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Dear Nillie Mami,

很感謝您用心的回答!

想起上次到美國, 回香港的時候, 我是哭著走回來的...那感覺相當難受, 其實我是一個十分重感情的人, 尤其是親情, 因為小時候失去了父母親的愛, 現在學會珍惜身邊每一個人, 明白親情是無價寶, 只可惜, 可遇不可求, 在美國, 眼看媽媽和弟弟們為了一己私利而互相惡言傷害, 我感覺極心痛 - 心如刀割...所謂 " 清官難審家庭事"

其實我丈夫很有上進心, 他想到美國看看, 也想囡囡有多個選擇, 可在美國諗書, 今次, 如果4月份到美國, 要暫住我媽媽家, 是不可能的(繼父不同意 ), 而弟弟們也有他們的難處(要外家同意), 所以, 我現在急於四維找個落腳點,

Nillie, 謝謝您的諒解, 您很好, 您說: We are very welcome, many families once they landed in NYC, they will come to our house for a warming party. 您知嗎, 有您這句話, 已抵償了多日來的憂慮, 彼此空中結識, 您如此熱心助人, 想想要是能夠和您做朋友, 也可真是一種福氣!

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Lillianwong,
I don't know if I should suggest that.
You better have yourself or your husband comes a week before you guys come.. (one of you come to US first), as you need to rent a apartment and settle down. Before you bring your child over.
Find an apartment needs time, as you said, you don't have any where to stay.
Also, not many apartment will provide funitures for you. so, you need to go and shop. no car, don't know the transportation.. that will be a mess in the beginning.
You need to bear in mind.. if you sure want to come all together and thru all those process together with your lil daughter.
If that is the case. I would suggest you to book the hotel or service apartment online. or have your mother to rent a temporary apartment for you, which close to brooklyn, at least, you know this area (since you did come to NY before).
Where did you live last time?

Well, if I told you that my life here was hundred times worse than yours when I first landed... what do you think?
That is the reason I am here.. to help, to comfort others.
No need to say thanks to me.. I just wish that you would get help here today, and you would help others one day as well.. spread it out.. so, more people get help!
Many people came and left.. we didn't even know if they landed here well or not.. well.. hope we could keep in touch

原帖由 Lillianwong 於 10-1-27 11:56 AM 發表
Dear Nillie Mami,

很感謝您用心的回答!

想起上次到美國, 回香港的時候, 我是哭著走回來的...那感覺相當難受, 其實我是一個十分重感情的人, 尤其是親情, 因為小時候失去了父母親的愛, 現在學會珍惜身邊每一個人, ...

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回覆 1002# Nillie_Mami 的文章

Dear Nillie_Mami,

Hi...Nillie, I have an urgent question now. As I just found my MOM's Green card will be expired on early next month but unforturnately we just paid the trip to Malaysia & Singapore around mid of FEB, so is there any possibilities to re-new her green card in HK ?? Or any other suggestion ?? How about she don't renew your green card, can she still get it US even green card expire ?? Thanks a lot for your kind quick response

Regards,
Chrisdia

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發表於 10-1-28 19:12 |只看該作者

Dear Nillie,

Thank you very much.

I am now looking for a house which nereby my daughter's teacher in Binghamton, since I don't have any friends in USA.
Nillie, I have already got my SSC and GC. I really wish we do have a good start in USA. Thank you very much for your help!

Best regards,
Lillian

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發表於 10-1-28 19:30 |只看該作者

lilianwong,
家家有本難唸的經,冇錯...話香港人情紙咁薄,其實呢度情況都一樣,唔好話華人,其他人種都一樣,只係我地唔知,你講嘅情況我一d都唔陌生,實在有太多大同小異嘅個案,要講開幾個forum都要幾日幾夜先講得完...你d兄弟姊妹都結咗婚有自己頭家,好多時已經唔係你地自己一家人嘅事,唔好旨望自己人會幫你,要自己獨立先係上算,始終一句 - 長貧難顧,幾好嘅屋企人都好,你都要有一日自己出街返工買嘢,只要踏出第一步就會覺得其實都唔係太差~
真係唔好太心急買屋住,等經濟穩定咗先都唔遲,始終有cash在手係安全d,我人在國西岸,幫唔到你d咩~只係希望你到埗之後可以快d適應新環境~take care

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發表於 10-1-28 21:55 |只看該作者

You need to go to US Embassy in HK for this requiry.
Can you provide more information?
Did she live in US more than 6 months every year? if so, how long has she been leaving US this time? Who sponsor your mom to US?
Usually for medical reason, immigration will accept expired greencard as exceptional case. But if the reason is going travel, I couldn't tell. as I am not an immigration officer.

