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發表於 10-2-27 05:01 |只看該作者

I would say, you should enjoy this period of time, to stay with your family and friends in hk.
Take more pictures, eat all wonderful foods, and go shopping non-stop.
Once you landed.. you may face all the different things, and may I say... difficulties..
that makes you a little bit lost, sad, mad, distress, and disappoint.
And when you first landed, as you are new here, your spouse may work as usual, you will feel like that you are in a beautiful prison.
I could understand how much you look forward to come.. however, for those whom came here, many of them (i won't say all of them), do look forward to go back to hk for visit.
therefore, enjoy lives in hk..
so envy that you can eat good food, and shopping in nice weather everyday in winter.
me.. in 18 inch of snow.. blowing the snow for 3 hours this morning, in order to get my car out of the driveway to go to work with my 2 kids as no baby sitter can get to my house in this big snow storm and kids had no school..

原帖由 ellie79 於 10-2-26 03:36 PM 發表
唔該晒nillie~
唉...等到我變長頸鹿了~

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多謝你分享過來人既心得~
我都估到第日會有幾掛住我既屋企人&朋友~
所以而家我一有時間都陪下亞婆~
其實我知一D都唔容易...
一方面想快D同老公響埋一齊...
一方面唔捨得屋企人...
但係鬼叫自己鐘意嫁左比佢咩...都要架啦

反而自己唔會怕去到有咩困難...
又無對果度既人事物有期望...
香港咩都有...咩都玩過...幾好都有...
10MINS就去到旺角...幾爽~
去到都知係兩個世界...
只希望唔好太多煩野安然面對就好了~

唔洗envy我架喎~ 我都好鐘意食野...
香港D野係好食...所以我而家學晒自己鐘意食既野...
自己要識煮~~~ 哈哈~ 係材料可能無得買O即~
我本COOK BOOK已經好厚啦~

Shopping反而我就一般...呢一方面我好放心

我鐘意既野反而香港係貴...因為無咩OUTLET呀~

我最大既煩野就係將來要生小朋友...
因為我老公希望我過到去就想我生個出黎比佢玩...
人仔呀...唔係狗仔呀...教狗仔我都唔掂...點教個人仔~_~
佢就好放心咁覺得生到出黎就識教...
講就易囉...生到出黎POOP POOP要換片既咪又係我...

不過呢D都係人生必須既經歷...
我會做好心理準備去面對...

多謝晒你呀～

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發表於 10-2-28 00:23 |只看該作者

大家分享吓呢..
你問我有冇home sick, 坦白講... 冇!
因為由細到大, 我只有嫲嫲關心我, 喺被neglect嘅childhood 長大之下, 我好細個巳好獨立.. 97之後自己隻身去Melbourne 讀書 (半工讀).. 當時... 我知條路係要自己行出嚟.. 嫲嫲已死... 返唔返HK都冇意義..
HK對我嚟講.. 只係美食同購物天堂..
Friend.. 喺HK嘅少之又少...
但初到貴境, 人生路不熟, 有back up,仲要生&揍小朋友... 我只會希望, 你家人會support 你.. 老公要夠strong..
friendly suggestion.. 最好等你自己settle down, 外出完全獨立, 識渣車.. 之後至有BB..
also, 呢喥mami分佈好散, you may find someone lives close to you..
有需要就出聲... we are here to help

原帖由 ellie79 於 10-2-27 12:51 AM 發表
多謝你分享過來人既心得~
我都估到第日會有幾掛住我既屋企人&朋友~
所以而家我一有時間都陪下亞婆~
其實我知一D都唔容易...
一方面想快D同老公響埋一齊...
一方面唔捨得屋企人...
但係鬼叫自己鐘意嫁左比佢咩...都要 ...

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發表於 10-2-28 01:41 |只看該作者

唉...我家人會唔會SUPPORT我就真係唔知...
我走去嫁到咁遠...其實做左罪人咁...
亞媽都怪我話走就走...唔理屋企...
但係我都係一個女人...嫁左出去都無計架...
反而個仔(我細佬)咩都唔理又由得佢...
我響香港就係屋企既工人...大大小小都係我...
我都係想有番個自己既屋企...又唔得...又怪我...唉......
我由細到大都係亞婆帶大...同亞媽關系一般...
同番亞媽住都係呢幾年既事...即係我做左幾年工人...
真係唔易...重男輕女既亞媽...真係幾辛苦...
仲比個細佬睇少我話我老公都唔知養唔養到我...
話我去到咪又係寄人離下...做餐館咩咁...
由細到大都比人睇少...而家有得離開...
希望唔係一件壞事...

