Do your husband give your 99 living expense monthly? If yes, how much? Do you live with your 99?
She said: you倆公婆同bb聽乞食靠綜綬
i.e. include her son, not only you. There must some story inside ...........
From my experience, it is impossible to change your 99. Therefore, I change myself.
No hope, no disappointment.
Now, I don't care what she said and what she do.
I won't live under her 'shadow'!
She is totally outside my life.
I would let them to visit my kids. It is because I want my kids know how to love others, not hate others.
Sometimes my 99 waits outside around my son's kindergarten.
However, she does not love my kids. What she do is to show to her son (my husband) that she loves our kids. Everytime, after visit my son in the kindergarten, he will call my husband at night and tell him that she visited our son............ (may be she thinks that my husband gives her living expense monthly, she should do something in front of my husband)
Why I feel that my 99 don't love my kids? It is because until now, she never say one 'good or possitive' word to my kids, such as he is handson, lovely, smart,Q....never!
And one time, we ate outside. My 99's friend sit in the next table. She (her friend) said ' Is he your grandson? He is so smart. My 99 show her angry face immediately.
Now, my son tell me that he don't like his grandmother. I ask him what's the reason. He tell me that it is because she don't like him (he feel by himself).
I also believed that 我做不到 in the begining.
But after I have kids, I can do that.
I find that live happly, and keep a good relationship with my husband .............then my 99 can't do anything to harm us! She can't make me angry anymore.