原帖由 chrisdia 於 10-1-28 03:01 AM 發表
Dear Nillie_Mami,

Hi...Nillie, I have an urgent question now. As I just found my MOM's Green card will be expired on early next month but unforturnately we just paid the trip to Malaysia & Singapore ...

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發表於 10-1-28 22:03 |只看該作者

回覆 1006# Nillie_Mami 的文章

Dear Nillie_Mami,

Thanks for your quick response, anyway, I just found some useful info from US consulate's website in HK, there seems we can do something & try to apply an extention of my MOM's green card, thanks in advance and I will let you know the update status if further assistance is needed, thanks!

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Chrisdia

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發表於 10-1-28 22:04 |只看該作者

agreed with with Rose-mag, I don't suggest you to buy house right now. you better keep th e cash with you. Rent a place will be easier and safe. You need to go and LOOK at that area, the neighborhood, who is your neighbor, you need to look into it. Buy a house is much easier than sale a house..! that is what we are facing right now.

原帖由 rose-mag 於 10-1-28 06:30 AM 發表
lilianwong,
家家有本難唸的經,冇錯...話香港人情紙咁薄,其實呢度情況都一樣,唔好話華人,其他人種都一樣,只係我地唔知,你講嘅情況我一d都唔陌生,實在有太多大同小異嘅個案,要講開幾個forum都要幾日幾夜先講得完...你 ...

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發表於 10-1-28 23:02 |只看該作者

Dear Nillie, Dear Rose Mag,

謝謝您們, 只要能得到您們寶貴的意見, 確實令本來憂慮的心放鬆了, 再次謝謝您!

其實, 我現時的心情就好似" 水泡" 咁, 浮吓浮吓... 六神無主...

Best regards,
Lillian

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發表於 10-1-29 11:09 |只看該作者

回覆 1006# Nillie_Mami 的文章

Dear Nillie_Mami,

I would like to advise you that the problem should be solve as I just called to US Customs office in HK who told me that eventhough the Green Card was expired (just expired), it is still valid to return to USA as the most point is return within 180 days (count from departured date), nothing has to do extra in this case.

Anyway, thanks for your kind assistance so far, thanks!

Regards,
Chrisdia

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發表於 10-1-29 22:07 |只看該作者

Lillianwong,
very welcome.
We just hope that you won't follow the step we had. To save your time and money!

At the meanwhile, relax.. do some searching..
Take more photo with friends and family, to save more memories. Even I came here because of marriage. I did not return to hk for the past 5 years, may be my case is wired.. for other moms.. they do go back for travel very often.
Also, once you have a job, it is not up to you to get vacation and go back.. so do more, tell your friends how much you care about them.
To use facebook, msn, phone sure be good way to maintain the relationship, however, it is not easy to keep them as good as previous without meeting in person.. (my life as some of bk mom here knew that.. is mess up)... I am in a blue.. hope that it won't spread to you like a flu.

April.. will be raining all day.. April shower.. that is what they said.. will be wet in that month in general. and weather will get warmer and nice after that.

原帖由 Lillianwong 於 10-1-28 10:02 AM 發表
Dear Nillie, Dear Rose Mag,

謝謝您們, 只要能得到您們寶貴的意見, 確實令本來憂慮的心放鬆了, 再次謝謝您!

其實, 我現時的心情就好似" 水泡" 咁, 浮吓浮吓... 六神無主...

Best regards,
Lillian ...

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發表於 10-1-29 22:09 |只看該作者

Chrisdia,
thankyou for that important information, so we would help others in the same situation, by suggest them contact US embassy and may comfort them by letting them know that.. problem can be fixed in HK.
Have fun on the trip!

原帖由 chrisdia 於 10-1-28 10:09 PM 發表
Dear Nillie_Mami,

I would like to advise you that the problem should be solve as I just called to US Customs office in HK who told me that eventhough the Green Card was expired (just expired), it is ...