所以我就算唔捨得...都只係唔捨得亞婆...
佢年紀都唔細...78歲啦...上兩年仲心臟有事通波仔...
我好想好想快D生個BB比佢見下...
因為亞婆成日同我講BB好得意...好想玩...HAHA~
佢都係一個大細路...

我知去到新地方...咩都要重新黎過...
講就好易...所以都要一段時間識應...
希望事事順利啦~

我有咩唔明都會上黎搵你地傾下架啦~
多謝晒你呀~

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發表於 10-2-28 20:45 |只看該作者

ellie
我祝你幸福快樂... 你背影同我背影有啲相似...特別係"被HK家人/親友睇唔起"..
well... 嫁過嚟時..真係寄人籬下... 尤其係老公家人以為我貪慕"hui"榮... OMG.. 我澳洲有身份架...恨你張greencard把鬼咩??? 日日用有骨字眼嚟"加餸".
直到5年前... 我喺呢喥做返護士.. 佢哋睇住我人工升上去, 職位升上去, 99個樣至寬容啲... 而家係我養頭家, 返到屋企仲要做chore. 佢做99去邊喥揾個倒貼嘅親抱吖?
你老公一定要tough要strong, otherwise, 你未嫁已冇享過"做女的日子".. 嫁過嚟, 希望另一半會保護你.
我老公怕事... 所以我至更辛苦, 所謂....自己攞嚟... well.. 但at least, stay away from relatives in hk, 係唯一最快樂嘅事...
therefore, from beginning, 我已囑咐你... 你企穩腳至好有BB, otherwise好易產後抑鬱..
which state will you go?

原帖由 ellie79 於 10-2-27 12:41 PM 發表
唉...我家人會唔會SUPPORT我就真係唔知...
我走去嫁到咁遠...其實做左罪人咁...
亞媽都怪我話走就走...唔理屋企...
但係我都係一個女人...嫁左出去都無計架...
反而個仔(我細佬)咩都唔理又由得佢...
我響香港就係屋 ...

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發表於 10-3-1 00:32 |只看該作者

Nillie,
我都好希望樣樣野都簡簡單單就好了~
不過我有一樣野好既就係...我去到係唔洗對住我老公既屋企人...
因為佢自己20歲已經無再跟佢屋企...
佢Dad & Mom一早就離左婚...
佢Dad響美國做醫生...比好多壓力佢...Mo響加勒比海...
所以佢讀大學就已經離開屋企...好少番去...
跟住仲自己搬左去LA...入藉都唔洗靠佢Dad...
佢同佢屋企人都無咩緣...所以佢好明我既感受...
佢一個人搵錢...我估我地摼摼地都OK掛...
我自己就讀書唔多...響香港都係做個秘書仔...
所以我都無期望去到搵到野做...
如果到有一日我真係要出黎做野...我咩都肯做架...有手有腳唔會餓得死~ McDonald's咪McDonald's囉~ 怕咩~

我老公係一個大男人...好多野都叫我唔好擔心...佢會Handle...
只係我呢D香港人節奏...太快...佢就慢左DD...HAHA~ 有時都會MUN MUN地~
一樣我肯定既就係佢Tough + Strong X 1000000
一個人靠自己...無親人響身邊咁耐...都唔少野既~
我應該無嫁錯佢

產後抑鬱...not for me啦~
其實我9歲已經識take care BB...
因為當年我婆婆要同一時間照顧8個細路...
我9歲就要幫手照顧1, 3, 4歲3個Cousins...
一齊住一齊生活…正所謂三斤”咩”二斤就係我呢D~ HAHA~
不過我都知到時得我一個既時候就另一回事…
所以我更加要識自我調節…

我會去LA…你就響NY…一東一西呀~

原帖由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-2-28 20:45 發表
ellie
我祝你幸福快樂... 你背影同我背影有啲相似...特別係"被HK家人/親友睇唔起"..
well... 嫁過嚟時..真係寄人籬下... 尤其係老公家人以為我貪慕"hui"榮... OMG.. 我澳洲有身份架...恨你張greencard把鬼咩??? 日 ...

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發表於 10-3-2 00:05 |只看該作者

ellie,
I am so glad to read you message today.
So I could leave all worries away!
LA is better, at least the weather is better and also, more Chinese (hum... Hongie) there.
I like LA as well.. if I wanna travel to South East Asia or Australia.. that will be much closer for me.
Well.. travelling overseas is not my cup of tea this moment.. with a 3 years old and 6 years old.. however, I am looking forward to it.

