I also find that most maids are not too nice to my son, no matter yan or bun. I always think it's because my son is not their kid!!!
My first yan liked my son very much because she only had a daughter and wanted a son very much (but she said she has tried many years to conceive!!!). This yan actually only wanted to take care of my son but not doing any housework!!!
My 2nd yan also liked my son but she didn't know how to take care of him because she didn't have kids herself! But she smiled at my son all the time and tried to play with him! She told me that she wanted her own kids very much and she wanted to go home to have babies!!!
My 3rd yan had 3 kids but she didn't like my son at all. I think she was so fed up with her own kids!! hahaha!!!
My 4th yan was single and she didn't like my son at all!!! Always showed her black face to him!!!
My 1st bun had 3 kids and also showed black face to my son when she was feeding him!!!
My 2nd bun was nice to my son and she had 3 kids!
My 3rd bun didn't want to take care of my son!!! When I asked her to feed him, she just sat on the floor holding the bowl!!! (short short day!!!)
My current bun is ok to my son and she has 3 kids, 1 boy who is 1 yr younger than my son! She told me that my boy is very lucky as he has mom and dad around him. (my maid and her husband both work overseas, they hire 2 maids at home to take care of their kids!!!)
Above 3 yrs old kids, already have their own mind or decision. For the maid speaking: They feel very hard to manage. So they just let they do what they want...
Is very bad, but more comfortable for them.