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781#
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858D 發表於 20-4-14 11:23
我覺得我冇乜機會型造溫暖感畀我D女。所以我afford 唔起 咁鬧D女。
感受到妳對女兒虧欠感


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782#
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小菜豆 發表於 20-4-14 08:00
妳之前有講大仔同c6嘈交。想問大仔同c6有頂撞時,是否越演越烈?
呢幾日假期,我仔幾乎日日都激嬲c6,
仲要 ...

係喎!我仔對住c6係倔D喎!我成日話佢哋火星撞地球,根本兩個係一樣嘅人,咪零捨有火花囉!
當然我仔同我都成日爭拗,有時都會越拗越勁,但我比較囉嗦,會講好多道理,有時都會講服佢,但真係好難 佢太自我,忠於自己思想,難攪!佢細個時,我曾經懷疑佢有果種「對抗症」,忘記咗個名。細時真係樣樣搞對抗架!
我c6比較不善言辭,唔夠阿仔牙尖嘴利,所以更加激爆,最終不歡而散。我擔心緊過幾年阿仔青春期會同c6打交
你仔再大啲,口齒伶俐啲,又有多啲自己思想,仲難攪!好彩你及早發現,做定訓練,希望情況好啲!

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小菜豆    發表於 20-4-15 12:13


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783#
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858D 發表於 20-4-14 11:15
我亦想我D女能修成正果。可惜,佢哋阿爸都冇一個正常男人嘅人生。佢硬係欠缺咗好多嘢咁,我又插唔到手喔。 ...

好似父親對女兒嘅影響冇咁大;仔就唔同,會以父親做Model!

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784#
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小菜豆 發表於 20-4-14 08:00
妳之前有講大仔同c6嘈交。想問大仔同c6有頂撞時,是否越演越烈?
呢幾日假期,我仔幾乎日日都激嬲c6,
仲要 ...

所以我成日講我屋企家無寧日
早兩日,我又糾正我仔D行為啦,話佢咁様做會影響人;佢同我講佢冇感覺,唔知咁會影響人.....無感覺其實都幾大鑊,做左D令人麻煩,吾舒服嘅嘢都唔知,完全好影響同人相處,繼而影響社交,人際,家庭關係


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785#
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小菜豆 發表於 20-4-14 11:28
暫時未搵到...我只覺得...C6情緒失控時好得人驚...失理性到殺人都似
阿仔癲起上黎唔係人咁...阿仔而家仲細. ...
完全想像到,因為家父都係咁。
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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786#
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小菜豆 發表於 20-4-14 11:32
感受到妳對女兒虧欠感
Thank you. 我知,呢種欠缺感會跟我成世。不斷克服,用平常心接受。

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小菜豆    發表於 20-4-15 12:37
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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787#
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gilgil39 發表於 20-4-14 22:32
好似父親對女兒嘅影響冇咁大;仔就唔同,會以父親做Model!
希望係咁啦。
我前夫總係不斷做我感遺憾嘅選擇。我好不容易先盼到唔使為生計而做嘢,唸著可以同D女一齊多D時間,照顧佢哋 起居飲食,佢哋容易D搵到機會同我親下感情。點知佢就偏要帶D女搬離我遠到開出都要16個鐘先到。佢個腦真係唔同我個腦。
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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788#
發表於 20-4-15 11:18 |只看該作者
本帖最後由 小菜豆 於 20-4-15 11:18 編輯
gilgil39 發表於 20-4-14 22:30
係喎!我仔對住c6係倔D喎!我成日話佢哋火星撞地球,根本兩個係一樣嘅人,咪零捨有火花囉!
當然我仔同我 ...

"有時都會講服佢,但真係好難 佢太自我,忠於自己思想"
Exactly same都唔洗等再大啲,而家已經好有自己思想。剛睇完BK文章,星爸陳錦鴻囝囝同區永權細囝都係咁,佢哋話訓練咗係好啲,而家冇咁自我,只係比較有個性。


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789#
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gilgil39 發表於 20-4-14 22:30
係喎!我仔對住c6係倔D喎!我成日話佢哋火星撞地球,根本兩個係一樣嘅人,咪零捨有火花囉!
當然我仔同我 ...
我二哥青少年時期就係妳形容妳阿仔咁,牙尖嘴利,駁到家父激爆,我同二哥瞓瞓下覺,我哋都聽到家父谷氣過頭話拎把刀來斬二哥。
而家二哥繼續 牙尖嘴利,搞到家父母話要推出我哋家嘅群組,唔聽二哥辯論。
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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gilgil39 發表於 20-4-14 23:05
所以我成日講我屋企家無寧日
早兩日,我又糾正我仔D行為啦,話佢咁様做會影響人;佢同我講佢冇感覺 ...
其實妳都好耐性,湊兩個仔,都肯擺時間係大仔自閉症issue到。我湊一個已經極限,身體免疫力差晒,以前病即刻睇醫生冇事,而家傷風感冒都變氣管敏感,幾個月至斷尾,舊年濕疹發作又搞半年,呢兩日又出風癩,應該嚴重缺乏休息所至。
我之前好天真以為從小好好訓練仔仔自理,到十零歲會可以變得好獨立唔洗24小時侍候,不過睇完大家分享,我真係諗多咗,睇怕佢讀完書搵錢都放唔到手。但我健康已經年年響起警號。


