Sorry I don't know how to write chinese.
my husband is meeting single girls behind my back..this is the 2nd time!!1st time the girl came to my work and followed me home and put a used condom in my bag while travelling on the bus...I didn't know he was having an affair! until the girl phoned me...This 2nd time I found out accidentally...he denies meet the girl but the girl has photos and evidence. The girl did not know he was married ,she was nice and said I should not to trust him anymore.
I have a baby 3yrs... should I leave him ,will he do it again he stills treats me well but do I have to wait until he treats me badly...very confused...why he has to lie to me...please give me advice I don't know what to do I am31yrs :cry:
It's not that I don't want to forgive him but what if he does it again by that time baby and I will be a few years older....I give him a chance ..who give me achance...it seems such a gamble.
I am a new member and so happen see your message while browing the web page. Divorce should be the last step to take, especially in view of your 3 years old kid. Of course, lying is not right in the first place. But if your husband has the commitment to make up for it, you can give him a chance. You can think about whether he treat you good in the past, and also observe whether he treat you good enough in the future. Don't give up so quickly when the situation may not be so bad. If you really decide to divorce, who knows whether your next husband is good or not. May be he's even worse. Remember nobody in this world is perfect. Going divorce is even a greater gamble!! Think a bit more. Just share my experience....hope this helps.
i don't think he is worth it I think I can live quite happy with baby...many of my friends think I deserve better...to be totally honest I have scarifice quite a lot for him..my career ,time and friendship...I always put him before everything else always and all I get is cheating and lying 2times in 6yrs marriage..what happens 10yrs 15yrs down the line.....I may not even want to get involved with another guy......but this husband is obviously not satisfed with me, gamble yes the probability of him lying again is high.. more than 50% chance a new guy will also be 50:50 but he has no past history...Yes he has been nice to me in the past but who knows his probably nice to all the girls, nice to me is no good If he keeps cheating behind my back.....pretending to be nice to me....he probably thinks I'm stupid or dumb...he probably think he can do the same to me the next time ...
also every time I see him makes me angry and want to vomit...he still thinks he has done nothing wrong ..the girl said to me he tried to kiss her...I don't think she made it up but of course he denies it...surely one chance the first time round is more than enough?? I always thought a relationship is built on trust not mere pretence that he is treating me nice so I should turn a blind eye to everything else......like a rapist being nice to you.....no one is perfect sure... I'm not perfect but I didn't lie to him or look for excitment when I found him boring....the future with him is bleak...I don't trust this guy..I don't know when he is lying...thanks nice but you don't know the what I have been through ...the first time the girl followed me to work and threaten my life the second girl was nicer ....feel very unsafe with him. cry: :evil:
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