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我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

我女而家二歲半,非常惡兼野"盲",最慘係冇人驚,唔知點教好 :-( 好似頭先咁,我叫佢換左套衫訓教,佢死都唔肯,我地哄她件衫好靚有bear bear架,佢係都唔肯換,哄左好耐都唔肯換,我咪夾硬換左去,跟住佢就咸得好犀厲,係都要我比番件衫佢(之前果件),我話比佢聽果件著完出街好污漕,洗左去聽日再著過,總之我講乜都唔肯要換番之前件衫,跟住我老公哄佢,佢居然鬧爸爸:走開呀...我唔要你呀...衰人...,我話佢冇禮貌叫佢同爸爸say sorry,佢死都唔肯,我囉騰條打左佢几下(有D就住),佢又話唔like我地,我叫佢咁你走啦(開左門),佢就話要返E ma度(平時比E ma揍).....總之就cry得好勁兼好耐,cry到條氣都x住x住,我就哄佢等佢唔好咁x住條氣,搞左一大輪之

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發表於 04-5-23 06:17 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

小咪,

妳囡囡需要比d耐性教,同佢講完道理後,就算佢喊,兩公婆都要當聽唔到,行開當冇事,唔好理佢住,等佢冷靜下來便與她討論,要她知道喊不是代表什麼也可以得到;

父母亦不應講一些說話刺激小朋友,他們是有自尊心的~
如:與其他小朋友比較,叫他走及打.,等等
否則他們以為打是解決問題

就算大人當發脾氣時,任何說話也不能入耳,小朋友也需要靜下來,

大人也不要亂發脾氣,他們也會有樣學樣的,應作一個好榜樣

或者,有時間,父母帶小朋友一起去圖書館看書,互相溝通

你們也可到商務等書店購買有關書籍,好有幫助

皆因我也是

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發表於 04-5-23 11:44 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

我個女都係鐘意同d 大過佢既小朋友玩架！！小咪，吾好吾開心，老實講，雖然好多教育書都話吾好講／做負面野，eg：打/叫佢走，不過真係好難架！尤其係個女吾係我揍。我個方法係先打下手同鬧佢曳，話佢知我好嬲，的佢埋角落吾理佢亦吾准佢走開，約5分鐘度再走過去，摟住佢同佢講我好嬲，下次吾好曳要乖，其實媽咪係最錫佢，再睇情況同佢講道理。

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發表於 04-5-24 11:50 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

小咪,

我個情況同你一樣,個仔咩人都唔驚,咩事都喊一餐,話左咁就咁,攪到我地兩公婆都好掹掙,有時忍唔住都會打佢,但係佢都係唔驚,同佢講道理又唔聽,我都唔知係我個仔難教定係自己唔識做人呀媽,人地話三歲定八十,我都好驚而家唔教佢會越來越野蠻,真係唔知點做好.

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發表於 04-5-24 23:45 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

hohan:
咁你個仔有几大呀~~~聽人講讀左書之後會乖d,希望係真啦,

我呀媽見到我個女d脾氣咁臭,都話第日你實比佢激到流鼻血呀 :-( :-( :-(

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發表於 04-5-25 10:32 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

小咪,

我個仔3歲,已經讀左nursery成個幾學期,但係就越返越差,我諗都唔關學校事,只係我個仔太曳啦.

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發表於 04-5-25 14:06 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

我個仔同小咪個女的情況完全一樣，是否兩歲半的小朋友特別難教呢?好辛苦呀，有無妙法對付呢？

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發表於 04-5-25 15:21 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

I also use candycan's method, my son has attention problem and sometimes 好惡發脾氣, because he is having training from a private therapist, the therapist teach me some methods to handle his behaviours, something called "behavioural approach/modification". I saw the therapist using the technique to teach my son and he is really better with the therapist, and even go to say sorry to her after 發脾氣. But when I use the technique myself, the successful rate is only about 50%. I think children are really naughtier when with mother and better with others (e.g. teacher, therapist etc.).

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發表於 04-5-26 01:13 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

今日同我家姐傾電話,佢話我個女尋晚又發癲唔肯沖涼(發哂脾氣,大咸),沖完之後又要著番套污漕衫(擾讓左好耐),我家姐嬲起上黎由得佢著返d污漕衫,之後唔彩佢,隔左一陣佢知衰,走去撩番我家姐,又摸佢,又同e ma講:媽咪,唔好咁啦(e ma揍所以叫佢做媽咪),跟住今日我家姐話佢全日都几乖喎!!!
但我用呢個方法都唔work既,可能我唔夠堅持啦,同埋我又驚整整o下佢又會少少事就嬲,咁第時點同人相處呀.

