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hi veldasharpe!

Did you study in HK or UK? Did you play the drum set? I learned to play it for a semester, but it's too hard for me to coorndiate all my hands and feet! You must be very good at rhythm! I often played djembe (African drum) in music therapy sessions.

veldasharpe 寫道:
deebrown & AKW

I am actually a drummer in a band when I was in university. We have several public performances too!!!! However, now I have no time due to work + baby. But, sometimes, I still dreamt of playing the drums!!!

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doll,
囝囝好返d未呀? 出咗院未?

Harubi & layon,
你哋以前上邊個莊? 我都上過個細莊, 仲要係全女班莊! 喺bk撞返d舊朋友真係開心! 我最近都喺bk識到個讀過同一大學(hk)嘅媽咪, 雖然唔同年唔同系, 不過都好開心!!

reginang,
去上海玩得開心d!! 我都好掛住嗰度嘅小籠包~

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AKW,
Dont say that anatomy & psysiology is non-related. My husband is the best example for you to put them together. He has pain, but he doesnt know the pain is from muscle or internal organ. He went to doctor, it is not his part. He went to psysio but that doesnt well as well. He still suffer and I think music therapy may be the next choice especially if you can point out why the other 2 professional cannot cure him. However, I think it is not covered by our insurance plan!

To make him laugh, I think he will be more happy to attend Toastmaster every week as he loves to talk and the achievement he got from there. Telling joke doesnt really help him to release his stress.

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xother,
I'm sure I'll work one day, I won't be a fulltime forever! Yes, we need to study stuff like psychology and psychotherapy. The weirdest part is that we even have to study anatomy & psysiology!?! I know it helps us understand better bodily functions and learn medical terms, but it's a bit too much for non-science majors.

Husband is like a big kid! That's right! So just spoil your husband like you spoil your daughter! Make him laugh more everyday, which can help release some of his stress~

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發表於 06-12-12 08:19 |只看該作者

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Hi AKW:

I studied in HK. I started playing the drum set around year one during university and continued for at least five years. I love playing the drums and I had a band of my own (all girls) for two years. However, after graduating, it was very hard to continue playing music as life has become very busy for all of us.

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Hi yennie,

My husband's hometown is Kent. My parents in-law are still living in Tunbridge Wells. Are you anywhere near that???

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I'm in kent
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hi yennie
你住英國邊一part架 :lol:

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AKW
hi~

your bb so lovely,can walking or no now? :-P

AKW 寫道:

reginang,
去上海玩得開心d!! 我都好掛住嗰度嘅小籠包~

Hi shah

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發表於 06-12-12 13:05 |只看該作者

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yennie,
I am opposite from you. I never have any after school activities and my parent was so poor...they dont even have money to buy us toys. We just grap anything to be our toys. My favourite one is using the blanket to become Ms. HK and give flying kisses and speech! We never have maid and everything is mom as she is 24/7 with us!

May be the way we grow up, we look for something opposite. But I think only 1-2 activities are enough, not the way like you were young.

We only have super nanny once a week. Do you have it on daily basis? How many nanny you have in the show? We have few and I only like the fat one name "JoJo" I always miss it as it conflict with my chinese news. Do you realised some famillies are in States and some are in America? Or they only show it for American channel? Yes, the skills are the same on every show, but can you use it to your kids are the key.
I am not sure if we should be the boss as your kids may behave opposite. I didnt see Super Nanny behave as a boss, she just set the rules and have them to follow. Give reward or punish. Yes, your daughter is very young, you still have a long way to go.

Got to go as super nanny is on and I need to watch with my family.

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hi xother,
My relationship with in-laws is really good. They love me so as the whole family. Cultural shock? A bit at first, especially the food. But apart from that, nth really bothered me.

Both of my parents worked full time when I was little. We had a maid to look after me and my sister. We used to hv dance lessons on Monday, violin lessons on Tuesday after school, Music club practice on Wednesday after school, ballet on Saturday morning and drawing lessons in the afternoon. We were really busy. Was I happy? Yes I was. But we rarely see our parents. And now I grown up, I realised the lessons were not necessary. What still makes me say is, I remember when I get hurt, I cried for my maid but not my mum. I dod wanna spend more time with my mum. So now, I wanna spend more time with my kid(s) coz they grow so fast and I do not want to miss anything. I'll give them chance to learn new things and skills. I'll never force them . They will know, the chances are always their. If we don't have enough money, we will find ways to earn some. (e.g. I can work at home!) xother, we have different values, so...just do what you believe in.

