanting/finance...), we would be rich and dont need to be stressful.

[ 本文章最後由 bunnymonkey 於 07-10-13 05:16 編輯 ]

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SOCLOUDY, VIVI_MA

我宜家都29weeks啦~~你地知唔知仲可以食咩涼野清下胎毒呀~~我本身就好熱氣~又唔忍得口

~~口痕就食少少零食~~我都日日食菜同水果架啦~~便便都好正常~
不過仲係覺得唔夠~因為近lee個月又好多粒粒~救命!!:-(
燕窩我都有食~一星期一細碗~我都係好似carrie咁整~~加d milk 同冰糖~焞一陣就咁食~~我仲有整---蓮子百合腐竹糖水 .....你地仲有冇咩提意

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發表於 07-10-13 05:13

Carrie,
我22 weeks重咗9lbs.但身形巳經好大份lu.我上一胎都嘔到19weeks ga.

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發表於 07-10-13 05:18

I ate a lot of 蓮子百合腐竹糖水 when I was almost due. You may try green bean 糖水 later. I also ate a lot of black sesame paste (gee ma wo) too in my last trimester.

原文章由 hiuyeeyee 於 07-10-13 05:09 發表
SOCLOUDY, VIVI_MA

我宜家都29weeks啦~~你地知唔知仲可以食咩涼野清下胎毒呀~~我本身就好熱氣~又唔忍得口 ~~口痕就食少少零食~~我都日日食菜同水果架啦~~便便都好正常~
不過仲係覺得唔夠~因為近lee個月又好多 ...

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發表於 07-10-13 06:25

bunnymonkey,

he's in EDA industry and his degree is combination of EE & CS. his job is also very stressful too. we don't even have time to talk and discuss the important decisions.
actually my husband also told me that it's not worth it to get a phd when i was thinking to get a phd several years ago. well ... actually a phd is nothing in the sillicon valley as quite a lot of people, esp. chinese, hv phd. and we have met and know a lot of people who're also phds.
a phd might help u get a better paid job (but also demanding) when u were a fresh grad. but as u hv more experience, probably a phd might not be necessary unless it's a reseach job or something. if someone wanna make a lot of money, getting a phd might disappoint him/her.

u were right that being a consultant might hv a nice income but they're quite stressful too with the travelling schedule. that's not very good if u hv a family.

maybe u can think this way - having a job is already very thankful. i know a lady who's a phd but got laid off after worked for a company for 9 yrs.

原文章由 bunnymonkey 於 07-10-13 05:08 發表
I eventually catch up with all the posts in this forum. Actually, my husband mentioned he'd like to stay home to take care of bb before (at the time I was staying at home taking care of bb and I told ...

[ 本文章最後由 SY_Mom 於 07-10-13 06:34 編輯 ]

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rose-meg,
可能大家都未適應屋企多左個新成員﹐大家都好STRESSFUL。我地初初IAN出世時﹐都好累(my hubby took 2 weeks off and the 3rd week he walked in and out of his office) 都係無請老人家黎幫手﹐因為知道我IN LAW會好麻煩﹐為免有拗撬﹐所以我地兩公婆令願自己辛苦D頂硬上好過。我覺得﹐有D咩大家坐低傾﹐去找SOLUTION解缺問題先係POSSITIVE辦法﹐相嗌唔好口﹐唔好大在意你先生講過D咩﹐但一定要比佢知你唔鐘意佢噤樣講野。如果你先生唔鐘意婆婆湊﹐噤就要佢稔個行得通的辦法囉...總之兩公婆一條心﹐小朋友做大前題﹐好多野都會解決到...
我老公屋企同你先生屋企差唔多。以前我好CARE﹐成日同老公講。但噤多年都化左... 其實我稔﹐男人擔起頭家都唔易﹐屋企$$問題而家我都唔會過問﹐總之佢顧掂我地自己呢頭家﹐再點顧我IN LAW果邊﹐我就唔會理了。有時我都同我老公講笑噤講﹐好在生兩個仔﹐佢屋企噤重男輕女﹐照顧父母佢地覺得只係做仔既責任﹐我好唔buy囉﹐唔通做女既就唔使理既?
家務問題﹐可能要解釋比你先生聽﹐你剛生完﹐都要休息。佢可能無稔到呢一點。產假放完RETURN TO WORK後﹐咪再睇下大家分工定請CLEANING LADY黎做...
CARSEAT安排方面﹐我同你一樣﹐初時稔著哥哥坐後面(the 3rd roll) 弟弟坐中間果排。但我老公話中間排安全D﹐不過上落其他人就會好唔方便。最後我地都係兩個小朋友坐中間排﹐而家哥哥見到弟弟同佢一齊坐會佢開心架。

大家tum下就下﹐就噤一世囉...