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發表於 04-5-26 01:22 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

cheukfung:
講o下你個仔點曳法,大家交流o下點教至work,其實我睇過d兒童EQ書佢地話2歲半係最難搞既年齡,到在3歲就開始會乖d,但當佢一曳起上黎,睇几多都冇用呀,唔知你有冇同感呢

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發表於 04-5-26 01:59 |只看該作者

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Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

Every child is born to be different. Some are mild, some are hot tempered. If a child has problem behavior, of course the parents have problem (or headache) too. I think it is more constructive to share how we raise our kids than telling the parent point-blanc she is not doing the right job!

hohan,
Sometimes my son also refuses to go to school (he always goes in the end, he just nags). I think (a) he gets used to the school & therefore doesn't find it exciting; (b) maybe something bothers him in the school that needs resolution (talk to his teacher to find out why). In any case, stay firm that he must go to school & wish him a good day.

For 3yo children, u can 講道理 with them. Calm yourself down, speak firmly, explain clearly, set his expectation, then do it. I took my son to Sunday school. He didn't understand cantonese, so it's quite hard for him to be alone with the others. Instead of sneaking out, we told him we would be leaving but would pick him up after the school finished. He had no problem & wouldn't cry seeing us go.

I am pregnant & can't carry him. I explained carrying him would hurt mummy & the baby, so he obliged. Though he might forget when he was tired, I reminded him & then he would walk by himself. You saw my son grew up. He is definitely not an easy one to deal with. But I now see the payback after practising my parenting skills in 3 yrs! Don't give up!

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發表於 04-5-26 12:50 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

唔想寫~~懶

睇吓幫唔幫到妳哋？我果時睇本[不打不駡教孩子]當然唔會"不打不罵"只參考啫！
http://www.baby-kingdom.com/modules/newbb/viewtopic.php?topic_id=150287&forum=17#1792779

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Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

小朋友係大人的影子..你先看看自己吧~
請別見怪我這樣說

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Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

小咪,

我又黎搭咀!

老實說,就算我阿b大過你阿女d,都肯定唔夠佢講呀!你講個d情況係阿b未夠2歲時已經出現左,個時佢樣樣同我相反, 但我地公婆就會企硬 (我地係唔會一個忠一個奸), 因為如果佢做得好就自然會比人讚架啦, 如果佢係錯,就邊個睇件事都係錯!

所以我見到你比佢著番件dirty 衫之後仲去哄番佢, 呢個就係你o既敗筆,咁佢就一定會變本加厲! 如果我係你,首先我一定唔會比番件衫佢著, 由佢喊照舊比件新佢著,如果佢唔著就由佢 (而家咁熱,無問題). 耐就再叫佢著番件新o既,如果佢仲唔肯,繼續由佢唔著囉!你個女咁醒(我講真架,上次佢去mac 仔答佢e ma笑到我肚痛呀 !),你估佢唔知無衫著係醜怪架!

總之你真係要記住小朋友一過左3-4歲, d 行為真係無得改架喇! 而家自己做得緊d,張來你就有好日子過啦 !

希望你唔好介意我講以上說話啦!

多謝am 幫我搵個好英o既buzz 呀! 特此鳴謝!!!

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發表於 04-5-26 16:15 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

貓BB

妳講得好正確

其實BB歲半左右至2歲半3歲左右係最頭痛，亦係最要教時候。我上年圖書館借書同返保母班，睇完書自己再想法去教佢先勉強可度過，而家3歲多啲又另一階段。真係要不斷吸收知識同諗法子架！我倆公婆冇乜分忠奸，睇番情况教；當然好少兩個去打只一個鬧時另一個亦唔會攬佢，係小小教訓話而不作聲後喊完先再教訓。唔會又錫又攬囉！我女係咪好惨呀？^0^有人話佢好惨(我哋唔係一忠一奸嘛)

總之而家縱、就佢、唔教將來妳自已受番曬！仲人見人憎！！只一句：為佢好狠心啲都要。

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發表於 04-5-26 22:04 |只看該作者

Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

唉...
講起惡...我個囡2歲半~
出街d人想摸下佢,未摸到佢已經鬧人喇~
見到陌生人,人地叫佢叫"姨姨或叔叔"佢唔叫咪算law!又係鬧人~
d人叫我打下或佢話下佢wo!
佢好細已經係咁...我都唔知點好喇!!
呢排仲衰,一唔鍾意就打人,仲話"唔理你ar!"
我都冇打佢ga!
都唔明佢點解要打人~
~.~
有時同佢出街好失禮,人地望實佢佢都唔鍾意咁鬧人ga!

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Re: 我個女好惡,好野"盲"又成日發脾氣,點教好...

PinPin,你個情況同我個囡囡都差唔多喎,係唔係真係TERRIBLE 2呢~~~
我個囡現在二歲二個月,經常哭鬥又發脾氣,有時真係激到自已想一拳打暈佢,要難教,特別佢爸爸係家時,脾氣很易發出來,但獨單時,佢會好乖好聽我話.
現在佢一哭我會數三聲叫佢收聲,三聲唔收就放佢去露台到或者房間.跟住叫佢唔哭,等佢唔哭先比佢入返來.如是佢就唔會哭,仲要乖聽我話.
唔知咁樣好唔好,有沒有其他方法會好D ??

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