I do watch Super Nanny...but my husband hate that show as he said the skills are always the same. I found it amusing in some ways coz some parents just lost control of their kids. I always believe that, we are the boss, kids need to do what they have been told. I know I am a bit arrogant but this is a sad show. Francesca is still young, maybe in the furture, I will need super nanny's help, who knows?What time is super nanny on in Canada? It's always 9 o'clock here. I don't think Francesca will watch super nanny with us when she is older as she will still go to bed at 7.

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....Both of my parents worked full time when I was little. We had a maid to look after me and my sister. We used to hv dance lessons on Monday, violin lessons on Tuesday after school, Music club practice on Wednesday after school, ballet on Saturday morning and drawing lessons in the afternoon. We were really busy. Was I happy? Yes I was. But we rarely see our parents. And now I grown up, I realised the lessons were not necessary. What still makes me say is, I remember when I get hurt, I cried for my maid but not my mum. I dod wanna spend more time with my mum. So now, I wanna spend more time with my kid(s) coz they grow so fast and I do not want to miss anything. I'll give them chance to learn new things and skills. I'll never force them . They will know, the chances are always their. If we don't have enough money, we will find ways to earn some. (e.g. I can work at home!).....

Yennie,
Hi!!
You have no idea how guilty I am after reading your post. In fact, my eyes & nose starts running already……:-( :-( :-( :cry: :cry: :cry: I was always quite sentimental, worst after giving birth to my little one…

This is one of biggest struggle/conflicts deep inside my heart of whether to quit my job and looking after our child by myself.
We both hate living with the maid. But of course, with the HK working hours and mortgage, it is easier to have one. We had to choose whether to have someone in the house helping out or put our child in Day care. The 2nd choice would be daily getting up real early to pack her staff drop her off to full day school / pick her up after work, starts cooking, washing, ironing, those never ending house work… ending up no time to play with her either. We choose the 1st choice and the maid drives you crazy most of the time.

Both our mothers were full time mom when we were little. We both enjoy coming home after school and telling our mom everything about what had happened during school. The feeling of security and love our mom gave us is irreplaceable.

Most of the time I feel very guilty not be brave enough to be a full time mom like our mom did. Because it also means we can’t live as comfortable as we are at the moment. The thoughts of need to ask for money from my husband are also unimaginable.

I questioned myself all the time are we being selfish?:evil:

I really admire you all who look after your child full time by yourself. This is the toughest/greatest job in the world!!

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發表於 06-12-12 15:23 |只看該作者

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AKW 寫道:
deebrown,
...Do you mean 賓賓 sing a lot on Sunday or they actually form professional live bands?

Local professional cover bands. Not those one on TV though. But 賓賓 also sing alot on Sunday as well

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發表於 06-12-12 23:13 |只看該作者

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hi girls,
haven't been here for awhile,how's everything going???
My hubby will be here in 12 days!!!So happy..But after that,i have to go back to AUS la....

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Sorry.And saw those posts talked about being a full time mum,honestly,all of us want to give our kids a good environment.I think it all comes back to us,if it's possbile,i will prefer to be a full time mum,coz those cares you give to your kids are more important than give them toys that they want.If the quality of life is enough for a family,then why not stay at home being your kids favorite?

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發表於 06-12-12 23:31 |只看該作者

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Hi xother,
I am so sorry that I made you feel guilty...I didn't mean that!

My husband and I have similar idea of how to raise our kids. We agree, he works, I look after our kids. So he always understand that if I need some money, he will give me (I don't spend much anyway.)

I am just 22. I was a student before we got married. I still want to do lots of things, have my own career. But I know I can't What I believe is, when our kids reach their teenage, I can start working full time. I will be 3X that's not too later for me to start a career. So...I chose to be a full time mum and enjoy being one.
Oh...Francesca is crying...talk to you later!

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發表於 06-12-13 00:19 |只看該作者

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yennie,
You mix up, I am not the one who feel guilty! Why should I? I like to work and I want to give the best thing to my kids. I want to send her to swimming class and golf class. All that required money.