原文章由 rose-mag 於 07-10-11 06:11 發表
Something want to share...
My hubby becomes so frustrated recently because of taking care of our children. Spencer is 19 months old and is very active. He touches everything and he always wants us t ...

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huiyeeyee,
過兩日WEEKDAY我落黎前CALL你先啦﹐ok?
我大肚後期成日飲豆漿(老人家話涼)﹐竹蔗茅根水。其他涼野就無點食。

原文章由 hiuyeeyee 於 07-10-13 05:09 發表
SOCLOUDY, VIVI_MA

我宜家都29weeks啦~~你地知唔知仲可以食咩涼野清下胎毒呀~~我本身就好熱氣~又唔忍得口 ~~口痕就食少少零食~~我都日日食菜同水果架啦~~便便都好正常~
不過仲係覺得唔夠~因為近lee個月又好多 ...

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發表於 07-10-13 08:05

sy_mom,

To get a phd, I guess it will worth it if it's your passion or for self-fullfillment etc. But if people want to make money out of the degree, I think it would be a waste of time/effort. :) Yes, I agree with you. Having a PHD really is nothing esp in this area. Almost everyone has pdh in my husband's company (he does research) and almost everyone in my company (except me) got undergrad and grad degrees from the ivy schools anyway. What's the big deal?

Actually I know a lot of college friends make MUCH more than my hubby. They are in IT field in the mid-west. High income, lower cost of living. I told my hubby his education probably is a waste of time (if he wants to make money). He said he like to do research and stuffs but then he's more into doing business now (probably want to make more $ and provide a decent standard of living for the family).

I know being a consultant is very stressful too. But the upside is people maybe able to make "enough" in 10-15 yr (and with stock options) and then switch to other job type with a decent saving (or pay off most of the house).

I am very thankful that we are both employed now though I have the fear that what if my huband got lay off... It may take him a long time to find a related job and it would be stressful for the mortgage expenses ... I know money is not everything but we do need to face reality sometimes.

[ 本文章最後由 bunnymonkey 於 07-10-13 08:27 編輯 ]

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發表於 07-10-13 09:26

Vivi ma,
我上一胎買stroller and car seat時係去Toys r us問ｄ
manager有冇咩嘢on sale,跟住佢check咗inventory後就响online show埋customer review我先買咗set Graco Metrolit stroller and car seat.$100蚊only.原價要$200.只要你揾到個nice嘅staff &同佢chat 下先,佢哋都會幫你search &你又可以save d $.

原文章由 vivi_ma 於 07-10-13 04:58 發表
soloudy / carrie,
我宜家淨係focus買BB's furniture, carseat, stroller etc coz nille gave me some babies rus coupons mar . I will wait a little bit cold to get some infant (0-3 months) clothes, hope ...

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Thanks !! Alisonli,
好在我從來唔買OTC drugs 俾Amanda & Gabriel 食, not even 自巳買嘅infant regular tylenol 同children tylenol &motrin.. 因為佢2個一病, even 半夜我都call 佢pedi, make sure OK至俾藥佢哋食... 佢哋個pedi 會mark晒咁多次食葯時間, make sure 冇over dose..(therefore, 我仲為佢2個日日寫diary)..

原文章由 ALISONLI 於 07-10-12 08:51 AM 發表
All Mom,
14種兒童感冒藥停售
兩歲以下服用恐引起併發症威脅生命剩藥快丟掉

http://www.worldjournal.com/news_pics/b16062614500308.JPG 　一些大藥廠11日宣布停止銷售針對兩歲以下兒童的14種非處方咳嗽、感冒 ...

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發表於 07-10-13 09:36

Socloudy,
topical cream 嘅side effect 好細, but 我唔想你take risk, as antibiotics 好傷liver.. 唔值一摶, although, condition 太差, OB 先會consider用 steriod or antibiotics during pregnancy!

原文章由 socloudy 於 07-10-12 09:07 AM 發表
Nillie,
我冇用antibiotic cream,剩係用凡士林only. Just curious,如果用咗antibiotic响孕婦喥会点? Result要find out in a week ah.
Will keep you gals posted.

Pauline83y,
Thanks for your advice.我會試下煲 ...

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Hiuyeeyee,
食西瓜都好清涼又方便.

原文章由 hiuyeeyee 於 07-10-13 05:09 發表
SOCLOUDY, VIVI_MA

我宜家都29weeks啦~~你地知唔知仲可以食咩涼野清下胎毒呀~~我本身就好熱氣~又唔忍得口 ~~口痕就食少少零食~~我都日日食菜同水果架啦~~便便都好正常~
不過仲係覺得唔夠~因為近lee個月又好多 ...

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