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發表於 10-1-30 00:46 |只看該作者

Dear Nillie Mami,

Ha...Ha...
I am smiling and relax now when I got your message, so, no need to wait till April, I am feeling warmer, that is very kind of you. Thank you so much!

Best regards,
Lillian

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原帖由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-1-29 22:07 發表
Lillianwong,
very welcome.
We just hope that you won't follow the step we had. To save your time and money!

Nillie,
You are not the only one who have not gone back to HK for 5 years, one more here, ME! I will be married for 5 years in next month. The last time I went back to HK was in 2005 for a wedding banquet. After that, my hubby has tons of excuses not to go with me: you're pregnant, the son's too young to travel long haul, the daughter's too young to handle the travel, I need to apply for vacation 1 year prior (true for his company), the economy is not good, the airticket is too expensive, it is too hot there, the air pollution is so bad in HK...blah blah blah!
He said to me that why don't we plan it for the end of this year. But, my son is going to K next year and we should be busy to apply for schools and making school tours or attending assessment at that time. Then, next year the same thing for my daughter. I wonder when I can go back.
Luckily, my sister and my brother have visited me in the previous 1 or 2 year which make me feel less homesick. Just like you, I use facebook to connect with my friends in HK but not all of them are at FB. Some of them dare to join and still insist on using emails. And, I talk to my sister every 1 or 2 weeks.

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發表於 10-1-30 04:27 |只看該作者

Rose_mag,
I came here 7 years ago.. well.. since I had Amanda, for first 2 years, i was a stay home mom.. I did go back to hk for different reason..
Since I worked in Hospital.. then, I did not go back at all.. not even go to Canada..
If you ask me, do I miss HK.. I don't! home sick.. I don't.. however, I just feel tired.. for the pass 5 years.. I did not have a real vacation to take a break. 99 62 never helped. If my kids are sick, don't send them over.. they don't want any sick kid.. so I don't have much vacation time left.
PS open only 182 days a year.. for the rest, Amanda is off! so either I request day off, or pay for her day off at the day care.
I would rather pay the day care.. at least, my salary is high than the check to day care.
My husband is the same.. no vacation, difficult to apply, only 2 weeks time is not enough.. ticket is expensive, Amanda is at school, Gabriel never travelled that far, he doesn't want to take care of kids (17 hours) in flight, house in hk is so small (come on 1000 square feet is SMALL????? how big does he want?), air pollution badly---> that is truth, then we don't stay at my house, we can stay at Tai Po.. air fresh over there.
well.. thousand excure for him to choose not to go to Hong Kong.. not even go to Australia.. why I can't go back to melbourne, to see my kangaroo??

原帖由 rose-mag 於 10-1-29 12:43 PM 發表

Nillie,
You are not the only one who have not gone back to HK for 5 years, one more here, ME! I will be married for 5 years in next month. The last time I went back to HK was in 2005 for a wedding b ...

[ 本帖最後由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-1-29 15:30 編輯 ]

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原帖由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-1-30 04:27 發表
Rose_mag,
I came here 7 years ago.. well.. since I had Amanda, for first 2 years, i was a stay home mom.. I did go back to hk for different reason..
Since I worked in Hospital.. then, I did not go ba ...

I guess that men always have tons of excuses. In fact, my hubby is just lazy, he would rather stay home than going out. But, I miss my siblings and my friends in HK. They all ask to meet my kids in personal.

Agree with you, taking vacation is not easy, especially when there are so many school vacation. I may be a bit luckier than you. My parents always help out. They love kids, particularly their grandkids. When Spencer and Amanda are sick, they watch them for me when I cannot take days off. I think that it would be the similar case whereever we are in HK or in here.

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發表於 10-1-30 09:44 |只看該作者

yup.. our parents are our parents, not like parents in law.. whom doesn't have the same blood stream with us.
well.. my father changed Gabriel's dirty diaper, fed him, burp him, rock him to sleep.. When I was standing behind my father, rocking my son on the sofa.. that is so sweet, a little grand son, for our family.. extended family with the first boy.. my father loves him very much.. sure as much as all girls, however, for Chinese, sure that makes a little bit different.
If I live in HK, I would make sure that I have support, not just from my parents, even from all aunties and uncles.. I would only worry when I would see my children. That will be an opposite story.

