Hi all, I was a full time mom before bb 11.5 months old. back to work later. now, he is almost 20 months old. I think he should attending more playgroups to prepare his kindergarten (one of the reason). And I believe this is the most cutiest moment, as I heard people said after he go to school, he will not that cute already. I wanna to be with him and see him growing, eventhough the part time now is not bad, but is it alright to let the part time bring him to the playgroups like 2/3 times per week? As the playgroup for his age now need someone to accompany... i of coz prefer mother/ father is the best people. I wish to quit the job and take care my bb ........till he is in K1 or K2 ?
really not easy to have conclusion...
I sometime think, does the bb at this age needs mother to be with him most of the time? .....
If you are financially capable and enjoy to be full time mom then go for it It is worth it as you get to see him and teach him new things all the time.
My child is 1.5 year now, he goes to playgroup twice a week, on the weekday my maid takes him there and on the weekend is either myself or my hubby. I definitely don't spend a lot of time with my kid, probably 3-4 hours per day (except on sunday where I am the maid :) , but I think is the quality of time, not quatity. My son is quite independent and not particularly attached to any member in the family (not even my maid who is with him 24 hours a day).
I am a working mother, but my job allows me to work from home so I am free to play with my son when I feel like a break
many thanks for your sharing. you're right. as being a full time mom is quite boring and easy to get mad if the bb is naughty.
financially, i can't think we can save money even both are working. so , if i don't work, my husband will work harder to find more money . heee , that' mean , either way seems can't save money for the time being.
the other concern is , don't know what job can i find after a yr / or two ,.....
anyhow, seem if u choose bb is the most most important, then everything has to be let go. ....
i really don't know how to choose, it is the same problem to me too.
i definitely love my baby, that's why i quited my job to be a full time mother. however, after 10 months, i found that it is not easy to be a full time mother. it requires endless work and never ending love, but sometimes i feel so confuse, i am not sure i am a qualitified full mother or not. i still think of my working life:earn money for myself, i don't need to wait for my husband after work, i have lots of friends,and most important, i have my own space and my own life. being a full time mother means i need to give up my life totally, at least at this stage.
sometimes i feel so lonely as no one can share what i feel and what i think, even my husband cannot. however, everytime when i see my baby, i feel so happy as she is so fond of me, she needs me every single minute, that makes me think at least someone in this world make me so important, thought it may not last long....as she grows up, she has her own life, what's left for me? i am not so sure.
however, at least at this stage, i decided not to think too much, just give my best to my beloved, my daughter. if some day i have an opportunity to go back to the working world, i will work again if i want to.
my advice to you is : just follow your heart. if you found yourself cannot leave your baby at home, than try your best to be a full time mother; if you really cannot stand stay at home all day, than back to work. this is your life, you have the right to choose what you want. of course, i understand it is difficult to choose, for i feel so confuse too.
For a working mum like me, I can't even find
too much time to spend with my daughter,
I have read some books, for kids that grow
up with full time parents, they have more
mature & kind character, do you want your
children to be one of these kids ?
Time is short, for the mothers those think
tsking with their kids will infact lost part of
their personality, I think that is wrong, as a
mother, whose pleasure is seeing our babies
growing, try to cease every minute to spend
with them, smell the every inch of theie cute
fatty body. That's the thing I want to do most
but never have the opportunity to do so.
If you have any confusion, why not talk to your
husband or the frineds you trust (better they have
kids also), gather their thoughts.
I have a friend that is a full time mom, she has
two perfect kids, the top student of the school,
gain good results on every outdoor games, play
piano....
That's sounds no bad, train your kids to strong &
kind.
many thanks for your response. your saying is very right. and i agree. and i believe your friend must put all her mind & effort on the kids......... really brilliant.
mother904,
thanks . don't give up, i will support u :mrgreen:
I would like to say only one thing. You always have chance to get a job and make some pocket money. But the time you spend with your kid is irreversible. The best person for your kid to grow up with is you!
Sometimes, the life of a full time mum is kind of boring but definitely is rewarding too!!!
It is worth it as you get to see him and teach him new things all the time. 
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