原帖由 ellie79 於 10-2-28 11:32 AM 發表
Nillie,
我都好希望樣樣野都簡簡單單就好了~
不過我有一樣野好既就係...我去到係唔洗對住我老公既屋企人...
因為佢自己20歲已經無再跟佢屋企...
佢Dad & Mom一早就離左婚...
佢Dad響美國做醫生...比好多壓力佢...Mo ...

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發表於 10-3-2 13:53 |只看該作者

Nillie,
^_^V
雖然我未去過LA...我只係由老公口中知果邊天氣都唔錯...起碼無雪落...比香港好D仲無咁濕...太好了~ HAHA~

你有兩個小朋友...出國真係煩D...等佢地再大D咪得囉~
到時佢地識幫你攞行李TIM呀~ HAHA~

ANYWAY...好感恩響呢度識到你~

原帖由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-3-2 00:05 發表
ellie,
I am so glad to read you message today.
So I could leave all worries away!
LA is better, at least the weather is better and also, more Chinese (hum... Hongie) there.
I like LA as well.. if I w ...

[ 本帖最後由 ellie79 於 10-3-2 14:19 編輯 ]

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ellie,
我哋平水相逢, 只因老公係住美國... 呢個係緣份呀.
希望到你landed 之後, 你會再嚟BK 交流, 幫新嘅媽咪分憂, 同我哋一齊分享你嘅生活趣事..
揾到BK, 幫我醫好PPD, 令我從新做人, 揾返我嘅事業同尊嚴, 知道自己嘅存在價值.. 我都好感恩...當日扶我一把嘅BK 媽咪.. 佢哋走晒去"面書"呀!! haha
你如果嚟NY玩, 記得話我哋知.. 我哋可以同你哋出去玩呢..
我哋NY/NJ BK families 不定期攪gathering.. as 人人生2個... 我哋咪plan 2日1夜團... 成班自己人.. 好好玩..
我哋仲不停加新family 添... 大家都好鐘意..
LA都有唔少family, if you need help, please voice!

原帖由 ellie79 於 10-3-2 12:53 AM 發表
Nillie,
^_^V
雖然我未去過LA...我只係由老公口中知果邊天氣都唔錯...起碼無雪落...比香港好D仲無咁濕...太好了~ HAHA~

你有兩個小朋友...出國真係煩D...等佢地再大D咪得囉~
到時佢地識幫你攞行李TIM呀~ HAHA~

A ...

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發表於 10-3-3 13:13 |只看該作者

Nillie,

我一定會KEEP住響度~ 一定會!!!
e? 醫好PPD? 發生過咩事呀?

我估第日我落腳之後...
一定有機會去NY既! 我一定搵你架!

原帖由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-3-3 00:13 發表
ellie,
我哋平水相逢, 只因老公係住美國... 呢個係緣份呀.
希望到你landed 之後, 你會再嚟BK 交流, 幫新嘅媽咪分憂, 同我哋一齊分享你嘅生活趣事..
揾到BK, 幫我醫好PPD, 令我從新做人, 揾返我嘅事業同尊嚴, 知道自 ...

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發表於 10-3-4 03:27 |只看該作者

apartment problems

Dear Nillie,

Thanks for the info. Finally my husband and I moved to an apartment in Rego Park. The apartment has several problems:

1) A new bath tub is installed, but it is still surrounded by papers and its faucets are wrapped by plastic bags.

2) The sink pipe is leaking.

3) A set of closet doors in the kitchen are taken down.

4) The apartment is not clean before we move in.

5) Some of the hardwood floor is damaged.

The broker and we contacted the owner, but did not get any response from him. What can I do legally in this situation? Please let me know. Thanks.

原帖由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-2-23 06:10 發表
I checked the map.. that is the reason, it is cheaper. As it is on the right hand side of the SIE (staten island expressway)...
I would suggest that you may need to search somewhere again..
It is fo ...

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發表於 10-3-4 05:40 |只看該作者

Clay,
I would say, if you buy house here, you will face all this minor error, they don't do clean up here when you buy house like you did in HK.
you did what you had tried and those are what you can do.
If you really wanna file a complain to count, you can go to the "small amount" one.. which less that $5000 for the amount you wanna sue your land owner.
Rego Park is good.. I like there as well.
Well, we did all the clean up when We had our house, it took us almost a week to clean it up.
If those error you could do it on yourself, fix it by yourself, as you don't wanna take months for your land owner to come back for that, I don't think he will response.
They sold the house, and that's the end of the conversation.
If you want a lawyer. I will find for you. But, again, lawyer won't take it as they can't see any benefit to sue it for you. (I am sorry to say that)
Or wait about 3-4 weeks, when Spring break starts.. I may able to ask my husband if he would able and come to see your house. as he is very busy this period with our kids, all the after school activities at weekend.
Let me know if you want us to come and check your house.

