when amanda was born, my mother in law said she has backache, so she won't take care of me, I am alone in new york, I only eat over night cold rice, as we shared house with husband's brother family, they don't allow me to use the fridge, and kitchen, so my husband bought me a box of rice the night before and I eat it next day, some time, he did not have time to buy me food, I will eat 2 breads for the whole day for total 4 months since I get birth.. I breast fed amanda, although I know that my breast milk is not as high nutrition as formula, so I drink 16 glasses of water plus 7 table spoon of glucogon inside.. make the drinks sweet.
Now Amanda is 18 months, 16 teeth, 32 lbs, 86cm tall. she is absolutely perfect..
Now.. who dare to say that I am not a good mom even.. no one helps at all.
I know.. all my husbands' relatives thought that I want the green card so get married with my husband.. Hey hey Hey! I am an australian resident, graduated from University in Australia, who cares about your stupid green card.. if not because you "the mother in law" asked me to come over to new york... I come at all.. when you know that I carried a girl.. you said that you have backache.. ha ha.. such a good mother in law.
However, whom you love most now.. Amanda..
so.. don't blame Amanda hits you.. because you don't love/ didn't love her mother on the first hand.
For moms who 冇請陪月及工人都可以自己成功湊b o既經驗.......
Cheers up.. we can do it.. with all our hearts!
The pathway might be a thousand times harder and alone.. but remember.. I am here to say.. We can do it and never give up!
坐月.... I have never had it at all...
that 100days, I eat bread and over nigth cold rice only.. life here in new york.. is night mare.
but now, as we bought our own house, I can see.. a better future....
got got mama,
as you will have your mom to help, you will be alright.. Certainly, if you can afford to have someone to take care of you and your infant, that is good.
Then just have to pack up the changing room衣帽間,
get her a bed, a desk for reading or write letters.. bed side table, that's it.. also a small waldrobe..
certainly.. you need to talk with your husband. share your concern...
as other moms said, you are going to breastfed or bottlefed ?
me, breast fed, 15 times a day, change 15 times diapers before feed.. in the first month..
after bathing the baby.. it won't happen on the first few days.. until the dried belly button comes off.
just only basic care once to twice a day.. or after a big poop poop..
good to get someone to do the housework if you wanna get one, suggest get one before you give birth at June, need time to teach her to do things.. also if you are not satisfy with this maid, you still have time to find another..
For maid's bed, if you feel difficult to buy big one, can find one which can fold into half. save space.
In Ikea, they got all the great idea, and price is reasonable.. you can have a look online sin, then go ahead with your husband to buy thing.. exercise for you is important.
If you don't have a maid after your mother left.
1. housework... you will feel hard to manage the baby and housework
2. who goes to do groceries shop?
3. who cooks?
4. who does the laundry?
5. who does the dishes wash include baby's bottles, milk pump, pacifiers (if you give bb to use)?
If you are able to manage all of those without other helps, then you don't need to have a maid .
My case is almost the same as Nillie_Mami. I'm a full-time mom taking care of my bb alone wihtout any help from both of my parents and in-laws. My parents has to taking care of my sister's daughter in Canada, as my sister and brother-in-law have to work. My mother-in-law is a very self-fish person. She will spend the whole day playing Ma-joh rather than taking care of his grandson. She always said that she has backach and can not carry the baby for more than 5 min. But she can sit the whole day playing Ma-joh? I hired a local chinese domestic helper to cook and clean for me until present. So far is ok, after changing 4 differents maid. I paid $50hk/hr., 4hrs/day and 3 times per week. The 1st month after my bb was borned, I'd asked my maid to cook nutrious soup for me. If you don't have any idea of what to eat, just buy a book from the maternity shop - Ho Fa. I breastfed my boy until he was about 9 months old, than I switched to formula, because my breast milk's qauntity is not enough for him due to less rest time. Breastfeeding is the best for yr child and no bottles to wash afterwards. I usually eat leftover food for luch, dinner is always take-out order when it falls to my maid's off-days. My husband is always helping me out for daily chores like bathing the bb, washing dishes/bottles/ grocery etc. My boy's now 2yrs old, he's a happy and healthy baby. I'm now preparing to have a 2nd child. The main concern for you is ask yourself if you can prepare to deal with the pressure of the baby's physical and mental needs. The baby's cry is sometimes so overwhelming that made ones so mad that ones want to get rid of the baby. Do you prepare to wake up from every 1-2hrs. Diaper changing about 12 times per day. Eat overnight food etc. At first, I don't believe that I can do it by myself, but little by little, I got accustomed to the daily chores. Believing yourself!
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