BB only needs my maid and husband. She refused me to feed her even my maid is on holiday. She does not drink milk until my maid comes back home. I'm a bit worried if my maid resigns, I really don't know what to do.
Last night, I was extremely upset and couldn't sleep well. It's because my baby cried when my maid was trying to feed her. Then, my husband and I made funny faces to cheer her up. I pretended to "hit" my husband to make her laugh. All in a sudden, she cried loudly and couldn't stop. We told her that we were just playing, it's not true. Then, she stopped crying. My husband pretended to hit me but this time, she laughed. I was very upset.
After she finished the milk, I carried her and told her again I didn't hit her daddy. However, she cried loudly again and refused my carry. My maid then pampered her and made her facing me. However, the baby turned her face to my maid's body, just wanted to escape from watching me. No matter what I said to her, she still moved her head somewhere else. I was really hurt.
What have I done wrong? I care about her all the times. I worried about her when she was sick. I rush home everyday after my work. I carry 6 cans of milk powder and two bags of diapers by myself all the times.
Why does she do this to me? Why didn't I get her love? :cry: :cry: :cry:
I understand my time spent on her is not as much as my maid... so she would tend to attach to my maid.
However, 好明顯係我同BB一齊o既時間會多過我老公囉. Does it mean that we don't have "緣"?
I don't mean that I paid the milk powder/diapers $$$. I just mean I have done lots of things for BB but still got the negative outcome.
波子媽
You should know that it's not easy for me to carry 晴晴 since she was inside my body. We have strived for a year together but she doesn't recognised it. I really feel hurt....
Me too, 一有時間, 我都會湊and陪多d BB, even when I was very tired.....
My mum comes to my house almost every other day. About a month ago, my baby started to cry and refuse being carried by my mum. We guessed that may be the baby has bad experience related with her, or her voice was too loud/rude or the baby couldn't recognize her face.....
Anyway, I showed my mum's picture (taken when she was carrying my baby) in the house and asked my maid to make the baby face the pic from time to time. I've also asked my mum to talk to my baby softly (as he could hear the tone but not the content of what she said). Now the situation is much improved and my baby doens't cry when my mum carries him. You may also try to use this method. After all, spend more and more time / patience with the baby is a must. In the long run, the baby will know who is taking care of her and concerned about her.
Does she slept in your bedroom every night?
If she wake up at night, will you accompany her until she felt asleep again?
I am also a working mum and left my bb to my mother at working hours, but my bb loves me much more than others. I bring her back to my home almost everynight, feed and play with her, even she wake up quite often everynite, I will hold her at my arm and let her sleep.
Then bring her to playgroup every sat. (with my husband)
Now my bb is 13 months old and I think it's worthwhile to be so tired everyday, try your best to play exciting game with her, move her up and down, turn around, etc. make her laugh and she loves you
Kisses her more and talk to her softly, told her mama loves you very much
I also think quality is more important than quantity when it comes to spending time with BB. I work too and my BB likes me most among all the people. BB's grandma takes care of him everyday but whenever I have to leave BB with grandma, he would start crying.
I have been singing to BB, playing interesting games with him and all since he was born. Our affection for each other has grown bit by bit every day. BB also likes our maid. I guess it's because she plays fun things with him, whereas grandma only forces him to look at reading/picture cards and talks loudly, sometimes rather rudely, to him. Although grandma loves BB very very much, he still doesn't like her all that much.
My father sees BB about once or twice a week, but BB loves playing with him a lot. My mom sees BB about the same amount of time as my father, but BB doesn't respond to her much and would actually cry whenever my mother try to touch him in the past. But that had changed a bit after the day my mother held BB in her arms and started kissing him non-stop. BB still prefers my father now though because he is a lot more fun.
My point is, try to do some fun things with your BB and spend some quality time with her. She will love you as much as you love her someday. Just be patient.
Try to do everything with her, like reading books, singing, playing toys and teaching her everything that babies should learn, etc..., I always try to bath my baby and feed her myself although I feel very tired after coming home from work, I feel that we can be very close. When I am feeding her or giving her a bath, I always try to make her understand that I am her Mum and I love her. When I go to work, she stays with my mum, but when I come home, she wants only me, she loves me a lot.
Try to show her how much you love her as often as possible and I am sure she will undertand when she grows older.
BB cannot clarify who's her mom & just know the one or two person always look after her. Just like my case, my mother-in-law looks after her & I just see her once at weekdays. I pick my BB back home on every Friday night. My BB will cry & trend to her grandma when I pick her. I really feel jealous about that. But when we back home, I will spend all my time with her.
So I believe you must spend much time with your BB & let her know how much you love her. She's still a little one & does not know who pay for the milk powder etc. Money is not valuable for her & she just needs LOVE at her age.
If you feel your '緣' is not enough then you must pay much effort to change your relationship. So don't be too upset. I trust you can improve that.
dorchiu 寫道:
So I believe you must spend much time with your BB & let her know how much you love her. She's still a little one & does not know who pay for the milk powder etc. Money is not valuable for her & she just needs LOVE at her age.
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