My sister also work and I dont see anything missing from her 2 sons. When they were young, my mom drop them to daycare but she pick them up. She spend every weekend with them and she gave them shower at night regardless how tired she is. I always admire her can be working mom and keep close relationship with kids. Now the kids are older, they get up at the same time, then put them downstair to wait for school bus, after school send to tutor and pick them up. I like that idea as the kids will be busy during the day when you work and you can still listen to them when you come home.
Personally I want to do the same way. Put them to do something while I am working, then we can go home together and play.

If you watch super nanny, all these families are having a full time mom (or I guess with full time dad as they never show the parent has to work and live in a big house with lots of toys), do the moms have good relationship with kids? NO.

We need quality time with kids. I want to work and give a better environment to my kids. I want them to look good and able to learn something when they were young. I want to live in a bigger house, able to eat out, go travel and have a car to drive around. All these come with money.
I also dont want to put all the burden on my husband and I dont want to stuck at home without knowing what is going on outside.

Yes, it is normal for a working mom to think to be a full time mom, or reverse. But I think having a stable income is important to provide a better living for our future.

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xother,
Why did your husband go to psysiotherapy? Did he hurt his muscles or something?
I didn't mean to ask you to tell jokes to make him laugh.....I just thought every couple has their own special way to make each other laugh and giggle.

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veldasharpe,
Yes you're right, life with a little one is so busy. How old is your baby now?

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shah,
Your boy is very lovely too!! How old is he?
My son is 8 months old. He can pull himself up and walk along the furniture! He is very active, moving around all day long~

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AKW,
It is a long story of my husband. He was so lazy and not to do any exercise, so I sign him for a golf lesson 1hr/4lesson in SEP, then swimming class 45mins/8 lesson at the same time. I hope that can help me as i dont like to see a fat man next to me as well as health problem. FYI, he is not that fat, but a big tummy!

First he was very happy to attend all classes and we were with him all time. Golf finished and he said he has pain. It is fine as he never use those muscles and I didnt pay much attention for such small issue.

Middle of OCT, I found out I am pregnant and in the same time, he said his pain is getting serious!! He cannot sleep well and lift heavy stuff.

He even search on the internet to cure himself. You know when you first pregnant, you dont have appertize, he is similar to me at the same time! Then he said his stomach as acid reflex, FYI, he never has any stomach ache in his whole life, and now suddenly acid reflex just develop in few days.

it is on SAT, so he made the appointment on MON, on SUN night, he search the web again and he found out bigger problem. He said there is something broken inside in body (around the rib area) and it requires 45mins surgery!

MON, he went to see the doctor with all his doubts and have some stomach medicine but the doctor already said to him it is stress related to the 2nd baby.

He went back to work and discuss that with his colleague and they advice them to go for physio. Ok, I let me go if he just want to prove to me that it is not stress related. It is muscle injury. Yes, the physio said it is the muscle related from playing golf, need 2 more visit. He feels good after the first visit, after the 2nd visit, he said the pain change from left to right and need 1 more visit. Then the pain move from front to back, it is related to the spine now! He said it may related to swim as he was learning swimming at the same time. He has visit the physio for 6 times but the pain still there.

Then he went back to the doctor to reconfirm if there is internal organ problem. No, the doctor said NO as no symptom to indicate he has any lung or heart problem.

He still tempted to go to physio or even chiropractic as the insurance has cap the amount on each professional.

I told him many times it is stress related and tell him to take it easy. he said his company has a hotline for staff to seek for pyschologist, but when I tell him to call, he said how about we seek for marriage councelling first!

Now almost 2 months after golf, completely stop swimming, with all different massage cream, his pain still there. He is trying to change the chair at home as he said it doesnt give a good gesture while his company already provide him almost everything from foot rest, typing drawer, special keyboard to adjustable chair.

Do you think I need to seek for psychologist now?

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xother,
Wow, thanks for your detailed description! One thing I don't really understand is that why your husband refused to see a psychologist but wanted to see marriage counselor? If he thinks marriage counselor can help his physical problems, he should know that they are all related to stress and anxiety!?! His company is so nice! It even provides hotline for staff to talk to psychologists, he should make use of it!! If he is reluctant to call, will you be able to call the hotline for him?

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發表於 06-12-13 07:05 |只看該作者

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hi AKW,
Marriage councelor is just a joke as he doesnt like me bugging him so much. Later he said that hotline is for people have problems like debts, drugs, abuse...those issues. I dont know what exactly.

Do you think the pain he has is related to stress? Or the muscle injury can really last that long? And why the pain can move around?

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