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791#
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858D 發表於 20-4-15 11:02
完全想像到,因為家父都係咁。
呢啲爸爸好難相處


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792#
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858D 發表於 20-4-15 11:25
我二哥青少年時期就係妳形容妳阿仔咁,牙尖嘴利,駁到家父激爆,我同二哥瞓瞓下覺,我哋都聽到家父谷氣過頭 ...
妳有冇向兩老解釋二哥係亞保,
不懂與人溝通?


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793#
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小菜豆 發表於 20-4-15 11:18
"有時都會講服佢,但真係好難 佢太自我,忠於自己思想"
Exactly same都唔洗等再大啲, ...

我都有睇佢兩個嘅文章,佢哋仔仔又係阿保?

你仔先3㱑,咁你唯有多啲灌輸正確思想,希望熏陶到佢。


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794#
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858D 發表於 20-4-15 11:25
我二哥青少年時期就係妳形容妳阿仔咁,牙尖嘴利,駁到家父激爆,我同二哥瞓瞓下覺,我哋都聽到家父谷氣過頭 ...

我都好驚有一日我家會有呢啲情況
你二哥又係阿保?


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795#
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小菜豆 發表於 20-4-15 11:29
其實妳都好耐性,湊兩個仔,都肯擺時間係大仔自閉症issue到。我湊一個已經極限,身體免疫力差晒,以前病即 ...

我唔係好有耐性,不過已經用盡左落佢哋度,而家有時都會體諒啊仔個腦出咗問題,唔係佢想嘅。但我仲未體諒到c6!
其實我係搞唔掂佢哋,已經超出我能力範圍;但唔正視阿仔個問題,越大就越冇得救;所以我先咁大壓力,咁唔開心,咁嬲c6佢幫唔到手⋯
我呢幾年身體又係差咗,傷風感冒都可以拖好耐,同你一樣又係氣管敏感同濕疹,都係呢幾年先有,以前後生係冇呢兩樣嘢㗎!
仲有身邊嘅朋友都冇我仔呢D case, 唔止冇得同朋友share, 仲成日俾人話我緊張,變相亦加重自己壓力。有時會覺得點解自己咁唔好彩



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796#
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小菜豆 發表於 20-4-15 11:29
其實妳都好耐性,湊兩個仔,都肯擺時間係大仔自閉症issue到。我湊一個已經極限,身體免疫力差晒,以前病即 ...

你仔仲細,依家開始訓練多啲自理,會好好多,好似之前個jm訓練三個仔都OK;我覺得我係訓練得唔夠,同埋遲咗㗎
不過细佬嘅自理係好過哥哥,先天問題冇計!


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797#
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本帖最後由 858D 於 20-4-16 00:13 編輯
gilgil39 發表於 20-4-15 21:43
我都好驚有一日我家會有呢啲情況
你二哥又係阿保?

我二哥人際關係 0係我家人中係搞得最好嗰個。可能係咁,我從來冇唸過分析佢係咪阿保。我唸細個時,佢唔知佢阿爸同細妹係阿保。家父D阿保症唔懂如何用話語來搞關係,所以冇同我哋傾乜嘢閒談。佢講樣樣嘢都好認真好正經,睇人言過於 obsessive。二哥想用閒談來搞好父子關係,點知越傾越大鑊。
我冇事,係因為唔知點解,一家人都錫曬我。可能我生出來就0係額頭上琢住『我係阿保,請保養好』個養0掛?!
我大嫂話畀我知 我大哥將D只可用心去記得嘅資料 都用我來記住。大嫂可見我係大哥心裏比老婆更上心。
我二嫂話畀我知,我二哥係唯獨我先會 行街,見到前面十尺遠地上有灘水,佢會即刻指畀我睇,叫我小心唔好踩到。如果換轉係二嫂,二哥彩二嫂都傻。二哥自己個女,一出世就會時不時哎錯個女嗰名,叫咗佢個妹我個名出來。

Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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798#
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gilgil39 發表於 20-4-15 22:09
我唔係好有耐性,不過已經用盡左落佢哋度,而家有時都會體諒啊仔個腦出咗問題,唔係佢想嘅。但我仲未體諒 ...
可能香港近年來空氣污染,飲食污染嚴重咗。又或者人大咗,身子漸漸地衰弱。我雖然係外國人口密度冇咁高嘅地方居住多年,但係發起病來都有氣管久久不癒嘅毛病,就係唔同係個嗰時。
人生不如意嘅事十有八九。妳已經好勇敢咁面對緊。但願此僅僅的分享能給你正面嘅支持!
好好為日後仔大個後,妳經濟上,情感上 同 生理需要上嘅獨立作準備。

Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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799#
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本帖最後由 858D 於 20-4-15 23:17 編輯
小菜豆 發表於 20-4-15 12:12
妳有冇向兩老解釋二哥係亞保,
不懂與人溝通?

冇吖。我淨係舊年向兩老解析過 我同大哥嗰細仔係阿保。目的係想兩老唔好成日針對大哥大嫂唔將仔教好,同埋唔好針對我前夫對佢哋個女我唔好。
二哥比較醒,佢成人後知道同家父講嘢唔可以來回超過十個回合。必要0係十個來回唇槍舌劍之內,二哥自己收聲。避免開片。 係家庭嘅群組,二哥係同我講,所以冇左忌憚。我開始時提二哥,而家疫戰時期,最危險嘅地方就係急診室。家父平時生活係「行街狗」一日唔出過街唔舒服嘅。而家為咗唔拖累我,佢哋日日閉戶不出。二哥拎事來討論可使家父腦部運動,不會老人癡呆,係好事;但係如果負面咁評論到家父人本身,搞到家父情緒激動引起身體不適要入急診室,到時送佢入急診室嗰位亦只有我一個,咁就係壞事。
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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800#
發表於 20-4-15 23:40 |只看該作者
本帖最後由 858D 於 20-4-15 23:59 編輯
小菜豆 發表於 20-4-15 12:09
呢啲爸爸好難相處

係吖,真係好難相處。連我係阿保都睇得出佢情緒負面,因為佢面紅到好似關公咁,身體語言會不停手舞足動,拎櫈來撇,自己思想極度活躍。就算佢所謂嘅叫做冷靜翻落來,沈默不語後,雖然唔係向人講話,但嘴都會不停咁 UP UP,頭不停擺動好似佢係度向萬人演講咁。
我回顧,我讀小學時都係有咁嘅習慣。記得樓上有JM講過佢嘅 阿保 仔嘅思想係唔停嘅,無時無刻都係唸緊嘢嘅。我就係咁。連瞓覺都會幾乎晚晚有夢發,我能用思想來控制個夢故事來發嘅。細個鍾意模仿D形式上有權威嘅人,和有阿保 嘅科學家 演講,言談舉止。但係分唔出現實中,佢哋嘅成功形象 唔係因為臺風或講嘢(我所指嘅 賣相),而係因為佢哋 天才同白癡相差嘅嗰一線。我係中學後開始慢慢模仿 黛安娜 嗰類女性人物嘅動靜舉止投足和言談嘅神情來改進自己嘅 賣相。好在我改到,咁多年後先吸引到我現任先生嘅一見鐘情。

以下係我先生寫的 回憶,佢第一次遇見我:

Flashback -- Seeing 858D for the First Time

I had been at my job for a little over one week when I first saw her. I was in a team meeting. The room was large with a conference table almost as large. People surrounded the table sitting in chair, standing along the walls and hanging in the doorway. I was sitting at the head of the table listening to my manager drone on on and about something. He started asking people questions. One of the questions was directed as 858D. I had not seen her before. She was sitting at the opposite side of the table off to the left. Her position left her hidden from my view by other co-workers. When it was her turn to speak the man sitting to her right rolled his chair back a little and I was able to see her for the first time.


I was immediately struck by her poise. She was sitting in her chair with perfect posture and her hands folded gracefully in her lap. Her dark hair was up in a very professional bun. Her blouse was shear but she was wearing a tight white shirt underneath. Her skirt was an ankle length, flowing summer skirt. All in all a proper lady. Pretty and attractive with hardly any skin visible. Graceful. My interest piqued immediately.


858D, with her slow grace, turned to face our manager and began to answer his question. I cannot recall the topic or what she said. I do strongly remember the sound of her voice. It was smooth, demur with an endearing accent. She was obviously not raised with English as her first language. As I listened to her voice, I studied her face. She has a lovely round face with high cheekbones, beautiful brown eyes and perfect pink lips. She is beautiful.



Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown

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