difference case... when we divorce, all his money in my account, we even make investment together during our first year after divorce, all in my name and at his own will. Later on, i get him back his portion as i don't need his money, but at my own will; for earning money ability, we have similar level of salary. his initial request is to take my older daughter, but i refuse. but even if he insist and need to take this to court, i am sure i can win, because at that time, my 1st daughter is only 6. Her primary caretaker is my mother, i have a very stable job in HK. He works in mainland. My mother was a retired primary school teacher, my father was a retired secondary school teacher. we have a very big apartment in HK Lsland, and my 1st daughter go to a school near where my mother live ... see, difference case with 樓主 la. My daughters are better off with me. he has no chance.
I did not emphasis i m happy or not, i just try to live a life than is "自在". and in fact, after i refuse him to get in my apartment, everything becomes easier, smoother ... so to me, less hard work, more energy and feel more relax (and to me, i think this is happy) My daughters less sickness (as my ex always 感冒 D囡被 infect) after his departure, my daughters become healthier ... and the benefit just goes on and on and on and on ...
it is really hard to explain if once is happy or not, it is a matter of perception, if you know what i mean.
Now, i can only say that if it was't him who did all the "harmful or hurtful" act years ago, i will not be as strong and as wise as i m now. I m thankful, not to him, but to "God" or "anyone from above" that give me that experience. and i also see this as my karma, and it is got now, after divorce, my karma with him is like debt pay off. even if before this life, i owe him anything, it is now settled and i do not have any relationship to him now. to me, i won't feel glad if bad things happened to him nor sad or jealous if any good things happened to him. to me, he is like a human being like you or anyone i may meet on the street.
I see things so clear now. To me, getting divorce is a better decision, but may not be the case for 樓主, as she said she still have feeling for her husband. But to me, i don't. So, i really support 樓主's decision. Being with her loved once is the most blessed things on earth.
one year after i divorce my ex-husband, i met another guy, who is both good to me and my daughters, who is still single without kid, and to my surprise, i get alone well with his family. This really to my surprise.
發表於 
喊了！
返回列表