原帖由 clay2008 於 10-3-3 02:27 PM 發表
Dear Nillie,

Thanks for the info. Finally my husband and I moved to an apartment in Rego Park. The apartment has several problems:

1) A new bath tub is installed, but it is still surrounded by pap ...

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ellie,
well.. a bad landing in US will cause a lot of trouble.. and I was one of those..
and those were history and I won't rather not to look back.. as to look forward, will make me feel better.. because my husband's all relatives still alive, and we have to face them.
Glad that we are not that close!
PPD... what will happen the worst.. as a mother can do to her new born?
recently, several cases occured in HK.. then you knew my situation.

原帖由 ellie79 於 10-3-3 12:13 AM 發表
Nillie,

我一定會KEEP住響度~ 一定會!!!
e? 醫好PPD? 發生過咩事呀?

我估第日我落腳之後...
一定有機會去NY既! 我一定搵你架!

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發表於 10-3-4 14:16 |只看該作者

請問香港中學會考証書等唔等於USA HIGH SCHOOL 學歷呢?

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Nillie,

明白...好多謝你以你既經歷去提點我...
分分鐘...自己屋企人都未必會咁明白自己...
Sorry for bring it up~ >_<
不過你而家無事就好了~ 望前就最好既方法...
我都係咁~

有D人...成日都覺得我好彩...死好命...嫁左個外國人...有得去美國生活...但係你睇我好...好多野只有自己先知...
佢地唔明白到呢條路一D都唔容易...
你估好似佢地咁...擔心個老公唔買LV比佢咩......

我08年4月同佢結婚...到而家差唔多兩年...
但係大家真正生活既日子都只不過得半年時間...
為左搵食...佢跟本唔可以留響香港...
迫於無奈要分開兩個地方...
佢上年先入藉(佢唔係因為我, 都唔會攪入藉)...一筆錢...今年年頭入紙申請我搵律師...又一筆...第日到我見官驗身又呢又路...又一筆...唉...識印銀紙都印唔切~_~"
有時我都覺得自己係佢既負擔...洗左佢都唔少錢...佢搵錢好辛苦架...佢大可以響美國搵個好女人...洗咩響香港同我結婚...我自己都覺得唔知點咁......

再有D人總係唯恐天下不亂...又響你面前晒命...
又話怕唔怕個老公搵第二個...睇唔住個老公...
我自己有段時間真係避開晒呢D人...
如果唔係我真係會癲...
未去到已經要面對所有人既眼...
又擔心唔批我去...又唔知要等幾多年...又要洗錢...
去到又另外一籮問題...
呢D野咪只係自己面對囉.........

呢D無形既壓力...真係唔想頂...
只好同自己講...唔怕唔怕唔怕~~~

原帖由 Nillie_Mami 於 10-3-4 08:38 發表
ellie,
well.. a bad landing in US will cause a lot of trouble.. and I was one of those..
and those were history and I won't rather not to look back.. as to look forward, will make me feel better.. be ...

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guess what.. from your picture.. I didn't expect you are so mature.
From the words here you wrote..
I know that you had gone thru a lot.. which not many of us experienced in their life..
Seems, you have a lot of relatives and friends whom had the same personality to my relatives and friends.
Again.. that is the reason we will meet here.. is "yuen fun".
Sure a good way just to ignore those people and trust your husband.. He is the one whom will stay with you for the rest of your life.
No matter what's happen.. give yourself the faith.. or chat with us and let us cheer you up.
Share your happiness with us even he just kisses you every morning with wake you up.
All those lil things count!
I understand how much money he has to spend on your application.. hee hee.. and he spent even more than my husband spent as Government loves $$$. they increase the fee almost everywhere.
wah.. then, you should save more money before you pregnant.. as baby will use up all your saving.. they are the money sucker... like a sponge.

原帖由 ellie79 於 10-3-4 08:40 AM 發表
Nillie,

明白...好多謝你以你既經歷去提點我...
分分鐘...自己屋企人都未必會咁明白自己...
Sorry for bring it up~ >_<
不過你而家無事就好了~ 望前就最好既方法...
我都係咁~

有D人...成日都覺得我好彩...死好 ...