However, here in NY.. I would rather 99,62 living at other states, I will feel better. However, someone whom lives 10 mins apart from you, will not help you to take care of your sick children, whom carried their Last name and blood.. tell the truth, that's disgust me. I learnt to pretend I got no body here.

原帖由 rose-mag 於 10-1-29 05:46 PM 發表

I guess that men always have tons of excuses. In fact, my hubby is just lazy, he would rather stay home than going out. But, I miss my siblings and my friends in HK. They all ask to meet my k ...

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發表於 10-1-31 00:14 |只看該作者

Dear Nillie Mami,

您好!

謝謝您們, 綜合了您們的意見及和我丈夫商量後, 如果我們 4 月份到美國定居, 暫時決定在 Brooklyn 租住屋先, 不會在Binghamton 買屋啦, 因為留番個錢傍身會好啲, 安全啲, 有可能隨時需要錢用呢, 就好似我囡囡話要繼續學琴...

Nillie, 聽您說是做護士, 可否請教您呢? 我丈夫想到美國前有個準備, 最近他上網看到 2 ave LMC 有間醫院請人, 如下: MEDICAL ASSISTANT
Assist Physician and Nurse in routine exams & care of patients. Will perform EKG?S, draw blood, process lab specimens and obtain vital signs, etc. REQUIREMENTS / EXPERIENCE: ·Medical Assistant Certificate required. ·Certificates in EKG and Phlebotomy required. ·1-2 years of Ambulatory Care experience preferred. Must be a graduate of an accredited Medical Assistant program

他說現時在香港醫院做了6年的工作大致上是相同的, 怎樣才可 apply 以上職位呢? 他說有香港醫院的醫療助理及工作證書, 到了美國, 不知承認否? 如果不承認, 在哪裡可進修呢? 我丈夫說如果在美國有了工作, 就是有了基本收入, 就可以在美國深造, 例如護士課程... 說真的, 他很有上進心, 作為妻子的我, 100 分支持他, 這幾年, 囡囡學興趣班, 學琴, 學繪畫...等, 全靠他一個, 好多時, 他在醫院工作要輪班, 時不時又要追更, 他都沒半點怨言, 最近這1年, 醫院有假放時, 他朋友要他來其開設的醫療公司幫忙, 他都會答應, 去幫手接病人出院, 照顧病人換症, 鼻胃飼, 沖涼, 換片...試過為了照顧一名生 cancer 的年輕臨終病者, 72小時都沒回過家...

Nillie, 我不想說啦, 總之, 他很辛苦...
到了美國, 所謂 "初到貴境, 人生路不熟", 真希望能得到您的指點就好了!

Best regards,
Lillian

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發表於 10-1-31 01:21 |只看該作者

Lillianwong,
As per the previous message I explained.. if you read carefully.

your husband can not go to work or apply job until he got all his license verified by CGFNS. he can do it now.. he does not need to wait until he arrived in NYC. He needs to go to Department of Education, and find the link to license department.
Get the application, submit all his licenses in HK (must in English). CGFNS and Application to DOE must submit at the same time.

If all license are verified as the same in US, he will just have some paper or computer test to get his registration.
If all license are not qualified as the same level in US, he will need to take those course again.
He will not eligible to apply that position in LMC, because he does not have working experience in US. Overseas experience in Medical field mostly won't count, same as mine in HK and Australia...
Well.. when I worked here on my first year, they treated me as new grad. very sad.

Touch wood if his license is not qualified. He needs to go back to school, any community college or any insitution will provide medical assistant course. That is the first step in medical profession for the majority.

When he applies for his first job (once he has his license), he has to ask the recuriter if that organization/ hositpal will offer continuing education. or tution reimbursement.
For me.. my organization is going to send me back to school this spring for my master degree for free.

原帖由 Lillianwong 於 10-1-30 11:14 AM 發表
Dear Nillie Mami,

您好!

謝謝您們, 綜合了您們的意見及和我丈夫商量後, 如果我們 4 月份到美國定居, 暫時決定在 Brooklyn 租住屋先, 不會在Binghamton 買屋啦, 因為留番個錢傍身會好啲, 安全啲, 有可能隨時需要錢 ...

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