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Can
for my understand.. HKCEE is equal to Grade 10
and High school finish by Grade 12.. which equal to HKAL.

原帖由 Can 於 10-3-4 01:16 AM 發表
請問香港中學會考証書等唔等於USA HIGH SCHOOL 學歷呢?

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原帖由 ellie79 於 10-3-4 21:40 發表
望前就最好既方法...我都係咁~
有D人...成日都覺得我好彩...死好 ...

Ellie,
我路過搭吓訕,我同你有少少相似,我嫁個ABC(我老公唔鍾意我咁叫佢,佢係喺呢度土生土長嘅中國人,不過中文真係有限公司),雖然係中國人,但佢生活習憤80%係美國人,初初我父母都有反對,因為佢識好少中文,同我父母溝通唔到幾多,其他親戚仲衰,問我做咩要搵個ABC唔講中文,係咪貪佢講英文,點解好似好趕住嫁咁,其實我識佢果陣我都三十幾啦,咁覺得啱我自己有咩問題~我老公果時已經過咗40,佢地話邊有男人咁大年紀都冇女朋友,一定係結過婚,或者有咩缺陷,佢又冇自已屋,仲同父母住一定有問題...總之咩都講得一餐,仲話佢地有大把好男仔介紹俾我,我老公知道咗不知幾嬲佢地,而家我d親戚成日同我媽講點解你個女婿成日黑口黑面,又唔識叫人,問我媽點解我唔教吓佢,心諗又唔見你教你d仔女叫人先,我係佢地果輩最大嘅,又唔見佢地見到人打招呼!你地之前講埋d咁嘅說話想我老公有咩反應~

最唔咩係我d表妹自已都係ABC都話點解唔搵個識講唐話嘅,佢地自己行埋都係講英文啦,我都唔知佢地咁講做咩~

而家反而有d姑姐羨慕我,話佢地d女婿唔做家務唔幫手湊仔,要我d表妹放工返嚟煮俾佢地食,換片餵奶咪駛旨意,我媽話佢地聽我老公負責洗衫倒垃圾,仲由細到大都幫手湊我地對仔女,d姑姐聽到流晒口水~

講咗好多廢話tim

我都係嚟咗6年,初初land識咗我老公之後我返去香港,我地日日通emails,一星期一至兩次電話真係幾辛苦,因為時差,加上老公份工返好早,佢8點就上床瞓,我份工又忙, weekend我又要上堂,我地只有好少時間可以傾計,過咗半年我決定辭工過嚟,2個月後我地決定結婚~最初過到嚟真係好唔慣,以前只有工搵我,嚟到呢度搵咗好耐都冇工,開始懷疑自己係咪嚟錯,但果陣好彩有我老公同父母細佬,我地家人好close,細佬叫我要多d出去,習慣自己去街搭車食嘢買嘢,睇多d電視報紙,唔好再成日計住d嘢兌港紙幾多,因為呢度係搵美金駛美金,成日計住只會令我更唔鍾意呢度,因為d物價好貴稅又重,總之一日一日開始習慣,而家唔係鍾意呢度,只係我知老公冇可能同我去香港生活,我適應能力強d,唯有我就佢~

nillie講得啱架,你最好settle down學埋揸車先生小朋友,你咁後生,唔似我果陣真係拿拿聲要生,因為唔想我老公因為要養仔女唔可以退休~

[ 本帖最後由 rose-mag 於 10-3-5 18:54 編輯 ]

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Ellie,
see.. hee hee.. Told you that moms are helpful here..
My husband growth up here.. he came when he was a little boy.
Well, my husband helps with the garbage, and do groceries shopping, and mostly he cooks dinner as well as when I got home, it usually be 6pm..

Rose-mag,
I like your husband as well.. and that is the different between Chinese-Chinese husband and ABC.. ^o^
let those relatives continue to jealous what you have.. and you worth to have your husband beside you and support you.

So, do I .. I met my husband on my 25, and my husband was 34 that time.. now, my husband is 44.. and I came here for 7 years lu..

原帖由 rose-mag 於 10-3-5 05:47 AM 發表

Ellie,
我路過搭吓訕,我同你有少少相似,我嫁個ABC(我老公唔鍾意我咁叫佢,佢係喺呢度土生土長嘅中國人,不過中文真係有限公司),雖然係中國人,但佢生活習憤80%係美國人,初初我父母都有反對,因為佢識好少中文,同我父母 ...

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